Feeling guilty about being depressed not working

[James75]

Hi I'm new to this forum. I have always had depression off and on my whole life

The last 4 weeks I seemed to slip badly into depression and anxiety breaking out in tears feeling i cant go on.

I went to the doctors he stated me on medication for depression and anxiety but the side effects are hard lack of sleep Et

I thought if i brought a puppy it would help... But its hard looking after him when you are soo low the teething the continuous energy barking and whimpering causing me grief. I FEEL i can't leave him and get additional anxiety i have guilt feelings all the time

My depression makes me tired i lay arround alot and feel the biggest guilt i used to have a career once but feel unable to face any work i just feel so quilty about everything i hate being lasy and have this black cloud in me

[white knight]

Hi James welcome

Persist with your puppy. The love that pup will have for you will be more than you could ever muster yourself. They are amazing and worth the effort. I know its hard for you ATM but it is still diverting your mind to the pup rather than to other issues.

Guilt isn't good. Accept that you are far more a benefit to society to get well, so you can get a job then rejoin the workforce. Also remember eg teachers get stressed and have to leave their profession forever, pilots need 100% health to fly or they lose their career and so on. I lost my working life after 18 years running a successful business. It's life. Don't be afraid of moving on to a field of work that is more suited around your new needs.

Even machines need rest and servicing.

Tony WK

[topsy_]

Hello James & welcome,

I agree with what Tony has said.

Your pup is a bother now but they do tend to settle fairly quickly. The joy & love they bring is total & unconditional.

I think not being able to work happens to a lot of us. I used to beat myself up about it but the plain fact is that I can't work & stay well. The sooner I accepted that the less pain I suffered. Some people can return to work while others seem to be able to work through their black times. We're all different.

Take good care of yourself James, Lyn.

[blondguy]

Hi James

Tony WK and Lyn have great advice that has been spoken through experience. I just wanted to say that you have my support and understanding James. Guilt is a 'man made' emotion that is real and drag us down. Enjoy your new puppy and give him the time (same as you) to grow and accept his new situation

I was made redundant in January this year and it is an awful place to be in but while I am recovering from being terminated I have found many kind and caring people here on the forums..

We are here for you James if you need us

Kind Thoughts

Paul

[James75]

Thank you all guys please stay intouch as i have friends they don't understand they say what do you have to worry about unless you suffer from depression and anxiety you don't get it i feel isolated i which i had someone who understands close to me.... I live in Melbourne while i know friends im very lonely with this bur thank you all for your kind words James

[Lost_Girl]

Hi James,

I saw you in the cafe and noticed your thread so I thought I'd say hello here.

I am unable to work at the moment though ever hopeful I will be able to return to it someday. I am still working through getting better. I last worked in Dec last year. Try to move past guilty, I have been there too. I joke with my hubby now that I am the master of netflix as I have little energy for anything else right now. However health comes first.

I have lots of friends in real life and they try very hard but cannot understand completely. The people here are great. Best support you can get and truly some of the best people I have ever known.

Hopefully in a few weeks your meds will kick in and your sleep will improve and things will start to feel better. Hang in there. Keep hugging that pup.

There are a few late nighters in the BB cafe thread so if you're up late pop in a post and you may find some company.

Kind thoughts,

Carol

[blondguy]

Hi James

It really good to see you post back. I think I'll be on late this avo/tonight.

Just seeing how you are traveling

Kind Thoughts for you and your puppy!

Paul

[pvroom]

Hi James,

Just saying hello, you are definitely not alone.

It's hard sometimes to talk to others, and being depressed can make everything so much more difficult. You have taken a great step finding this forum.

Keep coming back! I try to remember because it's always a great resource, but sometimes I forget. Everyone here is supportive and understanding and it really helps!

[White_Rose]

Hello James

Hello and welcome. I have a thought (sometimes they are even worth repeating) about your meds. Do you take them at night or morning? Can you take them in the morning? Just a thought.

Mary

[James75]

Hi guys thank you for all your kind words i read them and i am thankful every day is very hard work. I read on here about sleeping medication went to my doctor to get a perception . See who it goes tonight whish me luck