Looking for people with the same anxiety/overthinking issues as me.

[xjeansx]

I’m posting this in hopes of connecting and relating to people who deal with the same anxiety symptoms as me, so I can feel less alone and start to understand myself a little more.

i have suffered from some sort of depressive anxiety for at least 15 years now. For the first 3 years I put it down to just being a moody teenager and I’ll grow out of it, then for the remaining 8-9 years I just sort of thought that everyone feels this way, life’s hard and this is how it’s always gonna be so I just gotta learn to deal with it. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I finally sought out help from a doctor and was referred to a psychotherapist. Unfortunately I don’t believe her type of therapy was what I needed and I am currently seeking new treatment and have a doctors appointment in a few days.

but I wanted to just list and ramble a bit about my anxieties in hopes that I can relate to some others who may feel the same.

So a lot of my anxiety stems from I think a huge lack of self confidence and esteem. And also past relationships where people have cheated and lied and treated me awfully have resulted in massive insecurity issues and a tendency to over analyse and over think literally everything. I create scenarios in my head and obsess over them, I overthink so much that I start believing and feeling as though the scenarios are real. This creates a permanent awful sinking feeling in my stomach because I know that it puts strain on my relationship, and even when my partner reassured me and gives me extra affection it still doesn’t make the feeling go away because my anxiety controls me so deeply.

and in a non relationship way, my lack of confidence and esteem and belief in myself finds me feeling absolutely no motivation to better myself or progress in my dream career that I’m hoping to get into, and just in general improvement of my well being, I get so scared of failing or so sure that I won’t succeed because all I’ve ever felt is that I’m a failure, that I talk myself out of even trying in the first place. It feeds the unmotivated unwillingness inside me. I’ve never felt proud of myself because of the absence of confidence and esteem.

i really want to get better, I want to change my behaviours and thoughts and I want to feel more secure in myself and with my relationship and hobbies and life goals. I am finally building up the courage to seek help. I just hope there are people who who can relate and that we can hopefully help each other through a discussion

[Billyc]

Hi

yes I can relate.

Ive felt for a longtime that everyone was the same.

I get “your over thinking things” a lot!

I also get “stop being so intense”.

i can’t help it or stop it.. I keep the tv on at night so the noise distracts me from my thoughts... otherwise there’s no sleep!

It’s intresting you point out that you feel your partners overcompensating with affection toward you and your thoughts of low self esteem.

Being on here is helping me immensely..

I had my dream job but the anxiety got too much and I couldn’t leave the house. They stay in touch and want me back if I can get it together...

I’ve been to psychologists before but I feel like I’m wasting everyone’s time being there.. and they should have more important things to do, it’s crippling

I liked reading what you shared.. so far listening to others has had the most impact on my own situation...

welldone for reaching out

[Bella_93]

I am in the exact same boat! I'm really struggling to keep the constant over thinking and anxiety thoughts away and I stress that my anxiety and depression is going to drive my husband away.

I have been seeing a psychologist on and off for a while now and finding it's not helping as much anymore. I had a big breakdown in August last year and struggled with multiple daily panic attacks and mood swings. The thoughts that are giving me anxiety are so strong that until I can pull myself out of it, it makes me believe them.

Over the last 14 months I have had 3 jobs due to extreme bullying and I believe this was what pushed me over the edge with my anxiety and depression. I was recently made redundant and while it is good to be out of a toxic environment, I am now stressing about money and staying home all day gives me lots of time to over think.

I'm so grateful that these forums are here so we all feel like we have people to talk to that understand!

[YellowPoppy]

Hi, sorry it's taken to long to respond to your message!

I can relate to the overthinking. Always asking 'what if' or 'why didn't i' or 'I shouldn't have' and I get a queasy uneasy feeling in my tummy.

And even when I'm told it's okay, you'll be fine I can't shake the feeling.

I always have water handy so I can have a drink any time I start to panic or over think. I have different essential oils that I can smell, it all just takes me out of my head so I stop thinking.

Hope this helps
YP

[T95]

Hi xjeansx,

I over think ALL the time.

My anxiety has become the worst it has ever been and I recently quit my job and went on medication and I believe over thinking played a big role in this.

My partner will tell me "stop thinking" or "don't worry". I told him that that is like saying to someone "don't breathe and it's hard because he doesn't understand.

I completely understand what you're doing through.

[Moonstruck]

Dear xjeansx.....you are certainly not alone. I totally relate and am also the victim of ghastly over thinking, catastrophising, imagining.....it's crippling.

I am not sure what, if any single event or trauma or experience triggered this at a mature age....sometimes its so bad I end up being almost frozen, immobilised to even "do" or start anything..even everyday trivial tasks....What if I don't do it perfectly?

I have found some really comforting and helpful stuff on the website Tiny Buddha. Just google it up with whatever topic you want..e.g. "fear, anxiety, what others think, pleasing people,making decisions..." etc...whatever fits ..

I have found very good blogs from others who write very well on all sorts of subjects on Tiny Buddha.......just know you are not alone and I do truly understand.....sending love and peace.....