First day on here and one step forward

[TBR]

Hi everyone, I'm TBR this idea of BB was given to me as a good step forward and after many thoughts and self-doubt about this, thought  I'd give it a go to see where it leads and what I can give and get from these forums. The more tests I take about mental health the results all seem to point that some kind of help is required. I've already read some of your posts so know I'm not alone or a one off with how I feel. Have talked to a few professionals about my situation and they're supportive but until the situation is resolved I feel I'm on a one way street of depression and confusion as to what the future holds. Losing my job due to injury and all the consequences that can arise out of that is at times overwhelming. Hopefully once I learn how to use these forums, just chatting to likeminded people in a similar situation may help.

[mmMekitty]

Hello TBR

Although my situation is not similar to yours, I'd like to welcome you to the forums.

Dealing with injury is sort of like how I deal with my physical health not being what I'd like it to be. It's hard work & doing what I can to keep my mental health from being affected by my rather unhealthy physical condition & how slowly it has been to begin to feel it is becoming better.

I think, if you are dealing with an injury which is taking a long time to heal, or which will have had long-term or permanent effects upon your body, or has you experiencing pain much of the time, then it surely is very difficult to keep from feeling down, angry, upset, frustrated, ... & more. Add to that, losing your job will also take a toll on your emotions & how you feel about yourself.

Yeah, this really is a very difficult time for you.

From what you said, I wasn't sure if you have found a therapist, who you feel is able to help you. If I've read your words correctly, ... It may take a while, & meeting a few more therapists to find one who is the right fit for you.

You certainly are welcome to look around here some more, maybe join a conversation, whether with a question/s or comments of your own. 

Hugzies

mmMekitty  

[Croix]

Dear TBR~

I'd like to give you a warm welcome here to the Forum. No need for any doubts, you will only meet understanding people here.

Losing one's job though injury is a huge problem, and can seem to be a path leading nowhere. After all it is not as if you left your job by choice, just cruel circumstances. If you have been the bread winner for a family that an extra layer of worry and frustration.

I'm answering your post becuse I was invalided out of my career. While I do not know your  circumstances mine were psychological with PTSD, depression and anxiety. I was told I'd not work again, which really added to my upset at the time.

For quite a while I just sat at home and swallowed tablets as prescribed. I was very hard to get on wiht and could see no future for myself. Eventually my partner persuaded me ot take a course of study and I was lucky, the course clicked with me and after starting slowly I was able to concentrate on it.

This led in a totally unexpected direction as I was invited to teach and a whole new career path opened up. I still had many symptoms but managed.

The reason I mention all this is not becuse I'm suggesting study, just that the totally unexpected can happen even when one feels everything is hopeless.

Depression and confusion are certainly not one way streets, I'm an example. I'm now in a far better state than I was, and that has been partly due to pretty good medical assistance, partly family support and a dose of luck.

Do you mind if I ask if you have anyone to support you? Trying to cope by yourself is extra hard.

I do hope you would like to came back and talk some more about what you are facing

Croix

[TBR]

Hi mmMeKitty 

Thanks for the welcome , I agree if its an injury or not but anything that affects your physical or mental health is no less of a challenge to deal with and get on the road to recovery. No matter how long it takes you got to fight on and believe that for sure one day you will be better and whole again.  

With me I know it will never be the same physically but will get better to the point I can work if I choose to or just chill for a while. Mental Health wise may take a bit longer as so much has happened over the past 14 months which has dragged me down, building me back up could be a challenge. I have a psych at the moment who is good and we chat often about how I feel and it helps for sure. Still got to finish my workers comp claim but think once that is over hopefully I can rebuild to what I used to be, well almost..

I'm slowly getting used to the forums and having a chat and reading other peoples experiences, so many are like me, so I try to answer with some advice I've gained so far and I've picked up on some myself.

Was just luck I got to log on to BB as it was a psych who advised me about it once I said I couldn't commit to her charges  every week. So far BB is certainly a good place to be.

🎉

TBR.

[TBR]

Hi Croix

Thank you for your warm welcome, So far my experience on here is only positive for me and hopefully my comment to others help them as well. 

You know that is such as true statement that losing a job is a huge problem and certainly seems like a path leading nowhere. In my case I got injured at work and now as a result cannot do my old job and the company has said they have no other role for me due to my surgeons restrictions and future surgery  I will need due to aggravation of old injuries.

As you know you go into work one day as normal and the next your facing uncertainty and doubts if you'll ever return. I have got though surgery and physio but will never be the same in regards to the work injury, that has also aggravated old injuries so more surgery outside of the workers comp claim. All this led into my mental health deterioration and depression. I've had online sessions and face to face with mental health therapists and one actually suggested I try BB as well. I've just taken 3 pain killers as I must get a more comfortable chair to sit on when typing, one that doesn't make the hips sore, so I know about swallowing tablets for sure. 

I'm so glad you found that doorway into recovery and moving forward into a new direction which although you still have symptoms your able to control them which is a massive step forward. To say your in a far better state than you were is a credit to your support team which led to you finding a new pathway and self determination.

I agree with you fully that one door slams shut another one down the road opens up which is what I'm hoping for.

I have my psych who I chat to either face to face or on tele-video link and my partner and now I have logged on to BB it has helped already. I will certainly become a regular on here to give as well as get help as this is a great forum for those that are suffering issues that make them feel alone without an outlet.

TBR

[Croix]

Dear TBR~

I can quite understand htat gap fees can put professionals out of reach -or have to be used very sparingly. The situation is completely unrealistic.

As for rebuilding what you used ot be, every experience changes us and hop fully provides a little wisdom. I'm sure when you talk to others here they will benefit form you having gone down the path first.

All the time you are still in the settling of Workers' comp stage if you are like me it is very draining and stressful. Hopefully when that is finalized you may be able to concentrate on what you will be able to do with your life. I'll emphasize there is no closed door, just sometimes difficulties in finding the right niche.

I"m glad you partner is joining you in looking after your mental health, trying to cope alone is not only harder, but also I found just my ideas were not enough, it took another person to see opportunities.

I hope the pain starts to ease

Croix