Depression and negativity, do you ever win?

[Ps993]

So I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember.. (I’m 27) I’ve been thru a lot that has contributed to my negative mind and depression. I have seen multiple psychologists and have been one many different antidepressants (still am)

I want to know.. because I’m alway so negative about myself and the depression just drags me down.. does anyone every really overcome it? Or anyone successfully switched their mindset to much more positive?
I changed my life for the better entirely.. and I’m in a really good place but I still constantly struggle mentally..

I am feeling like no matter what I do.. I’ll never feel truely happy

[Giraffe]

I feel the same way.

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear ps993..

A very warm and caring welcome to the forums..

Negativity can be addictive and the more you feed the negative thoughts your having the more that negativity grows...

Its the same with positivity..if you could start by saying even small positives to yourself and keep feeding your mind with positives..then positively will also grow...

Its not easy to be truely happy all day and each day happiness is like our other emotions which comes and goes with our daily interactions with other people and things we do in our lives...So doing things that you enjoy enjoy doing should bring some happiness in your day.....

We have a thread titled...”Three things I’m grateful for”..I find that when I find things each day that I’m grateful for it adds some positives into my life...Your very welcome to post on that thread....or any other thread in the forums...

please talk here when your feeling up to it...We are here to support you the best we can with our care...

My kindest thoughts

Grandy..

[white knight]

Hi

Accepting your illness is the biggest step to make, it isn't easy.

Once you've accepted it then in turn you can accept it's quirks like the ups and downs, unexpected tiredness etc. To work with it rather than fight it.

Please Google these as it explains it better-

Beyondblue topic depression and the timing of motivation

It's the same with being a positive thinker. When depression takes hold it matters not how positive you are. When your depression subsides you then have the opportunity to bounce back.

Beyondblue topic 30 minutes can change your life

And let's not forget the big one- lots of sleep.

Beyondblue topic a good night's deep sleep

Regards TonyWK

[Cee123]

For me it's been a constant on and off thing over the years. Unfortunately I don't think it ever really goes away for many of us, we just get used to it, manage it and adjust to it. It does have episodes, and then I have other times where I'm out of that fog and feeling great and like my normal self again. I've heard that you can be in remission for it. It can happen in many cases with people. But I don't know anyone personally who has experienced it.

[Ps993]

Thank you so much.

it’s honestly like I believe that I don’t deserve to be happy.. and so it’s this negative cycle of me never getting my hopes up for eg for fear of being let down and hurt.

[mocha delight]

It’s always been very up and down for me but I’d like to mention I’ve not been officially diagnosed with anything yet but my psychologist has mentioned to me that I have depression (clinical depression), social anxiety and general anxiety.

[white knight]

Thinking logically, your comment "for fear of being let down and hurt.", indicates that your fear of being hurt is at an extraordinary high level.

Humans can be vicious, manipulating etc just nasty at times. Her sensitive person's make up 20% of the population and it guess most of those have a mental condition of some sort. So we go into defence mode to protect ourselves.

From experience your sensitivity won't go away. However, you can build some legitimate walls to protect yourself while extending your interest in people, special people. Google this

Beyondblue topic fortress of survival (also parts 2 and 3).

The above threads deal with filtering people to see if they are worthy to be in your life. By rejecting the incompatible one's early there is less hurt experienced.

I also found the city to be toxic and crowd I avoid.

I agree with Her, we do eventually get used to our condition.

TonyWK