Looking for tips on 'calming my farm'

plippy
Community Member

Hi,

I need help. I am too highly strung at the moment and am looking for tips on how to relax and not let things get to me. i swear i never used to be like this and lately feel that i'm getting worse. I just want to go back to the care free person I used to be.

I have a great partner, a supportive family and close friends that i can talk to about anything, i am very lucky in life and logical me understands this and swears she is going to let go and just enjoy life, but a day or two later irrational me appears and starts to worry about everything and feels that my world will implode if.... (the dishes aren't done, or the dog isn't walked at this exact instance...trust me i know this is irrational, i just don't know how to shut it off) which in turn creates stress and tension between myself and my bf.

i know this is going to be an ongoing battle but any tips or advise you can give to get me started would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

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Guest_9809
Community Member

Hi Plippy and a big welcome to you to the BB Forum family. This is a peer support forum where people, just like you, have the chance to discuss their issues and gain understanding and support from others who experience similar issues. None of us are medical professionals, so we can only offer guidance based on personal experience and knowledge gained.

Well done on reaching out, as most people find it difficult. From your description, it sounds as though you are experiencing anxiety related symptoms, possibly GAD and/or OCD. However, only a medical professional can diagnose you officially.

It is very helpful and encouraging that you have a great partner and supportive family and friends around you. However that isnt always enough when our anxiety and fears reach a point where it is affecting our lives in an adverse manner. Sometimes we need a little extra help.

I am guessing that you have not already been diagnosed with any depressive or anxiety related disorder? I would therefore suggest that you book a long appointment with your GP and discuss what you have said here in your post. They will either dispel your fears that you may have an anxiety disorder or else confirm it and point you in the right direction for appropriate treatment.

There are a number of treatment options available to help, ranging from medication (which is not for everyone), therapy with a psychologist and a range of self help and lifestyle changes. These can all be discussed initially with your GP, and then your psychologist if you are referred to one. If you choose to see a psychologist they will also help you to develop methods of self help, often through CBT or other therapy, mindfulness or relaxation techniques.

It is important for you to continue to do things you enjoy to help take your mind off things that trouble you. Exercise is also a great way of doing that, as well as all the additional benefits regular exercise provide for both mind and body. If you are interested google relaxation, breathing techniques and mindfulness. I'd suggest you give mindfulness a go, as it is a very successful tool for many of us who experience anxiety on a daily basis.

Good to see that you have already found your way to the BB Cafe. Its a good place to get to know other forum members, where you can relax and chat about you, your day, whatever. Generally try to keep subject matter light in the Cafe. And when wishing to discuss other matters, come back to this thread.

Taurus

Blue_Jane
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Plippy

Thanks for taking the time to share what is going on with you. Hopefully you find out forums helpful and supportive.

I agree with what Taurus has suggested above.

You ask for tips on how you can keep a handle on things. I think its about trial and error before you find out what works for you. I took a few years to get my emotions and thoughts under control. I too am very lucky in life with a great husband, network of family and friends and challenging job. However our mind can be a very complex thing!

In terms of what works for me, it is regular exercise (weights, walking, swimming, yoga), fresh and healthy food, time out for myself to think and reflect (not a natural thing for me, I like to 'do' all the time), reading and relaxing with family and friends. I have tried other things like flotation tanks (they work for some of us!), acupuncture, mindfulness and meditation.

Hope this helps - please keep us posted.

Blue Jane