Depression

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What am I able to do if I am depressed because of my parents and they are really making my life very difficult and I am slowly coming to the stage of thinking about suicide.

What am I supposed to do if I have no one to talk to. 

[Morning]

Hi ,

Have you ever tried to write down what the specific points of the problems with your folks are? For me, I find that the more general terms I use, the harder it gets to see any solution. I have to break things down to get to the real issues. I  get overwhelmed easily so I write lists of the things that are bothering me and I get more particular as I go.  Maybe you could try that ? And then when you have a detailed list, you could maybe approach your parents and show them?  Only you n know if your parents might be open to.that or not.  It was just an idea. Sometimes when I cut myself off from others, I can feel really alone and like no one cares. But the truth is that no one knows   cause I.have kept stuff to.myself, without giving anyone a chance to care

.y depression tells me all sorts of negative stuff. When I'm.well, I know none of it is true. But when I'm in it, it's a fight to not give in. I have become a fighter  today. And I will not give in. There is always another way.  This illness might be a part of you today but it is not all of who you are. You are much more . And you can find the reasons to not give in to.the darkness. And those reasons will give you the strength to.find a different way to deal with it. And that might include saying Out loud to someone " I need your help" . Help is out there. You have taken the first step.

[therising]

The warmest of welcomes to you at such an incredibly challenging time in your life, a time that you're finding so difficult to manage alone.

If there's one key thing I've learned over the years it relates to the fact that some challenges can't be managed alone. This leads to the question 'Who would be my best guide and support in this situation?'. I've found this can sometimes involve a process of elimination. If you can't talk to your parents, if they just refuse to listen and even listen to the fact that you're feeling deeply depressed to the point that you are, who becomes the next best person? Are there any other family members that have the ability to listen to how deeply challenged you feel (either from immediate or extended family)? If not, could it involve a parent of a friend, someone who's really good at listening and helping people through challenges? Depending on whether you're school age, is there someone at your school who you could speak with? The fact that you've come here looking for the way forward points to how open minded you are when it comes for searching for the right person or people to help you make your way through this overwhelming challenge. If this is the first time you've ever faced such a challenge, with a serious need to find someone, give yourself credit for beginning your search. A new path isn't always easy to step foot on and navigate. You really need to give yourself credit.

Parents can be incredibly difficult to live with and they can sometimes be impossible to wake up. What I mean by that is they can kinda be asleep to a lot of the stuff that needs serious attention. Both my 18yo son and 21yo daughter have woken me up to a lot over the years and I'm grateful to them for that. They've led me to become a lot more conscious not just as a parent (a mum) but as a person in general. Parents can seem strange, insane and highly questionable, that's for sure. You can even yell the truth at them and sometimes they still can't hear the truth. 'YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME!!!' can be the truth in some cases. I imagine you've possibly led them to try and listen to what feels true to you, which could explain why things feel so depressing right now.

Now that you've come here, give yourself the freedom to speak the truth, your truth. We're listening with respect and an open mind, 2 things you need and deserve.