Hi Tilsa
Sounds like these people have serious problems, a lack of maturity included, which is definitely a problem for you. I suppose there are a number of things to consider. If the father is the owner manager of both restaurants, I'd definitely look at preparing to leave. If he's not and you get along really well with the manager, perhaps it's worth having a chat with them or even letting the chefs know they need to tone it down and get their act together before you do have a chat with the manager. Wondering whether you'd have other staff members who'd be prepared to back you up.
From my own experience, I've found just about every mental health challenge I've faced over the years has come down to self esteem. Whether it involves what's depressing or anxiety inducing, I've often been challenged to develop greater levels of self esteem. With self esteem defined as a combination of Self respect and Self efficacy or the belief in one's ability to complete a task or reach a goal, the question is 'What is the goal?'. If you decide to stay, perhaps the goal is to tell it how it is, which is definitely a test in developing greater levels of self esteem. For example, you could say to the father 'If you're going to speak to me, control yourself and stop yelling'. You could say to the daughter 'Stop questioning me and check your facts before you come to me. Stop wasting my time'. You could say to the chef who semi undressed 'You do understand this is not appropriate and is actually a reportable offense'.
Working with self entitled people, who feel entitled to make their life easier by making life hell for others, is definitely a challenge. I figure, occasionally they need to be challenged otherwise they remain self entitled as those around them continue to suffer.
