Hello belive. I totally go along with CrashCoyote. I think you need to accept that if others see you for the genuine, caring person you seem to be, then that's who you are. I can't help wondering if your insecurity comes from negative remarks from your childhood. If a child is taught they're useless, silly, losers etc. They tend to believe it as they grow. The first 5 years of our life are the most important, significant part of growing up. People tell you, rise above it, ignore it, that's hard to do when you've been taught otherwise early in life. Do you find it hard to look directly at people when you talk to them. This is going to sound silly, but try looking at yourself in the mirror, just for a minute. Don't look at the outside, look for the inner you. Look at your eyes, are they soft? Look at your mouth, do you see a smile? If not, smile, look at your teeth. These are your best attributes, concentrate on these. Build from there. Your confidence will emerge once you see the beauty in your eyes, and in your smile. You know you're basically honest, when someone says you are, why would they lie? Everything you've said about yourself, tells me I would like to be your friend. Why would I lie to you, I don't know you, but I like what I hear. Try not to look for things that aren't there. If people don't like you, they wouldn't want to talk to you.
Hope I've been of some help.
