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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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M_M Hormonal anxiety and depression
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I’m looking to connect with someone who is experiencing the same things as Iam. Almost 3 weeks ago I had been feeling super dizzy and extreme fatigue, felt like there was an elephant on my chest and just super sad. I didn’t know what was going on, un... View more

I’m looking to connect with someone who is experiencing the same things as Iam. Almost 3 weeks ago I had been feeling super dizzy and extreme fatigue, felt like there was an elephant on my chest and just super sad. I didn’t know what was going on, until I went to the doctors and told him I had been feeling but I didn’t have anything triggering why I had been feeling the way I had been feeling. He put it down to hormonal anxiety and depression, and a really bad side effect after coming of birth control. I’m on antidepressants which are helping heaps. And I’m just trying to get through each day.

Curleee BPD issues or poor behaviour by a friend?
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Thank you to everyone who has posted on the thread: BPD person who needs a friend with knowledge of BPD. I have learnt so much about my diagnosis, just from reading this thread. I hadn't heard at all about mirroring (even though I've done lots of rea... View more

Thank you to everyone who has posted on the thread: BPD person who needs a friend with knowledge of BPD. I have learnt so much about my diagnosis, just from reading this thread. I hadn't heard at all about mirroring (even though I've done lots of reading)..... I am wanting to mention a situation with a friend. Essentially, I am never sure if when I have a scenario going on with a friend, whether it is BPD, or if its that friend's behaviour. In most instances, I easily blame myself for things - and most of the time, there are ways that I could have behaved better. But yesterday, I started writing an email to a friend, to hopefully resolve our issues with each other.... after typing the email out, I realised that I didn't fully believe what i was typing. So I have not sent the email, because I want to sit with what are my real gut feelings. I have trouble processing matters..... Situation is as follows: We've been friends for 23 years. I would consider this person, one of my inner circle. She has been having an affair with a married woman. I had asked her about this several times, just to enquire, because she seemed to be talking about this woman a lot; if it'd been more serious. And she said they'd been together 3-4 times. I didn't think much of it, not great to sleep with a married person; but whatever (I don't even know them)...... I then find out 18 months later (even though we speak a few times a week), that she has been in a full blown affair with this woman. I reacted by talking about how the husband feels...and pulled myself away from the friendship..... In reflecting, I don't actually care about what the husband feels. For me, I felt rejected and why has she kept it quiet. It also frustrated me because I have supported her through 2 relationships where her partners had had affairs..... (and additionally, one other holiday I went on with her, she brang a "friend"..... turns out it wasn't a friend....it was a lover)..... she thinks I judged her and that she isnt obliged to share things about her life with me. As a friend, it should be up to the person, to share what they want to share. The healthy and clear-thinking side of my brain thinks she is not taking responsibility. I don't know how to move forward and am distressed about it. Not sure how to move forward with the friendship.

Kaypatch How Did this happen? Why Did this happen?
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How did I get to this place? I am 63 years old and I am sad, I feel lonely and I guess depressed. I have started to see a therapist however my background is that I was always told by my peers that things happen along the way and you just deal with it... View more

How did I get to this place? I am 63 years old and I am sad, I feel lonely and I guess depressed. I have started to see a therapist however my background is that I was always told by my peers that things happen along the way and you just deal with it and pick yourself back up and get on with it. But nobody told me about ageing and loneliness. I have a gorgeous family (who have put me through the wringers throughout the years, but have all bounced back and are healthy and reasonably happy) I have lovely friends as well. But I am sad, just incredibly sad and crying right now. I am normally in control but lately have felt more out of control than a bus with no breaks! Does this ever pass? One day I am OK one day I am sad and crying - actually most days lately. I feel like I don't want to go out - I don't want to put on a happy face - I don't want to see other peeps and families out being happy. Maybe I am just being a selfish human? Thanks for listening.

mocha delight Heartbroken
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Just got some news not long ago that the grandma I’m closest to is showing signs both my grandfathers showed/acted like 2 days before they passed away since yesterday so if that’s the case she might not be with us by the weekend. So I’m feeling kind ... View more

Just got some news not long ago that the grandma I’m closest to is showing signs both my grandfathers showed/acted like 2 days before they passed away since yesterday so if that’s the case she might not be with us by the weekend. So I’m feeling kind of down and I’m don’t know how I’ll cope if I lose my grandma as even if she lived 1 1/2 hours away as I was growing up I was very close with her and would go to see her quite often or it felt like it was most weekends. All I want and have done so far is when I’m very upset is turning to food and anything fattening which is my coping mechanism

Lulu78 Medication problems
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Hi ALl ive been medicated for the last 5 years for major depressive disorder, never had much luck in finding one that works for me. My latest cocktail consists of 2 meds one which was added more recently and has caused me to gain 7kg, my weight has a... View more

Hi ALl ive been medicated for the last 5 years for major depressive disorder, never had much luck in finding one that works for me. My latest cocktail consists of 2 meds one which was added more recently and has caused me to gain 7kg, my weight has always played a massive role in my mental health, ive had body image issues from as a young girl and my life has revolved around on trying to always be skinnier than i was last week, i know this may silly to som but it has always played a big role on determining my state of mind and happiness sadly ... i cant stay on this medication any longer as the fear of continuing to keep gaining weight scares the living hell out of me. Anyone had any experience with this? Im seeing my gp Monday so was going to mention it but would luv to hear anyones thoughts. thank u all kindly

new_beginning My kids deserve better
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I hate weekends. When families are out enjoying time with their family and friends, experiencing life. My kids and i are at home, they on their tablets watching some mind numbing thing while their childhoods drift away. I cant give them the life they... View more

I hate weekends. When families are out enjoying time with their family and friends, experiencing life. My kids and i are at home, they on their tablets watching some mind numbing thing while their childhoods drift away. I cant give them the life they deserve. Theres only so many times you can take them to the playground before it gets boring. I just want them to beable to look back on their childhoods with fond memories and so far all they have is mum who is basically forever crying and a dad who is never about. i cant even find a job to try and improve our financial situation. Just knock back after knock back and reiterating the fact im not good enough for anyone despite me really wanting to make anything work. I just want out of this entire situation.

inapoloriodpicture i cant cope with school
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so i’ve just started year 11- like, JUST started. it’s my third week back and i already feel like i’m drowning. i cant go one day without completely breaking down because i just can’t deal with it. i used to love school, but now i just feel so nervou... View more

so i’ve just started year 11- like, JUST started. it’s my third week back and i already feel like i’m drowning. i cant go one day without completely breaking down because i just can’t deal with it. i used to love school, but now i just feel so nervous there and i don’t have anyone that i can talk to. i feel alone around people i used to be close with, and i have no friends now because i just keep isolating myself. i haven’t been to a councillor because i can’t bring it upon myself to speak up when i’m struggling and ask for help. i was suspended last year because the school didn’t think i was in the right headspace to come back until i had seen a psychiatrist, but i only ever went to a doctor who referred me to someone- who i never went to. i’m just in a really bad place, i’ve already missed three days of school and will probably skip more. i don’t know what to do anymore, i already have so much homework but all i can do when i get home is sleep, cry, stare into nothing then wonder where all the time went. when i try to do homework i procrastinate- then get into trouble for not doing homework. i’ve lost all interest, even in the subjects that i was so keen to do. i constantly wish that i moved schools and beat myself up for not knowing how to ask for help. everything just feels so difficult and i don’t know how i’m going to get through two more years of this.

Caro1107 Struggling
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Hi All, I recently moved to Australia from NZ and am finding it really hard here. I’m stressed about money, angry and tired all the time. I cry if anything at all goes wrong in my day. This is not normal behaviour for me. I’m struggling to get into a... View more

Hi All, I recently moved to Australia from NZ and am finding it really hard here. I’m stressed about money, angry and tired all the time. I cry if anything at all goes wrong in my day. This is not normal behaviour for me. I’m struggling to get into a good exercise and eating routine. anyone in the same boat?

SilverLight Really struggling
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Over the last 5 months Ive been through absolute hell. I found out on the 8th of October that I had fallen pregnant with a very much wanted and planned baby. A week later I had a bleed along with high fevers that we were told there was a hematoma (tu... View more

Over the last 5 months Ive been through absolute hell. I found out on the 8th of October that I had fallen pregnant with a very much wanted and planned baby. A week later I had a bleed along with high fevers that we were told there was a hematoma (tumour/clot) next to the baby. Three days later I was in emergency surgery for appendicitis. It then turned out my appendix was full of cancer. I had to have a major bowel reconstruction surgery while 12 weeks pregnant. After my operation my lower body shut down and I went into the shock and was uncontrollably vomitting to the point the hospital couldn't help me. On top of all of this I have Hypermesis Gravidarum. Im so freaking depressed and I am struggling to continue wanting this baby. I try to tell me family that there are so many days that I can't get off the couch and they just tell me to pull myself together and get on with it. I've got a toddler to care for as well and most days I barely have the energy to take proper care of him never mind the whole house and hubby too. It's no bloody wonder so many people just give up I've got a psychology appointment tomorrow with my birthing hospital and I'm so bloody desperate for it to help

lifeisbutadream Worried about my ex-boyfriend
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Hi guys, About 2 months ago my ex and I broke up. At the time, he said that his mental health was not in the best shape and he needed time to work on himself. He suffers from clinical depression, at the time of the end of our relationship he was very... View more

Hi guys, About 2 months ago my ex and I broke up. At the time, he said that his mental health was not in the best shape and he needed time to work on himself. He suffers from clinical depression, at the time of the end of our relationship he was very closed off and wasn't really talking to me about what was going on. The main driver of our breakup was this and long distance. I don't know if he was taking his medication. The breakup has been immensely hard on me, and my own mental health has been struggling too. Since the breakup, I tried to reach out to him a few times but he ignored or left me on read for everything I said, so I figured it would be best if I stopped. He hasn't said anything to me since the breakup, the last time I tried to speak to him was 2 weeks ago. I noticed today that he has deleted his Facebook, I'm a bit worried that he could be going through something and feeling alone/ struggling, especially given the context of our last conversation, I don't know what I can do to help seeing as he's made it clear (through his silence) that he probably doesn't want anything to do with me, but I feel awful about the prospect of him suffering through something alone and feeling like noone cares for him. What can I do if I'm worried about him? I don't want my presence in his life to upset him anymore, and I don't know if my own mental health could cope with another rejection right now. Maybe he deleted his FB for a totally unrelated reason but I just have a bad feeling. Thank you for reading