I feel like i just need a friend and someone to talk to

[Bella001]

Hi, i feel like im struggling right now quite alot. i dont really have any friends or people to talk to though. I feel like i just use the helplines alot but i could use some peer support if anyone can help

[YorkeYorke]

Hi Bella, sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment. It must be even harder not having people to talk to. We are hear though... was there anything in particular that you wanted to say was causing you to struggle at the moment or just felt like a chat?

[Bella001]

Thank you for your reply.

I was just diagnosed with medical condition that is now lifelong. the impact its taking emotionally, physically (as its a physical condition) and also financially as its expensive to manage is really taking its toll on me now.

My emotions are really all over the place but not only do i have to manage my own emotions i am also responsible for many other things so alot of people rely on me to be ok.

i am trying my best to manage things as well as some family conflicts and work and everything life wants to throw at me but i am struggling a fair bit

[YorkeYorke]

Sorry to hear of your diagnosis; never fun for anyone. I'm going in for a CT scan tomorrow so hoping for the best, I can only imagine how it must feel having a diagnosis confirmed.

You're right, the financial toll can be significant and emotionally even tougher.

How does it feel having others rely on you? A burden? Empowering? On one hand it must feel difficult at times but you can also be proud of what you give to others.

Family conflicts are tough, especially because it can be hard to distance yourself. Are you able to get space from those causing the conflict? Is work supportive of your condition and other circumstances or they don't know?

Yorke

[Petal22]

Hi Bella001,

I’m sorry you are feeling this way.

We are all a very caring supportive community please tell us more when you are ready.

[Bella001]

Thank you Yorke

I hope your scan went ok today.

I cant really distance myself from the family conflict. While im not directly involved it does affect me as theyre close to me in my immediate family and because im around them basically on a daily basis.

Work is aware abit but i havent taken on my new job yet, i may be doing a trial run to see if i do ok in it. Otherwise my current job is ok, i work more for myself then anything else just with alot of clientelle.

[Bella001]

Thank You Petal,

I just feel very stressed right now and my high pain levels consistently are making me abit emotional too i think.

[YorkeYorke]

Hi Bella,

Scan is done so now we wait! Thank you for your well wishes.

Sorry to hear that you aren't able to get much space from the family conflict. I know for me I was only able to get space years later, but it has been life-changing. Do your family know how much it has been impacting you? I wonder if they would be willing to hear you out.... Otherwise we are here.

Congratulations on your new job, I hope the trial goes well. How are you feeling about it?

Yorke

[Bella001]

Thank you

I just hope some of the conflict settles soon. I think sitting down with the pair of them and talking would be the best option. neither of them like to listen so keeps causing issues. their issues cause me issues too so hopefully its over and done with soon.

Thanks, as much as i need the money im not sure i really want it especially with a new medical condition to contend with. if i didnt have this medical condition i would be fine having 2 jobs but i now need a 3rd job to try and make up extra money

[YorkeYorke]

Sounds like a chat with them could be a good option. It might help them realise the impact the conflict is having beyond just themselves. I hope for your sake it is over and done with soon too. Do you think there is anything you can do to take care of yourself in the meantime?

3 jobs sounds hectic but I can understand there may not be much choice when you have to pay for medical treatment. I hope you are able to have some down time at least, as you are going through so much.

Do let us know how the conversation goes if/when you choose to have it, or just generally how things are going with the diagnosis, job, family etc. if you feel like it. Thanks for sharing

Yorke