Total confusion am I just being a sook?!?

[Guest_98]

So when around to many people I get really nervous to join in on conversations I can’t look at people in the eyes I actually don’t even no were to look when a group may b having a conversation near me coz I feel like if I say something it’s gona be totally wrong and stupid and I wish I would have just kept quite, I always feel like people lie to me like constantly I have major trust issues, then I get a feeling as if they think I lie to them?! I tend to say things I truly don’t mean like saying yes to things want to say no to or things like that....

I will think and rethink situations in my mind all the time it drives me crazy, Wishing I did things differently! I care what people think of me way to much I think they all think I’m just a weirdo, I tend to not be able to be around people for to long because I think there getting bored of me and I’m annoying them and it all comes back to not being able to hold a conversation.... but then at the same time sometimes I don’t wana be alone but I don’t wana talk to anyone eaither....

I have a constant feeling that I need to be changing my job or my life i tend to stay at a job for 2 years or need something going on in my life because if I don’t then get really nervous and I feel as if I’m gona get fired or something so I’ll quit and start again somewhere new.. or I moved to Queensland For a bit and then I went on an overseas holiday for 5 weeks and now moved out of home but still now have this feeling I need to do something again.... it’s not a good feeling I get!! I’ve worked so hard to get my little flat but just have this terrible feeling in my stomach all the time that things aren’t good enough!!

I feel as if I need to move back home or something and re group myself but I just don’t no sorry to vent I just don’t understand y I think so much on the things I feel so shitty about

[Scarlettsweb]

Hey mindful,

just want to let you know that I have had th exact same feeling thoughout the whole of my 20s. If I wasn't doing a dramatic change in my life than I wasn't moving foward. Really it created chaos with all the moving and never feeling settled. The minute something wasn't going I have ah I hoped I would up and change it- I've had over 20 jobs, probably moved about 10 times. I also wanted something better. It is exhausting living that sort of life. I'm nearly 30 know and I don't have any solid friends from moving all the time just many friends 'for a season'.

i have no idea what this feeling is and how to stop it, but I just wanted to let you know that your not alone. And if I could give you some advice from my own experience would be to see if your trying to run away from something. Look at ways you could improve your life without having to do a massive shift. Figure out your priorities and work towards them. Just keep chipping away at it instead of changing things all the time.

im not sure about the conversation part but if you start by asking questios and being intersted in what people are saying it usually gets a good response.

im just another sufferer so I really don't know, just wanted to share that with you so you know your not alone.

I hope something in the above ramble helps you 😊

[Croix]

Dear Mindfull100~

I'd like to join Scarlettsweb in welcoming you here to the Forum. I think there would be an awful lot of people that have experienced some or all of the things you talk about, everything you mention from difficulties interacting with people to feelings that something is going to go wrong (being fired or such).

The trouble is not only does this make for a most unpleasant life but also it affects decision making. How many moves or changes would you have made if you were confident and untroubled?

It can be very hard to know what to expect in life. I thought things like that were my own personality and my own failings. Now I know they were caused by my anxiety condition and by and large these things are under control.

This did not happen overnight but due to medical support (meds and therapy) plus the care and understanding of my family I improved a great deal. (I did have other problems that made treatment more difficult). So if I was in your place I'd visit my GP and set out all that has been happening to you and how you feel in a long consultation. I found that as the whole matter was pretty complex I wrote everything down first in point form and shared the paper.

As I mentioned there are plenty here who are similar. You might firstly like to look at the anxiety section of The Facts menu above to find out about the various sorts of symptoms and what treatments are available. You might also like to have browse around this Forum too, to find out how others have coped.

Please feel welcome enough to come back and talk more

Croix