Dear Moon~
Yes I did read what you had said and can understand how overwhelming it can be. Your son's situation is worrying but I know you are already doing whatever you can - which unfortunately does not stop the worry.
Working is good - provided you do not get too tired - as it can distract and occupy each day you do it. I've found this, and in time things do start to quieten down. The problem remains while your son's battles are going on.
So what to do? The first you are already doing, providing a calm and loving space of normality for your son and grand-kids. That's terribly important, without that how will they know what a true loving relationship is?
The second thing may be harder. You have already listed a whole lot of things you used to do, walking on the beach, reading newspaper in a bar and all hte rest. Try to do them anyway, even if you do not feel like it, the old patterns are in your head and will come forth again, even in different circumstances.
Pair that with not going out of your way to see all the horrible things in life, the news, men haters, the legal system and so no. I know you have to have some contact, but try to have something else ready up for after each contact .
You are also taking too much on yourself with other's worries, for example young gentlemen and young ladies will certainly find a way to pair up - nature will always take it's course 🙂
“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
You are the former, your son's ex the latter
Croix (Who did not realise you were a Monty Python aficionado 🌳)
