What is happening and what can i do?

[yesterday]

Hello fellow online communicators, i am brand new here, I am looking for help and also to be helpful to others. I am almost forty years old, english and living on Sydneys lower north shore. I have been undergoing (very mismanaged) treatment for depression for probably ten years or more now. lately i have been suffering really persistent anxiety, which isn't usual for me. I just seem to be jumping straight to the most negative conclusions within my thought processes. Half of me thinks just go and get some medication to numb the pain and confusion of this latest instalment of wackiness, the other half of me wants to take on a back to square one approach and fight the whole mental illness thing on a more comprehensive level. The problem is that sometimes i feel strong enough to do that, other times i can't even lift my head off the pillow. Any words of wisdom?

Thanks wholeheartedly in advance

G

[geoff]

dear Yesterday, I am concerned that you have been going through 'mismanaged treatment ' for your depression, and the problem with this is that we can't just rock up to an appointment to a psych. pretending that it is supposedly helping us, when in fact it's doing bugger all.

By just taking medication maybe fine ( I hate that loose word ) but it's like covering up the problem with a band-aid, and not solving the main reason why we are depressed, and that's why it would be a good idea to 'fight the whole illness', as much as this is a frightening experience.

I would change your psych if that's possible, but along this journey you will have periods of when all you want to do is sleep, and you can't be blamed for doing this, as it's depression controlling you.

Do you want to get back to us when ever it suits you, as there's more hidden in this post. Geoff.

[Pixie15]

Hi Yesterday, I think Geoff is right getting treatment is hard and confronting. It can really leave you feeling confused and vulnerable but if you push through from my own experience it can get better. You do not say who is mismanaging your treatment. If you are just taking medication for your depression you might find it helpful to see a therapist. Cognitive behavior therapy will give you tools to help deal with your thinking processes. I do know some people who take medication for depression and anxiety, have no serious side effects, and are happy not to do any more. Everybody is different. Peace, Daisy101.

[Ratma2001]

I am new here as you can tell first post.

i am in the boat with one foot i think ?

cant seem to get my head around things...not sure why but turned into a stress machine/worry wart, thinking about htings constantly, have trouble sleeping, body and mind drained everyday, diet is same i eat when hungry but have slowed with some meals , dont have breakfast and little for lunch.(dont feel like eating) just feeling nausea all the time!

not sleeping much either around 4 hours a night, just lie their thinking about nothing in particular but worried how to fix it ?

so tired yet cant sleep mind is like on overdrive about nothing? why cant i understand this?

Have spoken to my local gp but havent really related things going on, dont need a trip to the hospital. thing just getting to me in a way that doesnt seem logical, has been going on last 2 years.

i can relate to Yestarday OP

i appreciate everyones time and effort here and look forward to speaking again

Thankyou

[Mbuna]

Yesterday & Ratma

 My depression comes in waves as well. Normally something will trigger it like work or argument with wife. I have managed to tackle mine without medication so far. I have been very tempted to go see my GP and get medication. He has tried to encourage me to try and do it without the medication if i can. I find that the 3 main keys to controlling my depression is sleep, exercise and diet. If you don't eat and are tired all the time you are going to get run down. I don't like to eat breakfast either. I try to have something small though like a banana or breakfast drink. I always eat lunch and dinner. I find exercise good too. Walking is good. If I am feeling down a walk often helps drag me out of it. It also helps me sleep better at night. 

[Ratma2001]

This has worked well for me (sarcasm)! i tried to explain to my Wife and she just went off and now its time to look for somewhere else to live .

although its gutted me beyond what im used to its my 7 year old son who has now got to deal with me not being there

Support from my now ex wife has been dismal at best, but when her mother passed away i was 100% there helping and giving her space and time, obviously its not a 2 way street.

this is why i dont even say anything at work in relation to here.

[Mbuna]

Ratma,

Im really sorry to hear things have not turned out well. Maybe your wife is dealing with issues of her own. I really hope things settle down and you can save your relationship.