Yelling

[SwansandSharksMan]

Do you find yourself constantly having reminders of your childhood? Constantly remembering teachers and parents yelling at you? Has it made you scared in general? Has it made you have trouble making decisions? Do you have flash backs about it? Has it made you angry? Or perhaps has it made you determined never to be angry with people?

[white knight]

Hi SSM,

I have multiple conditions stemming from, mainly childhood.

Anxiety that peaked in 1987 at 31yo was I believe due to being not only yelled at but yelled at with no warning...screaming would be more accurate. I'd jump in fright and me and my siblings would never be fully relaxed.

As well as that was manipulation, pitting one sibling against the other, degradation and so on. My mother ruined my first wedding due to tantrums...no real reason that was obvious.

The antics continued until 2010 when my sister and I separated from our destructive mother permanently. My mother was in denial when asked to seek professional mefical help. Therefore our only option is guessing her illness that we believe is Borderline Personality Disorder. Untreated she continues to demonise us to telatives and many lies result in us losing some cousins.

So yes, yelling is one of many unnecessary traits of parents that scar us for life.

Google- beyondblue topic the definition of abuse

TonyWK.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi SwansandSharksMan,

Thank you for your post.

To answer your question, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and yes.

A big part of childhood abuse and flashbacks can be related to trauma, and we do have a trauma section here - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/ptsd-trauma  If you trawl through the threads you'll find a lot of other people who can answer yes to this question too.

Feel free to let us know how we can help or if there's anything you'd like to share or ask.

RT