25 work nights severely depressed

[AJ91]

Hi im 25year old male who has struggled with depression since i was about 7. I also have anxiety issues and what not, but real problem im having is that i started my new job and working 6 nights a week with only Saturday night off, im starting to feel alienated and alot more alone then i ever have in my life. I feel im getting to attached to girls quickly in hope of a quick fix and then its putting a strain on me. i literally feel like i am alone.. that i have no friends.. feeling worthless.. like im a faliure in life because of past issues with gambling that have crept back into my life. I cant even do the things i enjoy anymore like running, gym, sports, even watching tv feels like a hastle

If anyones got any suggestions on how i can try and over come this or any tips in general. Would be greatly appreciated.

[Just Sara]

Hi and welcome AJ;

I hear you loud and clear...you aren't a failure, you're tired, scared and worn out. In Ozzie speak; you've had a gut full yeah?

My son's a chef and has the same problem. He's been in a cycle of one job after another trying to get off the night work round-a-bout.

I'd be considered an oldie to you, so I may not be what you're after. When I was your age, there was lots of full-time work available; part-time and casual positions were rare. People brought homes and cars knowing they had a secure permanent job.

The reason why I bring this up, is due to the massive changes to work conditions and contracts. (Which we didn't have) Employers are now giving shorter (cas or part time) hrs to everyone. Without full time positions, security and decent wages/awards, nobody can afford to spend money.

Anyway, I digress. Sorry...my son is proactive in moving around trying to secure full time work, and get as much experience as he can. I've drummed into his head about saving for his future and he mostly keeps up. He's trying to create a 5 yr plan that suits his needs, but it's hard as you know.

It is sad you've found yourself in this situation and as a result have been experiencing devastating personal pressure. I hope you have someone to talk with about this, or a GP you can see? There are helpful links at the bottom of this page; Lifeline and BeyondBlue have phone counselling services in times of need too.

Without good mental health, life is even harder. Please take care of this first and worry about getting a better job or conditions later. I'd suggest seeing a financial planner who's also a counsellor. Some banks and Community agencies offer this service for free so it can't hurt to have a chat. If one doesn't suit, try another.

I'm sorry I couldn't have been more help...have a look around the threads here; Employment/Workplaces, and Young People sections might be a good start.

Keep your chin up AJ...Sara (Big hug)

PS..It might help to ask specific questions to assist us to help you ok? There's no such thing as a silly one...

[AJ91]

Thanks for that! Its hard in general. I think the social anxiety of feeling alienated is the big trigger at the moment. Trying to maintain it is hard. My mates are out and about on a Saturday night which to me doesnt sound appeling because i have work sunday night. I am trying to set up my future hence working nights as i said the alienation that i feel alone now is whats hurting the most

[Zeal]

Hi AJ,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear that you've struggled with depression since the age of 7.

Working six nights a week must be tiring, and it makes sense that you feel like relaxing on a Saturday night. At 25, having a steady job is admirable. It's understandable that you feel socially isolated at the moment. Could you spend time with friends during the day, even if just for a brief period? If you don't mind me asking, have you received professional help for gambling issues before? To address the depression and gambling, seeing a doctor (as Sara suggested) is important.

Do you live alone, or with family or roommates? Living alone is certainly not ideal for someone in your situation. Coming home and having someone there is a comfort.

This thorough guide on working through depression is great: http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=37

I hope you can see a doctor soon.

Best wishes,

Zeal