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Croix Parler

Croix
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I'd like to use this pace for miscellaneous matters that don't fit elsewhere

Thanks

Croix

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Eagle Ray
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Dear MK, Joining a choir again could be a wonderful thing to do. If you decide to, perhaps choose a choir that sings music you really like. I imagine with your NDIS support review, having someone who can take you to choir practice would be great. Singing in a group can really lift the spirits.

 

At one point I joined a gospel choir. I’m not formally religious but I love gospel music, and the choir existed for the love of that kind of music. Occasionally in choirs you can get a few slightly challenging people. In this gospel choir there was one member who was rather competitive and got very worked up if there wasn’t enough sheet music to go round for everyone that week and didn’t want to share. But best not to worry about those people and focus on enjoying the music.

 

Quite a few years ago now I was at a seminar about mental health and a choir performed who were made up of people who were mostly homeless or facing major mental health challenges. You could see what it meant for them and it was so moving. I basically cried throughout their whole performance it made me feel so much, knowing that the music was helping them and lifting their spirits.

 

There is a choir in a neighbouring town about half an hour from here. I should find out when they rehearse. If it’s at night the main downside is driving back with the kangaroos and emus on the road. You do see a fair few dead ones on the side of the road when driving in the day time. I’ve occasionally driven back from there at night though.

 

There is definitely something super healthy about singing for breathing. I have such severe depression at the moment it’s like my spirit is really struggling to lift itself. But I think I might have to make myself sing. Fake it till you make it kind of thing. And then I might experience a shift in my breathing.

 

 I think it’s very likely the aerobic exercises you’re doing are helping with your breathing which would also be great for singing. Up until my health really started to crash and I damaged a ligament in my arm I was going to the gym 5-6 days a week. I know I got a lot stronger. I’m very fatigued at present so I might be best singing first, but I’d love to be able to go to the gym again too.

 

Happy singing MK! 🎶 

mmMekitty
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Oh, ER, you have just reminded me of The Choir of Hard Knocks - wasn't that wonderful!

I saw them on tele. I can't remember the year though. I wonder if they are still going? Maybe there is something like that around, at least one in each state & territory I hope.

Your decision to move to where you live now was such a big decision, taking the risk as you did, that it might not have been so healthful for you as it's turned out to be. 

 

Hey, Croix, would Sumo Cat like to snuggle to keep warm?

 

Hugzies everyone

MMMekitty

 

Croix
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Dear ER and MK~

Yes the Choir of Hard Knocks is still going after 16 or so years and is an inspiring way that music binds people together. It is not only the personal satisfaction of singing, which can be pretty great even if you are no opera star, but the cooperation between so many to work together to produce a beautiful sound.

 

I'd suggest if anyone had the opportunity and even minimal ability it would be worth investigating any choirs near them.

 

I even know of one community group in SA that brings people together who do not have English as their first language and if they can't sing are handed a drum. It works!

 

ER~ yes I know I mix up two threads, but I'm not worried if you're not. I thought not going on but lying in the back of your car surrounded by nature was a pretty sensible thing to do. There is so much pressure with medical assessments and treatments and trying to find professionals that have the right abilities it is no wonder you need to rest from it all.

 

Hopefully you will get a team together soon that will support you.

 

MK~ I mentioned the matter to Sumo, but as he was ensconced on the mat right in front of the fire and already toasty warm he merely twitched a whisker. No double later on he'll change his mind (it gets cold here of a night)

 

Croix

Dear Quirky.  I have been doing so much reading things on carrying others heavy luggage..which isn't even mine. Some make a lot of sense. I know in order to live my own full life I must practise self care and lots of it. To step back a bit from something I cannot change or I will not get any joy with friends..activities.or the things I loved. It is so so hard but I will drown if I keep going like this I even feel a bit guilty if I find myself feeling good, or peaceful or enjoy friends..I just want to fix things for my son..and I can't..😓

Eagle Ray
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Dear Croix, MK, Moon and All,

 

No I’m not worried about the thread mix up at all Croix. Thank you for your kind words. Lying in the back of my car eventually restored me to a more functional state and as I’m only short is really quite comfortable.

 

MK, I moved to this town because of meaningful stays I’d had here in the past, including very difficult times in my life. It’s held me when I’ve been broken, especially a place by the ocean I love where I go when I need to feel connected. So even though it may not have a resident choir I’m aware of, it’s been a lifeline to me in other ways. I received some possibly concerning pathology info in the mail today, but I’m already coming to terms with it without any formal info or explanation from the specialist yet. If I’m going to be anywhere through health challenges I think this is the place to be.

 

Just thinking of Sumo ensconced on the mat toasty warm is comforting. Today when I walked to the mail box the neighbour’s staffy cross ran up to me for pats and cuddles. He is a loveable boy with a beautiful nature. They are so good for the soul. I felt good after patting him.

Croix
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Dear Moon~

Having a loving mother fixes more than oyu might imagine, you don't have to do, so much as just be.

 

You can have a snippet of a quote, the rest does not apply

"Some cause happiness wherever they go;"

 

Croix

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Just posted on my thread if you want to say hello. It's" I can't find the right place to post"....I think...

Yes Croix.....see my last message here.  i posted how I was...on my thread, answering your question.Rambling a bit I am afraid.  am a bit busy with work.   Is that good?    I am trying, I really am,to take my own life back and put down my son's problems but not succeeding   .   I read books, I need my life back, my music, my books, my TV, my relaxing beach walks, my reading the paper in a bar, talking to friends   .  I don't do any of these things any more, so swamped.   Realise it has brought back in horrible detail, my own marriage break up, the suffering of my 2 kids, the unfairness and cruelty of my husband, their father.   Its all still there, clear as glass in my memory.    I can't have this happening to my own son.  I can't bear it.  And his own two kids...how confused and damaged are they?     say something wise and sensible....please!   Tell me how to keep living my life....and not like I am living through this marriage breakdown with him.....I cant handle this and the solicitors drag things out.  The wheels of the Law turn so slowly   Its a nightmare.   I loathe these"man haters" on TV, marching in protest about men, guys, adolescent boys don't know how to be any more .  Who can blame them?  Do they smile at a girl or will that be harassment.   Can they say "I like your dress, you look lovely".....I love men.  I know some wonderful men.....stop hating them.  My little grandson will be a guy soon, a man...shock horror!!   What is his mother doing to do then?  She already is having trouble realising her cute baby boy is gone, gone lady..what are you gonna do then?     Life is crap Croix....just watch TV, news, current affairs, parliament for Gods sake....The Voice saga......I hate this world now.   I can see no beauty, no hope, no joy......sorry Croix...had to get it out!

Croix
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Dear Moon~

Yes I did read what you had said and can understand how overwhelming it can be. Your son's situation is worrying but I know you are already doing whatever you can - which unfortunately does not stop the worry.

 

Working is good - provided you do not get too tired - as it can distract and occupy each day you do it. I've found this, and in time things do start to quieten down. The problem remains while your son's battles are going on.

 

So what to do? The first you are already doing, providing a calm and loving space of normality for your son and grand-kids. That's terribly important, without that how will they know what a true loving relationship is?

 

The second thing may be harder. You have already listed a whole lot of things you used to do, walking on the beach, reading newspaper in a bar and all hte rest. Try to do them anyway, even if you do not feel like it, the old patterns are in your head and will come forth again, even in different circumstances.

 

Pair that with not going out of your way to see all the horrible things in life, the news, men haters, the legal system and so no. I know you have to have some contact, but try to have something else ready up for after each contact .

 

You  are also taking too much on yourself with other's worries, for example  young gentlemen and young ladies will certainly find a way to pair up - nature will always take it's course 🙂

 

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”

 

You are the former, your son's ex the latter

 

Croix (Who did not realise you were a Monty Python aficionado 🌳)

 

 

 

Croix
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Dear Moon~

your second quote ("only a flesh wound") reminded me that "Holy Grail" is my favorite Monty Python movie. My local library allows one to borrow it and other MP movies on DVD.

 

If you got the chance viewing them again might be enjoyable. Sadly Graham Chapman and now Terry Jones have passed away, then again it is nearly 50 years since Grail was made. I would really have liked ot meet any of the crew in person, it would be fascinating

 

"We'll not risk another frontal assault. That rabbit's dynamite."

 

Croix