Hello Booklover
Great to hear from you. Yoga, now that's something I have not tried. I know many people swear by it but I am certain I could not achieve the poses. Horses for courses. How are you on exercise? My GP suggested I go to gym and I talked to the Exercise Physiologist there. I went to a weekly class but as time went on I found I could manage the routine on my own, so I still attended the gym but worked on my exercise regime on my own and met up with the Ex Phys every month or so. It made a tremendous difference to my fitness but I hated it. What kept me going was that I had paid for these sessions and was not about to lose my money.
I have discovered that paying for something up front means I am more likely yo stick with it. I think that applies to many things we put off doing until later. Now I try and give myself an incentive or reward if I do something good for myself. And surprisingly I do not cheat. Worth double reward do you think?
It's funny with talking. I can talk to anyone on a superficial level, chat about the weather, discuss practically anything that is not personal or revealing. A bit of a joke and pass on smoothly to the next bit of trivia. So easy but never building any rapport and perhaps missing out on a friendship that we both would enjoy. Getting much better these days and willing to reveal a little about myself. Still a work in progress.
Has you read anything on neuroplasticity? This is about the changes we can make in the brain. We are hardwired at birth, well before really, to have various tendencies for example I invariably take the worst case scenario. Neuroplasticity shows how you can make new pathways, positive pathways in order to move forward. I will not try to explain it because I don't know enough. Ask Mr Google, he usually has a perspective. I read a book called The Brain that Changes Itself which told me the whys and wherefores. It may be worth looking at and learning how you can change your point of view.
Being a perfectionist is painful. In reality nothing is ever completed to your satisfaction which keeps your mind pinned down to a small area of thought and how you can do better. All the wonderfulness of life passes by because it is not perfect. Nothing is perfect or at least not for long as someone else will find fault. All we can do is accept who and what we are, give anything our best shot and then move on. Yep, been there, got the tee shirt. I am not perfect but I try quite hard. Talk more later.
Mary
