Depression and loss of friends and family

Mal83
Community Member
Hi, I don’t know if anyone else has issues with losing friends and family over their Behaviour or personality? I’m unsure as idk who I am anymore. I feel like there seems to be something wrong with me. I can’t keep people in my life. I always say or do the wrong things. If I try and be someone I think people want me to be it doesn’t work and if I open up and show my true self I seem to get the same reaction. I’m unsure what to do and I’m at the point I’ve lost most people around me. I’m at a loss atm. I have a wonderful partner but I wonder how long it will be before I ruin that too. Help?
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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome

What you are experiencing is what I call a dilemma. If you be your true self (with a possible mental illness that effects behaviour) you could be rejected by other people that find you abnormal. Try not to be yourself and wear a mask to hide your true self and you end up saddened, even depressed that you are not accepted.

Neither of these situation is sustainable in the long term. So what is the answer?

I have bipolar and my mania and depression both symptoms of my illness has resulted in losing friends but many less than had I not been on medication and many less had I not had therapy.

Im suggesting your first step is a visit to your GP to discuss this and seek guidance. Please don’t be overwhelmed about this because there is other self help methods to achieve, they are-

  • Finding more friends. The more people you meet the more chance of finding compatible people to enjoy life with and passing up the ones not accepting of you
  • Stand up for yourself. When you do this you equalise the ground rules. Let others walk over you and most will,sadly. Stick up for you being you and point out to critics that you are not a sheep, you are an individual.
  • Learn to like yourself. Put in search bar “do you like yourself? Your thought are welcome” post there your issues and join us there.
  • rid toxic people from your life. Put in the search bar “fortress of survival”

TonyWK