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Depressing news receieved today

vip
Blue Voices Member
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Hi everyone I was at my sons school today and a mum told me they had to return back home as her brotherinlaw committed suicide he leaves behind a wife and children and was 49 yrs of age. Xmas time is very difficult for people facing depression . She did tell me he didnt seek any help so was pretty much alone with this . So much awareness and education is needed but we are truly blessed to have beyond blue spread the word. this story has affected me today even though i dont know him many of you know i can relate to this i will say a prayer for him and his family tonight.
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vip
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Geoff my attempt was actually the day of my neices birthday and they still had the party and i got the comment our lives wont stop because of you when i was in hospital. Thats ok everyone was angry but i can tell you its made me hell stronger now i make sure i put myself first and all the gossipers well they can gossip all they like im back stronger healthier and much more street wise and im sure this has happened for you too. I truly believe things happen in life for a reason and i know with this event its made me appreciate the really small things in life now . x

Mbuna
Community Member

Nes,

Its very sad to hear that news. Im am right there with you on education. I was the same as that poor man. I did not seek help. I was too proud and did not want to seem weak. I only tried once and I have vowed that i will never let myself get that low again. I did not realize that there was so much help out there. More people die form suicide each year in Australia each year than die from skin cancer. Its a scary statistic. We are the lucky ones. We survived. There is a lot more education and a lot less stigma now than there used to be. There is still a long way to go. My outlook on life has changed now too. I take my hat of to all the organizations out there fighting depression and suicide. The world is a much better place with them around.

vip
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hi Mbuna thankyou for your great reply we seem to have a lot in common. Yes thank goodness for beyond blue I just love coming on here and talking to everyone i just feel this is the only place i am really understood honestly. Yes we are made to feel like saying the word suicide is shamefu thats why education and awareness is essential. Take care x

Mares73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Ness it must of been very upsetting for you to know of this situation. I also think Christmas is a particularly hard, sad and lonely time for so many people. I know from my own experience that even being in the same physical prescience as my family-I still feel more alone than most times. So much pressure to put up pretences with people who in many cases aren't close to us or involved in our lives. So it must be incredibly difficult for people who are totally alone. And suicide is a word people seem afraid of. Yet it needs to be talked openly about so that people contemplating it may reach out instead of hide away in their own private prison of pain. I'm sure so many of us on BB can relate to thoughts or contemplation of suicide whether intended or not. I often say its the pain and desperation I want to end-not necessarily my entire life. I want to destroy the hopelessness, the darkness, the feeling that I've lost control of who I am. So I can appreciate that for many people-especially those who can't talk to someone-suicide is seen as the only way out of the pain. I too hope you are ok Nes. Mares

vip
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hi Mares totally agree with you 100% education awareness and reaching out for help is the only way to lower statistic rates of suicide. Thanyou for your caring message take care also. x