I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had a baby together, he is now 5 months old. I was living in Melbourne when we met, but i lost my job and couldnt find a new one, so decided to move back home for a while to get myself back on track and then move back to melbourne. We decided to stay together during this. However, the start to the relationship was always rocky. We would both have too much to drink and fight. The neighbours ended up calling the police a few times. He was so drunk one night that he actually started to have a fit and he had to go to the hospital.
While I came home, I found out that i was 17 weeks pregnant. We decided to keep the baby. I was travelling back and forth to see him, I got a job and he still didnt have one. Every time i would come back home, he would message me and accuse me of cheating on him all the time, even when we first got together, which i never did.
Its been worse ever since having our baby. There is not one day that goes by that we dont fight and break up. Fight and break up. Hes accused me so many time of cheating and texting other people when i havent. Hes so paranoid that im out to get him and stuff him round. He had a pretty bad upbringing, his mum left him and his sister when they were young and they were in foster homes until his grandmother took them. So i get that he could have all of that in the back of his mind, but i just dont know what to do. He literally makes up stories in his head about me and then believe them! I was going to move back to melbourne to be with him and he could be with our son, but now i am unsure of what to do. I am worried it will only get worse if i was there.
I even gave him my passwords to all my social media, emails, iphone, everything and hes still saying that i cheated and im doing all this ridiculous stuff. One minute he is ok, and the next he goes off about random things. The other night we were facetiming, he got off the phone and the first thing he said was that i am off telling my friends on how crap out relationship is and to just go and be with my new guy???? I dont get it! I dont know what to do? He doesnt think anything is wrong? Ive suggested councilling but its a bit hard when we are in different states. I love him alot i just dont know what to do!
