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Croix Parler

Croix
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I'd like to use this pace for miscellaneous matters that don't fit elsewhere

Thanks

Croix

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Moonstruck
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It has certainly changed its colour, but for what reason I cannot say..(smirk)

Croix
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Community Champion

Dear smirking Moon and all~

What can I say to that?

Perhaps:

A little scandal is an excellent thing; nobody is ever brighter or happier than when making discoveries.

 

Croix

Moonstruck
Community Member

Croix....especially when one discovers it in " a handbag?????"

 

 

 "I do not approve of anything that tampers with natural ignorance”

Well done Quirky....keep them coming.

Good morning Croix......its 2.57am so thought I'd give you a call.  Couldn't you sleep either?  Must be the Full Moon.  I suppose you're take a few minutes of reflection with your pipe and slippers in your elegant smoking jacket in front of a crackling fireplace.....with a cup of cocoa or a tiny glass of sherry, or port?  What are you reading?  I know - a book of famous quotes?......well goodnight, we may be lucky enough to get a bit more shut-eye....sweet dreams......

Dear Moon~

You were mostly right, except I was busy proof-reading the next episode of Monsterpiece Theater called "Twin Beaks" and so missed your call. The wing-backed chair, velvet smoking jacket and slippers are correct of course as is the cup of cocoa and crackling fire. The pipe is history though, my alter ego ate it

 

As for famous quotes I rely upon your encyclopedic knowledge

 

One's dreams must be big enough so as not to lose sight of them

 

'night

 

Croix

 

Dear Croix...do you mind if I ask your advice here?  You seem such a wise person that I can communicate with.  I am still feeling great about my recent achievement...things are OK...but there's one personal area that I seem to be getting worse with, with age, rather than improving.  you recall I have 2 adult sons, grown up people.  They have had their dramas and traumas like everyone else and of course I was worried about them as a mother would be.  They both seem to have coped with their situations well with strength and maturity.

but my need, (almost obsession it is becoming) to constantly check if they are OK, e.g. ring them, message them etc seems to be growing, not lessening as time goes by....One is more communicative than the other who is fairly reserved, a man of few words but very loving, caring, ...both are wonderful sons and we've always been so close....but I can't seem to Let Them GO!   they both live in other cities and have busy lives.    I get annoyed with myself and can't seem to get it through my head that for them to know I am here for them in any way they need.....is enough!  I remember well what I was doing and coping with at their ages and had no parents to call for help all the time!     I have even thought up excuses for what I am ringing for.....e.g. the truth is I just have this NEED to check constantly that all is well with them.....How often is acceptable for a mother to call on her adult son just to...just to.....say Are you OK?     Do adult men get sick of their Mum doing this?  There are no guidebooks on how to be a mother to a man!!!!     

(footnote:   I was not an over protective Mum when they were babies or children strangely enough.  and yet I seem to be now!!)....... any advice for me Croix?   (you are aware I have a busy enough life of my own now so that's not the problem).......is it connected with my partner dying a few years ago or what?....Moon S

Dear Moon~

If you do mind my saying so you are the sot of person that does tend to worry overmuch. I have the same and if one worry is resolved my anxiety will move on to another, almost as if there was a fixed amount of anxiety and it would latch onto anything to meet its quota.

 

I would not be surprised if your need to reassure yourself of your son's being ok is partly linked to that, and of course partly linked to passing of your partner. which is always a reminder things change, and not always for the best.

 

I guss it depends upon the type of person each of your sons is. There would be no ideal number of times to catch up that would be the same for each. Have you considered talking the matter over with  each of them and let them say what they want, and the try to do that?

 

I suspect this may reduce the number of times you pick up the phone, so I's suggest you have preparations to hand you can use when the urge to ring at a non prearranged interval becomes hard to bear. This may be reading, walking on the beach, perusing black boot shops or any one of a large number of enjoyable things that will occupy your mind.

 

Some offspring like a natter with a parent every day or so, others will not want to be in contact unless there is a specific reason. Takes all types, and it does not mean a lack of love on their part, just people are different from each other.

 

I can resist anything except temptation

 

Croix

Ok Croix....that makes sense as you always do.  If I end up with a house-full of fashionable black boots this winter we can blame you!  (in fact I have a sneaky suspicion that the boys/men.guys have more sense, self control and coping skills than I ever had through a lot of my adulthood, after I was left a single Mum.  It took a long time to glue enough of me together to function in society and the workplace and perhaps I assume they are as messed up as I am...but they seem much more capable than I was...how did they turn out so well?  It remains a mystery to me!    Yes I think I need a new pair of black boots so I can do my power-walk!  Moon S