Vallie

[Vallie]

How do you cope with living alone when you have never done itbefore

[Matchy69]

Hi Callie and welcome to the forums and making your first post.Living alone for the first time is really a hard thing to come to terms with at first.I know it was such a weird feeling and having a completely different life.I think one of the main things was getting into a routine during the day.I use to go for a walk every morning when I woke up.I had a dog and was really good company.Do you have any pets?Do you have friends and family you keep in contact with that you can ring and visit?
Take care,
Mark.

[Emmen]

Dear Vallie,

Welcome to the forums. Living alone can be a scary thought at first, but like everything else, you will get used to it after a while. It's a learning journey and while you wouldn't start out knowing what works for you, you will over time.

I remember when I first moved out over a decade ago, I didn't know what to do either. What helped was to make a list of things I felt I needed to do, even the little things like planning my grocery shopping and cleaning routines. That helped me slowly get into the swing of living alone.

As for socials, I didn't worry to much about that at first. Once I started figuring myself out in my new space, I started going out more and meeting friends.

The first few weeks will always be a little strange and unfamiliar, but hang in there, you'll be fine.

Kindly,
M

[Thealth]

You can actually cope with it, but it takes time. There are reasons why people are afraid of being alone. My first experience of living alone is funny actually. I rent in a hotel to stay in 3days and It's dark at that time when I checked in. I keep thinking weird thoughts because It was my first time being alone in my life. I keep looking at the walls, ceiling, randomly checking my phone even though there's nothing to do, and when I start relaxing and I forced myself to think that I need to sleep and after that, I close my eyes forcibly and hug my pillow for a minute and that time I didn't realize that I am already sleeping. And when I woke up, I did a dead-stare at the ceiling and I was feeling like I am adapting to the strange and unfamiliarity of the place. The progress is slow so It takes time.