Hi Lookingforlightgirl
In no way do I see you as whinging. I think sometimes we vent to simply bring things out into the open, so as to make better sense of them. So, if that's what works well, keep doing it. If that's what helps make progress, go for it 🙂 By the way, not everything we vent will make sense until it does. It's like you can vent about the same issue over and over again until the people around you proclaim they're getting sick of it. I've actually discovered that through such a process the people around us are typically either a) not giving any feedback, while sometimes shutting us down, or b) giving feedback we can't relate to, when it comes to making progress. Then, suddenly, you can come across someone who not only seriously listens but gives you feedback you can relate to. When this happens...BAMM...a significant mind altering revelation comes to you. I love mind altering; there's an energy to it you can really feel.
Being one of those mind/body/spirit gals, I've found it's paid off over the years when it's come to approaching certain situations from all 3 angles. I'll use the scenario of our partners to relate to
- Mentally, the internal dialogue that comes with being a wife/partner can go a little like 'Everyone thinks he's a nice guy. Why am I so unreasonable? Why can't I feel like everyone else feels toward him? What's wrong with me? Why do I have to be such a bi*ch?'. You can start to really beat yourself up, thanks to thoughts/internal dialogue.
- Physically, things start to change. Chemistry plays its part, reacting to thoughts and other factors. As you'd know, given your studied profession, the unromantic version of who or what we are is chemistry, blood and organs, brain matter, arteries etc. Our thoughts and dis-ease have an impact on all this stuff
- I'll simplify the spiritual factor by referring to it as natural or naturally. If our partner, for example, doesn't raise us or rise with us, we feel it naturally. We might feel it as heartbreak or heartache, something you can physically feel in your chest at times. You can feel the lack as hopelessness. Before you know it, you can feel the lack in so much. To feel it intensely is depressing. While you can make an effort to vibe down to their level of happiness, sitting on the couch watching tv and that's about it, it's their happiness. You've lost you along the way to making them happy. Eventually you feel it. Naturally, we're feelers. We feel everything, especially what's wrong
