nobody seems to notice

Hollie2097
Community Member

do they not care? do they not know? do they not want to accept it? do i not screa out for help loud enough? im drowning in my own mess i feel like im being choked or suffocated how do i make people notice im drowning!!!! im scared

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Pixie15
Community Member

Hi Hollie, I think everyone is a bit caught up in their own mess. If you need help it may be necessary to find the right person and ask them directly. Are you scared because you are feeling anxious or do you have another reason?

darren12
Community Member

Hi, My name is Darren I am 51 yrs old. This year my girl friend who I loved very much left me, I have since lost my job and for the first time in my life I can't pay my bills. I couldn't pay my rent so I had to move back home which is humiliating !! and it looks like I will loose my car. The few friends that I have just say it will get better, but never ask if they can help or ask how I am. So you feel completely alone and that no one would really notice if you were there or not.

I'm not going to say that I know exactly  what you are going through, But I think that I have a pretty good idea. I care about your situation and hope you keep going.

Yours Darren

Thank you Daisy101, 

im scared because im so anxious that i start to become depressed and i self harm, i am so ashamed of this! 

also i am scared because i have recently discovered when i become anxious i cannot eat without spewing shortly after and i loose my appetite which has caused me to loose weight i used to weigh 51kg and i am currently on 48kg this change has happened over two weeks! alot of my weight was muscle because i am pretty much a full time athlete! so i am starting to look way to thin for my body!!! i hate this and i am so scared of everything i never used to be this girl! i was the person who never shut up, laughed until she was crying and her belly hurt, was there for those who couldnt handle life, ran around smiling and just was all around happy! i want her back i miss her so much!

thankyou darren12, 

well i feel like we all need to try and support each other when we are struggling! 

so tell me can i help you in anyway? 

how are you? 

and i dont mean good or bad i mean how are you coping whats going on at the oment is it getting better is it getting worse? 

thankyou for caring it is much apreciated.

yours Hollie

hi there,

We wanted to check in with you about what supports you have. You have you got someone that you can talk to about how you are feeling. We would recommend that you go to the GP as they can chat with you about mental health support. Perhaps a counsellor could help with some of the symptoms that you talk about.
You can also call beyondblue on 1300 22 4636 in order to find out what are the most appropriate services for you in your area. The symptoms that you talk about can improve and resolve with the right treatment and support. We are all here to support you
take care,

Hi Hollie,

I think the moderator is right about going and seeing a GP. Losing 3kgs of muscle in a couple of weeks that can't be good. Is the anxiety a new thing? Your GP will also be able to check other health issues which may be contributing. 

Please do not let any negative feelings stop you from getting help so that you can be the fit, healthy, happy you again. I know from my own experience how hard it can be to take the first step.

If you don't have a GP you can trust may be a good idea to call the beyondblue number which the moderator has given you. Please let us know how you are going.

Peace,

Daisy.

 

Hi Hollie

You’ve received some really good advice and though at this time of year it’s kinda difficult to get to see a GP, I really hope that you can make this your mission to do so as soon as possible.  You’ve already started the ball rolling by coming to this site and that is a huge pat on the back for you.  As you can see, it’s such a supportive environment … it’s just a nice place to be.  Having said that, I really wish that we were ALL better and didn’t have to rely on this site so much.

Now I’ve been into fitness my entire life and am a regular gym goer … I think a little of your weight loss would be muscle (especially if you’re not working out at present) but your body’s metabolism doesn’t stop because we have this illness of anxiety, stress, depression, etc and I would also think that more of the weight loss would be fat … although by the size of you, I’m guessing there’s not too much fat on you anyway.  But it’s amazing just where it can be stored … when I diet down for my bodybuilding comps, in the last 6 weeks or so, I cannot wear any of my rings as my fingers lose their normal size (has to be fat around the finger area, right?), so fat is stored everywhere and your body can utilise it for energy and burn it away.

With you being a full-time athlete the good news is that your body has memory … it has muscle memory and so if you haven’t worked out for period of time, when you do get back into it, it doesn’t take all that long for you to get back to the size (or near that size) that you were.  Now I’m in no way suggesting your muscle bulky, I’m just suggesting that the muscle you have is working muscle for the sport that you are involved in.  The more I think about this, the more I really think that it’s your metabolism that’s used up fat stores in your body to get you down under the 50kg mark.

In the meantime, please take on the other advice posted, so you can seek out professional help as soon as possible.

I so hope that you can ‘find’ that girl again … the fit, fun, happy go lucky girl who was up-five and smiley and happy … I hope that between all of us on here and your professional help that I know you’re going to get, we can get that girl back. 

One last thing Hollie … with you being an athlete, you’ll know the importance of taking in water.  Water is also a very strong aid with how you feel as well … if you’re adequately hydrated that can have a massively positive effect for you, as being dehydrated, it just makes you feel flat, low and really has a major impact on energy levels.  So please, if you can, try to take in as much water of a day as you can.

I hope some of the above makes sense to you and also hope that it’s helped you, even if only a small way

Please keep in touch with how you’re going

Cheers

Neil