After I found out Tim died, I decided that what I needed to do at that moment was to choose an album to say goodbye to

[SleepDrifter]

I needed something that fit the mood, best I could but I knew I would never be able to go back to again. I chose All of a Sudden I Miss Everyone by Explosions in the Sky. I miss him

[Summer Rose]

Hi SleepDrifter

Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss of Tim.

I think the act of playing your musical choice was a lovely way to honour Tim and say goodbye. I hope that it brought you comfort.

When my mother died (a little over a year ago) I turned to a song called No Hard Feelings. I cried and cried. For some reason that song brings me great comfort, but I still cry every time.

If you want to talk some more—about Tim or how you are feeling or anything—I’ll be here to listen.

Kind thoughts to you

[SleepDrifter]

Thanks, that's very sweet.

Sorry about your mother. You must miss her terribly.

Tim was my friend. We met at work but started hanging out and playing video games together, or watching star wars. I got a call from our other friend one day saying that he had taken his own life. I felt like a piece of me crumbled away

[Summer Rose]

Hi SleepDrifter

It sounds like you and Tim had a lot of fun together and that you shared a special bond. Those memories are no doubt precious. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m very sorry to learn about how Tim died. Beyond sad and tragic. I can imagine that it’s very difficult for you right now to deal with the shock and a range of unresolved questions and challenging emotions. It’s a lot to process.

Be kind to yourself. Make sure you’re eating and try to get out for a walk or some exercise each day. It will help to clear your head. Sleep is also really important right now. Are you sleeping okay?

I found my intense grief came in waves; sometimes I thought I was going okay and then it would hit. I guess what I’m saying is that grief can be a really rocky road and quite intense.

It helped me to write about my feelings and to talk with others who also knew and loved my mum. Are you and Tim’s other friends able to lean on each other? Is there someone in your life that you can really count on to be there for you?

Hugs and kind thoughts to you