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[Deano12345]

Hey guys just reaching out to chat to anyone that is in a similair situation as me. First of all I feel for everyone that struggles day to day with mental issues. We can only dream of the day where life is how it should be. I am 23 year old male who since leaving school as struggled with socialising due to a very anxious feeling and racing mind. Over time this has lead me to have next to no close friends and my life is far from how I would like it. I feel like depression has creeped on in in the last few years and find myself sounding really dull and quite compared to.a.majority of people. It has gotten to the point work is becoming difficult. I no deep down I am a funny guy but my mental problems mask anyone from seeing this. I always feel so serious n tence when really I just wont to open up and have a.friend. the combination of both depression and anxiety has made me become very quite, seriouse, lonely, sad and I feel like I cant even spark a conversation anymore. It used to be so natural Im just hoping the old me is still there. I sound so dumb at times and feel like my whole thinking process is slowed right down. I have had moments of happines which where caused from me moving out and being forced.to live with mates which after a week or two I felt amazing again. And where I had great belief I was going to.become good again. These feelings of relief where amazing but unfortunately didnt stick as I have fallen back into my old thinking pattern. I find socialising my hardest obsticle and it always reminds me that im no good just reaching out for a chat or any advice even a friend with similar issues. Much love

[jc2000]

Hi Deano12345,

I'm so sorry you feel this way, but you have come to a good place if your looking for support, because I've found over the past week that these beyond blue forums are very helpful and the people in it are very kind and are genuinely concerned for you wellbeing.

You said that you've been struggling with anxiety for a while and now depression seems to be creeping up on you? Have you considered talking to a GP? They could refer you onto a psych? Going to a psych can be really intimidating, especially when you're struggling with anxiety, but it really helps to talk through your problems with a professional because you can trust them (even if they seem like a total stranger) and they do want what's best for you.

You've taken an amazing first step by posting onto this forum, I hope to hear from you soon,

Julia

[Deano12345]

Hey julia thanks for the reply I really appreciate it. I have just started seeing a physc and doing online therapy which has its great tips n techniques although I believe the answer is simple but hard. I mean I have had feelings of happiness through my episodes of sadness and they are clear whats good for me like having a good group of mates reminded me of what I can be like, and positive thinking on a deeper gut level after believing quiting old bad habits will make me feel better. Hitting another.bump in.the road brang.me back to square one and now I dont have the backup of believing it was bad habits as much positive thinking I try to do it dosnt help as much

[jc2000]

Hi Deano12345,

It's unfortunate that this "bump in the road" has had such a detrimental effect on you, I'm sorry.

You said that you have periods in which you do feel happy, and you remember the kind of person you are when you are around your friends. I think you should really focus on that, I know it's hard because of how you are feeling and where you are mentally, but it's really important that you try to focus on it. You could try to be mindful of how you feel, acknowledge how you feel but don't fixate on it, and also don't try to just shove those feelings out the door because they need to be acknowledged in calm way.

I would really encourage you to talk to someone who you are close with, that you trust. I know you said you find it very difficult to do talk to people about what's going on, but if you want to get better, you need to try.

I hope to hear from you soon,

Julia