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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Jasmine_R Felling sad alone and depressed
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I don’t know if this is the right place to pot this anyways it still a week a away but for the last week iv been crying my self a sleep cos it almost coming up soon we be the first year I lost my pet and I just can’t stop feeling so down and sad I ca... View more

I don’t know if this is the right place to pot this anyways it still a week a away but for the last week iv been crying my self a sleep cos it almost coming up soon we be the first year I lost my pet and I just can’t stop feeling so down and sad I can’t stop crying I miss him so much try so hard not to self harm my self felling so sad and I have know one that cares felling alone sad

Elot School
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Bruh school like today cause it’s 1:30am and I don’t wanna go cause school make sad and school bad and stressful so will probably sleep at school

Bruh school like today cause it’s 1:30am and I don’t wanna go cause school make sad and school bad and stressful so will probably sleep at school

vex666 Meaning
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Hello friend. This is my second post on this forum. I'm not sure how to start, so I'll just be direct. It feels like I've got the ball rolling; sorry about my use of banality. I feel there is a still a sense of purposelessness, are we in a chaotic un... View more

Hello friend. This is my second post on this forum. I'm not sure how to start, so I'll just be direct. It feels like I've got the ball rolling; sorry about my use of banality. I feel there is a still a sense of purposelessness, are we in a chaotic universe where we just exist and die or a cosmic universe where everything happens by some sense of meaning? But yet, I can't see a grey in this answer. I've spent so much time playing video games and it feels like I have been deprived from experience. I have no social skills and for some absurd reason, I never had my education as high priority. I'd rather sit and play video games and hope the world forgets me. Love, feelings, thought, physical, conscious, experience, history; nothing matters. For years, I've tried to come to terms with this, Albert Camus had a philosophic book and view that the world is absurd and finding meaning will only drag you down. No matter how much I try, is any effort actually worth it? I'm not here to say I want to hurt myself, in fact, the opposite. I want to thrive in this world. I'm just so anxious about this place where we live and it feels people force meaning into things when in reality it does not matter. Everywhere I look, they are either this or that, left or right, rich or poor, soccer or football. I am not unique, I'm a simpleton, I follow my favorite team, I say soccer and not football. I am my worst enemy and I cannot find peace. I want to thrive but all I do is think, anxious thoughts turn into depression and depression turns into anxious thoughts.

Amandahill89 Not feeling myself
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Hi there this last year has been the toughest I’ve faced our rental went up for sale and now it’s sold we have to move out it’s so hard to find a new rental I hate my job I also found out I was 7 weeks pregnant I was over the moon because I was about... View more

Hi there this last year has been the toughest I’ve faced our rental went up for sale and now it’s sold we have to move out it’s so hard to find a new rental I hate my job I also found out I was 7 weeks pregnant I was over the moon because I was about to start my own family with my fiancé but will oar it because it’s a blighted ovum I really don’t feel myself anymore my grandpa is also dying from bone cancer I have my wedding coming up in October but I can’t be exticted for it any advice would be great I hope Everyone else is doing ok to

josh174 Where to start?
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All through highschool I felt that being depressed was just teen angst, and to a point there's probably some truth in that but lately after finishing highschool and seeing my few friends go off to uni while I look for work I've become almost constant... View more

All through highschool I felt that being depressed was just teen angst, and to a point there's probably some truth in that but lately after finishing highschool and seeing my few friends go off to uni while I look for work I've become almost constantly depressed. My parent thinks it's because I can't find work but they don't understand that I lack the motivation to do so and sometimes even getting out of bed is a struggle. They get pissed off when I can't get up early because I was crying myself to sleep at 1am. They themselves have depression, as do the rest of my family in some form and have never reached out to ask if I'm actually ok or if something is going on in the background. They just assume that I'm just lazy and that me spending time in my room is the reason I'm always blue. Everytime I think about self harm I keep thinking I'm overreacting, just seeking attention, but I still keep thinking about it. I definitely don't feel comfortable talking to them about it and I don't know if the few friends I have have the time as they're in uni or year 12. I don't feel comfortable talking to my GP and I don't know who to turn to. I just want to be able to get on with life. In the past it was a question of what's happening next month, but now I just wonder if I'll get through the day without silently having a breakdown.

AndrewXyz my thoughts on the cause of mood disorders vs psychology. It's from abuse, not hormones?
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Men get mood disorders too. No shrink ever told me is was because of my hormones! In the 15 years psychology has a crack at my issues, they couldn't figure it out. I had to work out the cause of my PTSD myself, and that was also the cause of my mood ... View more

Men get mood disorders too. No shrink ever told me is was because of my hormones! In the 15 years psychology has a crack at my issues, they couldn't figure it out. I had to work out the cause of my PTSD myself, and that was also the cause of my mood disorders too - my family! I've gone through life feeling like i was worthless, i was always bullied, or abused in relationships, and would wonder why me? Why do people even my family always look down on me. I always thought it was something I did, until I finally asked the question, when did my family start treating me differently. I thought it was going to be a daunting task digging up old memories, except the memories i needed were instantly there, because they were all those incidents throughout childhood, teenage, adults years that i could never shake off, they were triggered too easily, and this time around I realised they were showing me that my family had always treated me differently from a very young age, well before I could ever be held responsible for my actions. I was never allowed to stand up for myself, the punishments would get harsher leading up to solitary confinement. (Abusive people do not want to give up control, and will fight, kids cant fight adults). My PTSD started with a memory of being abandoned by my family, which led to depression and behavioral issues, which lowered my families opinion of me even further. Goodwill never applied to me, it never mattered what effort i put in, one false move was enough to be severely punished, or denied ever single major birthday my brother had. I tried talking to family about this for years, and was told it's all in my head, i'm playing the victim, get my head out of the past and move on. But i was never able to move on form the past because the answer were there. I realised I wasn't the weak one, my family were the weak ones for taking their issues out on the easiest target, the high functioning autistic kid who would struggle to form sentences, and they still are to this day, because they can never admit they have a problem, and will never fix it. The cycle of violence runs in my family, and I developed a mood disorder purely because of their treatment. I also realised that my family and a lot of society treats me the same way women have been treated for thousands of years. I think saying the problem is caused by hormones undermines women, by making them think they are the cause of their own problem, not society/families.

Guest_1584 How much time do you spend in bed, especially if your single ?
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Hi people. Since divorce and living alone most of the time, and now a mostly long distance part time relationship, l spend more and more time in bed. lt's getting ridiculous but l really enjoy it and it's all l feel like . Don't get me wrong , l'm ve... View more

Hi people. Since divorce and living alone most of the time, and now a mostly long distance part time relationship, l spend more and more time in bed. lt's getting ridiculous but l really enjoy it and it's all l feel like . Don't get me wrong , l'm very active through the day , usually awake by 6.30ish , grab coffee come back to bed and pc an hr or two. Get up hang around, coffee shower, breaky , get out to work. l work for myself at home, outside work though not a home office. Also renovating , got projects going in the workshop outside or work stuff and a pile of things around the property too. l get out through the day too, shops or lunch in one of the other towns, up to our main town a few days a wk. Thing is bc l don't work 9 -5 and get plenty of free time to do all the stuff going on through the day , l'm pretty well done by 3 or 4 in the arvo with anything, work included. Well l've started loving an arvo nap and a glass of wine, but then end up hanging round in bed/ pc till 7 or 8 , usually from around 4ish. Get up watch a few shows, some tea, but less and less can l be bothered with tv or sitting round , tv/ movies, especially on these winter nights so a few hrs and l just come back to bed lately. l am depressed most of the time but at least l get work done and heaps of stuff through the day. Have hardly any visitors ,mainly gf when she's down again and staying , or my daughter . So mostly l'm just on my own and just can't be bothered with anything once the days over, not even movies lately. Anyone else spending these kinda hours in bed ? My gf does to actually , here or when she's up home. We're very similar and both get heaps done through the day but just can't be bothered with anything later on. rx

JackieE Does my depression mean I will forever be alone?
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Hi all. I have had recurrent major depressive disorder for over 20 years. I've now hit 40. I'm married and in a high pressure job. I've tried many different types of medication - as well as having times off all medication (bad idea). I have just come... View more

Hi all. I have had recurrent major depressive disorder for over 20 years. I've now hit 40. I'm married and in a high pressure job. I've tried many different types of medication - as well as having times off all medication (bad idea). I have just come out of a major depressive episode that required 4 weeks off work. I have always been upfront about my illness - to my partners and colleagues. I warned/told my (now) husband of 11 years, before we started dating seriously, that I had been diagnosed with depression in my teens and needed to be on medication. I was very clear. But now, 11 years on, it's all too difficult for him. He told me I made him anxious. He feels like he needs to save me and that he is constantly on alert/vigilant. He complains about our lack of a sex life (but, hey, the meds keep me working and I pay the mortgage so....he benefits financially). He told me to leave. 5 months of separation and it looks like divorce is inevitable. My question is this - should I accept that by virtue of my depression I will always be alone? I am too difficult to handle? Does anyone else think this? If not - how do you deal with those thoughts? Thanks in advance.

Living57 Hit rock bottom and I dont know how to cope
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I've just moved to a new house its everything I want. You think I'd be happy but I'm finding it hard. I've had to rely on a family member to help me and my anxiety peaked and I started questioning had I used him too much, I probably could have done t... View more

I've just moved to a new house its everything I want. You think I'd be happy but I'm finding it hard. I've had to rely on a family member to help me and my anxiety peaked and I started questioning had I used him too much, I probably could have done things myself albeit slower. I'm now lost. I feel absolutely miserable and have spent the last few days bursting in to tears and crying. I am so alone. My depression is starting to be my everyday. I can't fo anything, my motivation is gone. I have no energy and no interest in anything. I've spent today laying in bed because the thought of getting up and having to do something to get the house sorted is too much for me. I am at the bottom of the hole and the black dog is not letting me out. I just wish the hole would cave in around me.

Me2428 Vicarious trauma, depression and PTSD symptoms plus a disintegrating marriage - I'm struggling
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I am a counsellor and I worked with a huge amount of trauma and abuse, both with perpetrators and victims/survivors. I broke down doing this work as a result of vicarious trauma and my own childhood issues of abuse. I was, and still am, experiencing ... View more

I am a counsellor and I worked with a huge amount of trauma and abuse, both with perpetrators and victims/survivors. I broke down doing this work as a result of vicarious trauma and my own childhood issues of abuse. I was, and still am, experiencing PTSD symptoms, particularly intrusive thoughts and I get triggered a lot. I go to pieces when I get triggered. When things were getting bad I became depressed and was close to losing my mind. My relationship with my wife became verbally and psychologically toxic and although we are still together, we continue to drift further and further apart. So much of my life has disappeared. I miss my father and brother who have both passed away, I am estranged from my mother and I barely ever get to see my sister due to Covid and distance. My daughter has been impacted by my poor parenting and my son also struggles with depression. I have no friends anymore. I am very much alone and I am struggling. I believe I will soon separate from my wife which will mean I leave our family home and will likely be homeless. My employment is likely to end at the end of the financial year because my work cannot put me back on counselling work and I agree with them on this. I feel totally lost and as I said, I am feeling very much alone. I don't know why I am writing this, I am just grasping for something. My usual self-care is failing me and my meds are not helping as much as I would like. Again, I am losing control and I'm worried I am starting to spiral again. I don't have any idea what to do anymore.