Hi there,
I have just started here as I have been reading forums for about a week now.
I am very lost at present and very stressed having been helping my (now ex) partner with severe depression/anxiety whilst recovering from PTSD. They have reached a crisis point in their own depression that successfully had them push myself and my child away due to them no longer feeling anything at all. After so many years of support and hope that they would be getting better with the help of medication as well as a person that has indeed got the understanding and compassion of knowledge of what they are going through as well as with four years of them going to a psychologist I am at a complete shock loss from the cold-hearted nature of this.
It was like viewing a death and the grief is also incredibly similar. I feel as if I have failed this person miserably just as much as they have failed myself and my child from the fact they were so cut-throat on their discard and pushing away so would really like some guidance of whether this is normal behaviour in relationships or whether it has been a point that this person indeed can no longer feel a thing.
My child is suffering dramatically from this as they do not understand why a person no longer wants to see them, be around them and was scared that they were not going to answer phonecalls or messages when they wanted to reach out to them to tell them that friends support each other.
It's a long hard story to unpack and in truth I have no idea what I am trying to ask about. Validation is my guess, of the fact that I truly could not reach this person no matter how much love and support I gave them and it got to a stage that they gave up on themselves and me.
The why is really making it hard for me to get to as I have never ever done anything to hurt another, especially a young person so am finding it very difficult to see how they felt in a logical/illogical mess that is depression and anxiety.
Should I still try to help this person or just walk away so that I can heal myself and my child as the pressure of this is all too much now.
Thankyou if you can give perspective that I am not alone in this.
A Warriors Heart will always fight and never give up.
