Feeling lost

Melmci
Community Member
Hi everyone, I need advice on how to cope recovering from a breakdown, because of my anxiety and depression I didn’t leave the house for 7 months and now I’m recovering but I’ve moved to a new state. While I’m coping better than I was, I can leave the house etc but in the process of the breakdown I lost my car and what feels like my life with my job etc. I feel so incredibly lost that I’m not sure how to even start my life again, has anyone else been in the same position? How am I supposed to go back to work again or do anything? I’m so bored without a job but I feel like that’s such a huge step again. I feel like I’ve lost my purpose and my person and no one in my life understands this hopeful feeling. I just don’t know where to go for advice
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Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Melmci~

Welcome here to the Forum. I'm sure many will understand your position. One can loose so much due to depression and anxiety and it can be very hard to get back to ordinary life, even when the illness improves.

The fact you were able to move state, and can now get out of the house, are major victories. I'd imagine those steps will help give you the confidence to go further.

I don't know the circumstances under which you lost your car, or how easy it will be for you to get another -or even in your current circumstances if one is necessary. I can say a little about work.

I was invalided out of my occupation with PTSD, anxiety and bouts of depression. The loss of my job, and a very large part of my identity and structure in life was in itself pretty devastating. An extra burden to cope with.

I eased back into life by doing a course of study, not straight away, but when able. This took time, but allowed me a new identity - student, and a new purpose and occupation - study. It got me out of the house and interacting with others, slowly at first but I got there. This in turn lead on to other things.

Now I'm not suggesting this is the path you should take, it suited me, but probably would not for most. What I am saying is that easing back in, getting a structure and identity, with human iteraction, can be done without to much pressure.

One thing that comes to mind straight away is volunteering; anything from Red Cross or Animal Shelter to local Museum. The start of anything is very taxing, but things do quickly get easier, particularly if the people there are welcoming. A sense of pride and accomplishment can quickly follow.

Do you have support? By this I mean both medical, with maybe a GP and psych, and also any family or freinds?

I hope you come back and talk some more, it is very difficult when isolated.

Croix