The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[startingnew]

Hi Andy

welcome aboard,its loveley to have you here.

That is some great news! 🙂

[Just Sara]

You're so welcome Andy! And you're right; you do have a cheer squad in your corner. Go Andy.. go Andy.. go Andy.. go Andy.. Yay Andy! You can't see it but I'm stirring the pot with both hands as I chant. Try it! You can't help but have fun. 😄 lol

The Tennessee Waltz reminds me of my Nan. She taught me to waltz on the carpet in our lounge room when I was 11 you know (Smiling as I rememebr)

I know the excitement you speak of with the teen's thing. I had a serious crush on someone a little while ago and all those feelings came back. Scared me shitless actually. Nothing come of it, but it was nice to feel again.

So I do get it. Happy for you? Absolutely! Keep up those wonderful posts of yours too. Yeah...I've read some wouldn't you know and am totally a fan.

You fit in around here without a doubt.

Warm thoughts;

Sez

Hi SN also! You've kept a vigilant eye on this thread lovely.. thankyou. xo

[startingnew]

Hi Sez xox

[TealRibbon]

Good morning everyone,

I haven't been online for a while, but it's great to read all your posts, little and huge victories - I'm also on your cheering squad Andy!

I feel a bit like a teenager too, exploring, reading about LGBT and trying to find my true self. It is interesting and upsetting, but at least I am opening up to new possibilities. I remember and question things now, like always being a tomboy, my first love being same-sex...and then I got caught up in a hetero life... I feel better for looking into the possibilities, but won't make any life decisions until I feel a bit more stable with my mental health.

Have a good week everyone!

[Just Sara]

Quick 'hi there' from me today TR;

What a wonderful outlook on life! You've obviously done the hard yards and then some by the sounds of it, and learned from it. Well done!

Andy's surely going to have a crowd cheering from the sidelines isn't he? Go you good thing! 😄

When you say 'same-sex', what would that be? I get into trouble sometimes saying he when it should be she and vice versa. Sorry.. I've learned to ask first. If you don't want to identify that's fine too ok.

Better go! People to meet, places to go.

Loved meeting you TR. Hope to see you around the traps..

Take care;

Sez (welcome hug)

[TealRibbon]

Hi Sez

thanks for the welcome hug, hug back!

Same-sex? The words & questions are all still new to me 🙂 Well same-sex back then was girl-girl. Now I live in a relationship as a woman with a man. I question my own gender and my sexuality and find it all pretty confusing. But I had advise to just explore and not to put pressure on myself and that it will never be too late to make a decision. So I take my time. I actually love my partner, but we haven’t had intimacy for a while now. I’m going through trauma therapy for CSA as well, so my world is pretty much turned upside down 🙄

How about you? What was your journey like?

[TealRibbon]

Hi Sez

I thought about your question. Now this is where I get confused. Yes it was a girl and I was a girl, but back then I passed as a boy, probably until my mid teens and even sometimes in my early 20s. I had a boyish nickname, short hair and I’ve always been around boys, now men. I knew back then that gay people existed, we had a guy in school who was gay. That was pretty much all I knew about sexuality. Gender wasn’t even discussed in my little town.

So I went into a hetero relationship and have been there ever since. Refused to have children. And always had this desire that I just wanted people to accept me as me, just the way I am - whatever that is. And that’s what I am trying to figure out. I can’t believe I walked around this world with the biggest blinders on my eyes!

[TealRibbon]

Good morning All,

I just realised I should open another thread for my questions, I think this is supposed to be just a social place.

Have nice colourful day x

[Just Sara]

Hi again TR;

Thanks for getting back to me. I understand your dilemma so please don't worry. With talking about sexuality and gender issues, if we discuss them here others will see and learn or be encouraged to contribute.

So don't be concerned about starting a new thread yet ok. Of course, you have the option so please don't let me discourage you either. CSA is important. You and I have this in common as do others that post on this thread.

Yes, we do socialise, but we also get into discussions about topics such as yours. Some who post here have very similar issues to you; me included.

What I've come to understand, is that gender identity's about labels. People want to call themselves something that satisfies their need to 'know'; to be accepted or to be able to explain who they are to others - like our loved ones.

There are so many labels out there now, even I get confused. You've described your physical appearance and relationship situation and I'm glad you have. So what brings you to this neck of the woods TR?

If you could ask or tell me anything, what would it be?

It's lovely to meet you hun. If you do create a personal thread, please let me know here so I can find you ok. If you post the link from the address bar I can go straight to it. Once I post there it'll be placed on 'My Threads' for future contact.

Have a great day!

Sez x

[llllllhx]

Hi all,

Being a member of LGBT+ for so long (or not so long as I found out I'm gay at age 16ish and I'm currently 24), I only have two experiences about being gay. The first one is a 'straight guy' in high school. We were really close to each other. We did things like a real couple (including sex) and one day he decided to ask a girl to be his girlfriend. Sadly, I'm a good friend of the girl as well. I felt betrayed and did not speak to them until recent years.

And the second one is when I moved to Melbourne. I started to chat with one guy online and finally agreed to a meet-up. All I thought was like chatting in a cafe or something. But I guess he just wants some fun. I am not good at turning people down so we hooked up.

Now, I'm still on dating apps. I knew exactly what I want. To love and loved by someone. But the truth is I don't know how to accomplish that. And I have developed depression since high school because of being gay. I just don't feel like I have a future anymore.

God, I wish I can be heterosexual or asexual. It will be so much simpler. Sorry about the negativity I brought.

Louis