PLEASE - Finding it hard to maintain employment

[Stussylee]

For the life of me I need support.
I have a problem wherein land these jobs and then I just chuck in the towel.
I just don't rock up , why?
I don't know I am trying to get to the bottom of it.
Find out how to live a life where I am not self sabotaging myself.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

You do havd a serious problem. The good news as I see it is that you have insight that it is an issue and you refuse to just go along with it.

That takes courage. So, it now is more a situation whereby you need to find the best way to tackle the problem. Go to your GP and tell him/her what is happening. You could be entitled to 10 free visits to a psychologist.

As we are under the mentally unwell umbrella we cant offer you direct advice like professionals can. We can however, compliment such treatment with support 24/7/365 which you might find handy to give us updates and other suggestion we can give.

So, plough ahead, you've identified there is a problem, the first step is completed. A step many rarely pass.

TonyWK

[Stussylee]

I can't get a new mental health care plan because I had one last year and it over laps. So I have to wait now... I don't want to go backwards any advice?

[Croix]

Dear Stussylee~

I'd think that Tony's suggestion you get medical support is a good one, and if you currently can't get a MH Plan then perhaps an understanding GP with an interest in Mental Health conditions may tide you over.

Getting and keeping jobs is not just one thing. To apply for a job produces a great deal of stress and anxiety, and while naturally enough you are concentrating on the application there will be at the back of your mind a hazy idea of what the job might be like if you got it.

If you go get it a whole new load of stress and anxiety kicks in. Not only do you have that new job now in sharp focus, knowing what it is like, but this too creates stress and anxiety.

If you have already exhausted yourself in the application process there is very little resilience and coping skills left to actually deal with the new position - and simply giving up may seem the only option.

Trying to lead as stress free life as possible, and trying to partition part of hte day for job, and art for all other things can help. To reduce stress everyday exercise, healthy nutrition, good sleep and activity is important. Two helpful links you can copy and paste in your browser are:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/self-help-tips-for-managing-anxiety/page/5

Does this seem to make sense?

I'd also like to ask if you have anyone to support you at home, sometimes talking things over, or even been accompanied on some occasions can help

Croix

[blondguy]

Hi Stussylee

As TonyWK and Croix mentioned above your best bet is a GP....even without a MH Plan.

Do you have a GP that you can talk too?.....or even a bulk billing GP?

you are not alone here Stussylee

Paul

[Stussylee]

At home life isn't good, so speaking to my boyfriend is out of the option. His mentality is all is good if I'm working. He doesn't want a bar of me if I'm not working, he doesn't understand not everyone is like him. Get up, go, be okay. I am struggling I have confronted work and let them know what a going on but now risking being let go. Their understanding but waiting for a phone call back and stressed as f.

[white knight]

Hi Stussylee

You could have the most understanding people in management of most firms (highly unlikely) and you might still lose your job. That is because of cheques and balances, companies cannot afford to have employees off work beyond their sick day numbers or it will take two employees to cover for you. This is because businesses usually run slim profits to remain competitive. It often isn't a personal vendetta.

With persons with mental illness it is nye impossible for others without it (eg your boyfriend) to understand. It isn't fair to point the finger at these people, although its nice when they do have understanding and are supportive but anything you get is a bonus.

Also with mental illness I've always advocated that a part time job initially then maybe 2 part time jobs is better than one full time job. This is because if you know you are only at work for say 3 hours you are more inclined to go, it is less enduring. Can you ask your boss if there is a part time position available.

Like Blondeguy said- you are not alone on this forum, we are listening.

TonyWK

[Croix]

Dear Stussylee~

Waiting for somethng important is the pits, and I've still not managed calm. I do use a free smartphone app called Smiling Mind. Even the 2 minute intro exercise is good. I'm hopeless at mindfulness and the rest but this program gives me just enough prompts to stop my mind wandering back to the particular hassle I'm trying to cope with

Tales a bit of practice, Why not give it a try?

I"m sorry about your BF, you need someone who tries even if they don't completely understand.

please let us know what happens about that phone call

Croix