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New puppy and anxiety

Teacher9
Community Member

 My husband and I now have a 6 and 2 year old. I love dogs yet everytime we discuss getting one and bring it home my anxiety spirals. Feeling faint, can't eat, hot sweats. My mind goes into over drive. Our last dog passed away 4 years ago and even when we first got him I spiralled and put him up for sale but I must've managed to get on-top of my anxiety.We have bought 3 dogs and I've had to rehome them all to cater to my mental health. Unfortunately my husband and kids suffer from the enjoyment of a pet.

I am on Sertraline for generalised anxiety and it's not bad unless there's a crisis or something big happening in my life. But it hits hard at times like this. 

After our last dog  passed, I  think nearly 12 months later we got another dog. I was physically sick with anxiety and he was rehomed after a week. Instantly I felt good. Next time my 2nd daughter was just crawling and we tried again but once again anxiety hit and I knew I couldnt cope with a dog and a baby, so rehomed. Hubby said never ever again. Fast forward and now my 6 year old begs for a dog , her sister is bigger and we picked him up yesterday. I get home and bam anxiety hits and I feel faint and hot.  Overwhelming anxiety. It's not so much the dogs themselves it's me thinking too much. It's so irrational, I love dogs. Just a vent. In my mind I feel better when I say he's not locked in, if it gets too bad I can rehome him but there's a pattern happening and I hate the feeling.

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Scared
Community Member

The answer is simple

Dont get another dog.

Why would you put yourself thru that again when you know the outcome. 
If we burn ourselves on a hot plate we learn never to do that again.   Dogs are your hotplate.  Regardless of who wants a dog the answer is simply its not healthy for you. And your health comes first no matter what.

VH90453
Community Member

I'm so sorry dogs have that affect on you. I also love dogs but I won’t have another one after my last one died 17 years ago. I grieved for that dog for so long I decided I wasn’t going through that again. I often take care of my 2 Granddogs. One of the best ways to get past anything that causes anxiety is to gradually expose yourself to whatever it is. If you have a friend or relative with a dog, you could try minding it for a few hours and then gradually mind it for longer. I’m doing that at the moment with something that causes me extreme anxiety. I’m gradually improving and finding I can face the situation with much less anxiety.