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I'm new here, and feeling desperate.

Hardy524
Community Member

Hi all,

i have just joined this group in the hope that I can stop feeling alone. I am 36 and have dealt with mental issues since 17. I have been diagnosed as having depression, OCD and Generalized Anxiety. Just this year I have started having panic attacks. I have a major major fear of vomiting and diarrhea. Lately even just hearing the word sets me into panic mode. I have also just recently convinced myself that my anxiety symptoms may be something worse like colon cancer or gall bladder problems. 

This weekend I'm dealing with " that time of the month" and have not eaten great. At 2pm today on the way home from a BBQ I had stomach pain and tried to go to the toilet which I seemed to be a bit constipated. I thought I would do the right thing and take the dog for a walk for 30mins. When I returned I had bad stomach cramps that were relieved when I went to the toilet. I still felt a bit worried there might be something wrong with me and an hour later I had a bit of diarrhea. That sent me into a full panic attack. I was in tears, hyperventilating, my legs felt numb and I felt sick. I was so worried I might have a stomach bug. That was 2 hours ago. I feel completely drained and tired and very stupid. Although I am not fully panicked at the moment the "what if" thoughts are still lingering. 

I am going through counselling every fortnight and thought I was doing ok but I guess not. Is it unusual to have a fear of something so simple? Cancer I can understand but a stomach bug? Everyone gets them at some time so I can't escape it. I just feel like I'm in a deep hole and can't get out. 

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geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Hardy, welcome to this site, and I can understand all you are going through as I have had OCD for 54 years as well had depression for over 20 years, maybe much longer.

OCD is generated by anxiety, and by having this anxiety creates OCD, but not everyone who has anxiety develops OCD, but as you can see one affects the other.

It's an illness that allows us to worry about the small things in life, just as you have, the fear of having some sort of illness or disease, so we do some habit and/or ritual believing that this will stop but more so satisfy our fear.

It's very difficult for us to justify our behaviour to someone who doesn't have this illness, but it's OK on this site, because we all suffer from some sort of depression so there is no criticism at all, and only people suggest ways to help any of us.

However in the real world people think that we are crazy, we can't stop them from believing this, and that's why I hide my OCD so that nobody knows I have it, because we can't justify to them why we have to check the lock 4, 5, or 9 times.

It seems to be abnormal to them, but to us it's natural to do this, so that we can get on with life.

Your fear of getting a stomach bug is of no concern for me, because it's part of our illness, and I presume that there are other worries that concern you.

There are a lot of people who have OCD on this site, and then some who maybe are too frightened to mention it, which they shouldn't be, because it's a huge problem, and all of us have our own different ways of how to cope with it.

I hope that you can reply back to us. L Geoff. x