Dear Coggie~
Welcome here. As Tony says those thoughts are of course unrealistic. An anxious reaction to a one-off incident. That's not to say it does not appear as a real and most probably frightening worry to you - of course it does. Unfortunately it is unreasoning worry to matters that don't deserve it that is the way anxiety works.
So I'd join Tony in suggesting you seek help with this now. It's unclear from what you said if that doctor is treating you for just the infection, or your anxiety condition too in conjunction with the counselor. In any event I'd suggest that you should talk to both and see what can be done. Hopefully if the base level of your anxiety is reduced then the problems fearing to choke will stop. If not you may need treatment specifically relating to eating.
I'm very sure your life will get much better in time, most illnesses of this nature do respond to treatment.
While talking about medical professionals. You did say that the counseling and medication did not seem to be working. As you would know meds to take time to stabilize and work poperly, and therapy may not have an obvious benefit just to start with. If you are concerned about this talk about it too. If later on you are still unhappy it might then be time to think of a change.
Having a supportive partner is something to be treasured. As I found it makes life so much more straightforward, secure and hopeful to have someone to share the load. Sharing that burden is something I found my partner wanted to do, even though it was hard, she would not have it any other way. I'd expect yours would be the same.
Please talk here as often as you would like
Croix
