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Return to work
It’s my 2nd week back so many people are asking me questions why am I at this work place and not the previous work site ( I was bullied injured ect ect ) been on work cover for 11 months and was at the original site for 11 months . I’m getting questions of how & why and was it this and that it’s frankly becoming quite annoying I can’t discuss what happened to me as it’s confidential and if I discuss it it will spread like wildfire and I’m in no way wanting more drama than I already have returning to work it’s quite hard these employees know nothing of what I feel having to be questioned like I have and stuff it’s like I can’t tell u so why ask it may be curious or gossip festing on the staff’s behalf but I still can’t say anything no matter how much they badger me . How do I handle this as it’s becoming a thing this questions and I’m like I can’t even discuss it so not sure how to go about it really.
Your post caught my attention by surprise.
Possibly I was drawn to your words as I have also been subjected to workplace bullying and more.
It is an horrendous journey where the so called areas of support can only serve to add to the trauma in my case.
I hope that you have some ongoing support outside of workcover for the trauma incurred from your experiences. Request a referral from your personal gp not workcover.
You are extremely brave and courageous returning to work whether by choice or not.
I have read that this treatment is rampant across most workforces in areas you and I would not believe.
Is your manager aware of your confidential situation and circumstances? Have they communicated to all staff that you are returning to work after recovering and rehabilitating from a medical condition?
That is all that needs to and should be disclosed. Nothing more? The subject is not to be brought up.
Do not discuss the reasons why with anyone. Not even your manager.
If someone befriends you and tries to find out. Reply with thank you for asking but I am focussing on my continuing to feel better and moving forward. I choose not to think about the past.
A medical letter should be sent to your manager or management higher stating only that you are now deemed fit to return to work after recovering and rehabilitating from a medical condition.
Make an appointment with your personal gp and explain what is now happening and that you need a letter addressed to the management of your company saying exactly the above and that all staff are to be informed.
In order for you to be able to perform your duties to the best of your ability and in the interests of all other staff members and management your medical condition is not to be questioned. Thank you for respecting these requirements.
They would be familiar with this scenario and may have better suggestions.
Management do have to be accountable and the behaviour of staff as a whole is unacceptable.
Everything that you feel is valid and do not allow yourself to go down the path of questioning you.
You are showing up. You have rights as a human being apart from an employee.
There should also be human resources or a person who handles this kind of treatment.
This is a start.
Then try to sort out the sincere people from the troublemakers without being noticed.
They are there. Probably hiding.
I will follow your post should you
Lastly well done in landing here and writing about this.
Many cannot face this.
You have great strength and you will find a way to get through this.
thank you for your reply and advise I will definitely discuss it with my GP I did discuss it today with my new manager but she just shrugged her shoulders I don’t entirely know what has been disclosed by my RTWC no idea what has been said of my recovery I only have partial capacity I assumed all staff knew I was returning to work but I face this sort of questioning every time I go into work and I’m like constantly saying I can’t discuss it I can’t discuss it and it’s quite irritating for me as it triggers memories of my time in my old workplace and then I feel guilt / sick anxious the rest of the day all I’m trying to do is get on with my day and not fester on all this hate mongers from this new work they are literally in shock that im there at all and it’s like the look on their faces is like why is she here what happened I get it but I can’t discuss it and I won’t discuss it
If many people are asking you the same questions, then it is likely the rumours have already been circulating (and possibly someone clumsily or vindictively leaked sensitive information). Unfortunately, your silence only fuels the curiosity and perpetuates gossip - such is the nature of human behaviour and it sounds like you're feeling goaded as one who prods a caged animal.
My suggestion is to dismiss such questions with a humorous quip about wanting to be closer to the beach or some other nonsense to put them off guard and deflect the attention. Alternatively, respond with a question asking why this is so important or relevant to them - perhaps ask why they think you are here. This may provide some useful insight into the background chatter.
As with all newcomers, there is a natural interest to establish a pecking order (with many vying for supremacy or simply out to score points) so it may be fairly innocuous behaviour exacerbated only by your secrecy. On some occasions it can be the need to sus out if you are 'genuine' and not someone planted to report on work practices.
However, you may be overlaying your past experience onto this similar environment which has understandably heightened your senses to intimidation - remember you are still recovering and this will take some time to adjust and build confidence again.
Thank you for your reply all good points I know there is some toxic stuff between the two sites which I have no interest in participating in as toxic leads to toxic and once I participate in it I can become toxic myself which is something that just doesn’t sit right with me to chat about what happened to me at work in a different work site like it’s not relevant to why I’m at work I’m at work to support myself & my daughter that is all I understand the curiosity but honestly it annoys me a lot as it’s like why is it their business it not happening to them so move on , I will try these attempts at deflecting and redirecting the questions if it continues to be too much I’ll complain about it again to a more senior person and make it clear it’s not a point of discussion and I don’t want to discuss it or add to the already fractured relationships between the two work sites like honestly these people behave in ways I’m not accustomed to and it’s like weird and unsettling and quite childish it’s like if u hate each other go about it but at least just let it be like what’s the point of poking at it it change’s nothing
Sorry to hear that nothing formal in place
There are policies in place around people returning to work after work cover.
Work cover are accountable and so are your management in theory.
It sounds as though your manager does not have the power from above management to do her job (did you say she?) as in "manage". A middle management issue that is rife these days.
Nevertheless you still have rights and it really is up to you how you feel.
How do you want to be treated?
Do you want it to just all go away, fade so that you can just get on with your job?
Or do you want to be treated with respect as a human being that every single person deserves?
How are you coping with your feelings and thoughts and are these impacting your personal life or all areas of your life as well as work?
There are advocates and resources but sometimes it takes a while to find ones that are helpful.
Some people believe ignore it or speak about it.
Ask yourself what you believe before you make any decisions as your choice can impact you further down the track and you must put you first.
I really hope that you have some help here.
Fairwork ombudsman covers this stuff. They have a huge workload yes. You still are entitled to their help and can make the call if you have not already. They might give you further directions.
There are other avenues.
Have you telephoned the Beyond Blue helpline? They have a list of resources and might be able to redirect you also.