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Feeling helpless

KTOCD
Community Member

Hi,

just looking for some friendly advice and company. I've hit a low point and can't seem find anything positive in my day. I feel really helpless and like I'm drowning. I've started to drink more to try to cope. I don't understand why life has to be so hard. What did I do wrong to deserve this? I'm really stuck in a hole. I'm already on the maximum of medication and I'm not getting much from psychology sessions.

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Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
hello there lovely i'm so sorry to hear ur feeling so empty right now I'm venessa and am more than happy to keep you company. Tell what u do enjoy doing ! I would like to get to know you a little better xx 🙂 and what's happening in your life atm that's making you feel overwhelmed in ur own thoughts. I am sorry ur not getting much from your psychologist it may be a matter that u need to find another? or r u linked into a psychiatrist at all - if not i would go back to ur gp and see if u can get a referral to see one. here to help you always Venessa xx please do keep in touch you don't have to face these dark times alone

KTOCD
Community Member

Thanks Fairywings. feeling a bit better this morning but still not well. Maybe a trip to the gp is in order.

Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
That's good to hear I'm happy u feeling a little better feel free to keep posting whenever u need to xx Venessa

interloper
Community Member

How was your day today? Did you find positivity?

KTOCD
Community Member

Hi interloper,

nice to meet you. My day was up and down. Had its good bits but def had some not so nice bits. I'm still a bit all over the shop. Thanks for asking.

how was your day today?

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello KT, you have OCD next to your username which hasn't come into the discussion as yet, so would you like to tell us about this, and don't worry I have had OCD for 56 years. Geoff.

Guest_5218
Community Member

Hello KT, lovely to see you back here again after not seeing you in a number of months. Even though it looks like you've returned due to a bit of a setback.

I see that on Tuesday you said that a visit to your GP may be in order. Have you been yet?

I dont recall whether you were on any medication at all, nor whether you have been seeing a psych at all. Has your work and home life been okay lately, and has your general health been good? Only asking to try to find out why you seem to have hit a bit of a hurdle lately, so please ignore if you are not comfortable in saying. (-:

Perhaps today is a little better for you, with fewer downs and many more ups. What do you enjoy doing in your spare time? I hope you can plan to do something you love to do over the weekend.

Kind thoughts to you KT.

Sherie xx

KTOCD
Community Member

Hi,

i am doing a bit better today. Still stressed easily but on the way up I feel.

Geoff, I do have OCD. I struggle with intrusive thoughts the most. Compulsions r there but I can manage them. I also take daily medication which helps greatly. Without the meds, I would be really stuck. The thoughts have been a bit worse lately but I think that is just due to stress. Once I get back on track, I think the thoughts will decrease again.

Sherie, I've got some additional work stress at the moment which I think has put me over the edge. I went to the dr and he has given me some extra meds for the next few days to see if that brings down the stress.

I think I need to shake things up a bit. I think I have been a bit depressed lately. I can't seem to be grateful for what I already have. I'm always looking for more but I think this is because I am stuck in a rut and need some more excitment in my life to get me motivated again. It seems to be same old same old.....for way too long. I need to move forward!! Time for change.

Geoff, how do u handle your OCD? I feel I'm going to be on meds for it the rest of my life. Already been about 15 years on meds. I can get off them for a while but the thoughts always come back.....and I can't handle them.

Thanks

KT

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hi KT, we only hope that you are on your way up, but sometimes that's what we want to hear, but this may not be the case or perhaps we try and kid ourselves, because your intrusive thoughts will not allow this to happen, there is always a doubt that you will keep asking yourself, will it happen or won't it happen, that's what OCD does to us.
Once you feel stressed then these thoughts will dominate your thinking, but if you are able to keep them under control then your stress will only get better.
By having depression and anxiety is awful, because I've been through it several times, but with this there can be another part to this which only complicates the issue and that's by having OCD, so you have to understand people can not figure out why we have these compulsions, obsessions or habits and believe that we can stop doing them, but quite to the contrary, we can't, sometimes it's impossible and times where you can have CBT which may reduce it, plus medication the doctors believe will reduce the behaviours we get, maybe for some it might, but with me I still have it even with medication.
You have to realise that with depression it controls your mind/mood just as OCD does, and the more stressed you are the worse it is.
The medication I take is for my depression and it is supposed to help with anxiety, that is OCD, but it doesn't obviate it, and for some with mild OCD it may do so, but yes I will be taking it for the restof my life, and with my intrusive thoughts, I know that they are not going to happen after all these years, and now take them as being a pest and tell myself not to be silly, because after 56 years none of them have come true.
Please I hope that you get back to me and ask me any question. Geoff.