Feeling hopeless

[mackayandchill]

Hi everyone, first time ever posting on this forum.

This feels weird to do because I don't like sharing my problems with other people, but at least it's anonymous.

Basically, I've been feeling hopeless. All I want to do is get out of the present, and into the future, but I don't know what I'm going to do once I get out of high school. The last thing I want to do is work behind a desk all day, because I could never see myself fitting in there. Problem is, I don't know if I have enough money or talent for what I really want to do. So the future looks bleak, and the present is just as bad. I have little to no social life (despite my best efforts), no commitments to anyone or anything outside of family, and grades are pretty average. It's a horrible feeling to know that you are destined to fail, and that it won't get any better when you leave school.

Thanks for reading

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

It isnt for everyone but when I was 17yo after finishing year 10 I joined the Air Force. I had- good adult wages, cheap accommodation and meals, friends, travel, adventure and a career of my choice from many. It ticked all the boxes.

However, in my case the wheels fell off after 3 years through some immaturity on my part and poor choices so I left and through that background found it easy to get work in security, ranger work and eventually investigations. One step led to another.

The problem for many people is a lack of a passion. Some people have a passion of a career like medicine or law enforcement, others have their passion in hobbies or sports. A lack of a passion is a real issue because you cant force people to get one, a passion comes from within that person alone. However you can give that some thought- eg think about what you have been good at or liked when younger. In my case I liked building model airplanes and radio control ones too, so the ir Force was a natural choice.

Friendships- all you can do is keep trying but not too hard. Join clubs or sports (I played volleyball) and you dont have to be an athlete. Some of u never get into groups of friends, we only need one or two close friends to satisfy us.

Get a dog, preferably a cute small one. We have a mini foxy. You meet a lot of people that stop and love your dog, it starts up conversation. Besides, it does help with loneliness.

I hope I've been of some help. Keep your options open.

TonyWK

[Brof]

You're not alone on that one. I am about to start my last year of high school and want to leave the country to study overseas but i struggle with money and lack of support. It is a scary thing to think about what is going to happen after high school is finished, but there are definitely different options for you. There are so many more careers you could be destined to that don't include a 9-5 desk job. Find something that you have a passion for and something you could see yourself pursing as a career.

Having that passion and drive will definitely help with achieving a goal, setting up goals each week for yourself to achieve towards your 'ideal future'. This helps with the feeling of hopelessness and the 'not getting anything done' feeling.

As for the social life, I am the same I am homeschooled so it's harder to make connections and the added anxiety about meeting people makes it even harder. But don't fear that! I have met a lot of online friends through different interests however this everyone's cup of tea. Getting out of the school or home environment, getting involved in different activities whether that be a sport or even going to the gym. Having a job or volunteering somewhere you tend to make more connections than expected, that helps the social aspect but honestly you only need one or two good friends to keep you happy, friendship groups can be toxic.

Just know you are not a failure, you have made it so far and have many more experiences to look forward to:)