Am I gonna be depressed for the rest of my life

[Jojochiu]

I can’t feel happy no matter how. The sarcastic thing is that I think I already have everything people could ask for including a loving family, lovely children, loving husband, a good job and no financial stress. What more can I ask for? I should be the last person in this world getting depressed.


But I just don’t feel happy. When I go to work, I cry for the work stress. When I stay home to look after my children, I kick myself for being useless, not making use of my degree and not bringing income to the family etc. I can’t throw myself into anything to feel happy (except for my children, but I know I can’t rely on them to be happy because one day they will leave the nest). I am an introvert and not easy to open up myself to anything and anyone.


I am only 40 year old, am I gonna be like this for the rest of my life?

[Amanda2000]

Hi Jojochiu,

Believe me, I know exactly what you're going through! I also work 3 days and my husband is not a good listener either!!

My kids are teenagers now but I've gone through the hectic routine of pick-up/drop-off and afterschool activities. Sounds like you're feeling overwhelmed by worries about next year. What I've found is that the pre-emptive thoughts are often much worse than when you're actually experiencing the moment. My strategy is to tell myself "don't think and just do it". If you're able to tell yourself that next year will come regardless of whether or not you worry now, maybe that can help you not to think about it so much and just deal with it when the time comes.

It's ok. Motherhood is tough. I think it's a life sentence without parole!