Hey Kemooo,
Welcome to the forum!
Social anxiety is a pain. I used to get anxious socially, until about the age of 18. I am 23 now and I have come a long way socially. I'm still not quite a social butterfly, but I usually feel comfortable in social situations. It took me time to become this way, and this could be the same for you. I don't know your age, but I get the feeling that you're younger than me. If I'm wrong, please correct me! I only had about 3 or 4 hours sleep last night (I hosted a small NYE party at my home). I don't drink alcohol though, so I only have the sleep deprivation! haha
If you don't mind me asking, have you been anxious in social situations for years, or did it start more recently?
I know what you mean about overanalysing situations after the event. I used to do this. Being shy and quietly spoken doesn't make you strange. There are people who understand that some people are more quiet and introverted than others, especially if they have friends who are like this. It's honestly important to have both quietly spoken and outgoing people in a social situation. For example, if everyone was extroverted and talkative, then too many people would be competing for attention.
There are some great resources that I'd like to refer you to:
http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=47 (improving self-esteem)
http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=40 (coping with social anxiety)
http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=46 (general anxiety)
http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/ (this site is useful for finding out about different areas of wellbeing)
It would be great to hear back from you 🙂
Best wishes,
Zeal
