I feel ashamed being anxious and going insane

[heyfriday128]

Hey so my dads side of the family has a lot of people with illnesses and my sister has anxiety and depression and it put a lot of stress on my mum. I’m in year 12 term 3 and I’m having mental breakdowns. I spent the whole of lunch just crying in the bathrooms because of my exam marks I got back and I’ve been feeling so anxious lately. I haven’t really felt happy in a long time too and I’m going to go see my gp in a few days but I feel ashamed. I don’t want my mum to be embarrassed yet again by a sick daughter and I don’t want to be sick I wish I could just be normal. I’m so scared of anything and I can’t get a job because I just leave the next day because I get too anxious. I don’t want to tell my friends either because I feel like they think I’m doing it for attention.

[Cady111]

How did you get on at the Drs? Anxiety is so cruel, I hope your doing ok sweety 

[Mark Z.]

Hi herfriday128,

I'm sorry for your challenge and I can imagine it must be very frustrating. But it's okay to ask for help. Seeing your GP is a great first step. They can help you identify resources and strategies to cope with your anxiety and stress.

And I want to encourage you to communicate with your mum. She may be more understanding and supportive than you think. Explain how you're feeling and that you're seeking help. She'll be please to know that you're honest and open to her and actively try to get on the right track.

Be more patient to yourself, take things one step at a time. Break down tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces. This can help reduce your anxiety and make things feel less overwhelming.

Your physical health is really important to your mental health. Take care of yourself, make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that make you feel good. Taking care of yourself can help improve your mental wellbeing.

And reach out to your friends as well. It's natural to worry about what others might think, but true friends will be there to support you. You don't have to go through this alone.

Remember, it's okay to not be okay. No one is "normal," and everyone experiences challenges in their lives. Be kind to yourself as you navigate through this difficult time. Hope everything will be better.

Mark

[geoff]

Hello heyfriday, being in year 12 is difficult as it is, let along feeling the  way you do doesn't help, but of course this is possible.

You don't need to tell your mum at the present time, but if you have then explain to her that everything is ok, especially if her reaction won't be good.

You may be able to associate with other family members, but let's try and isolate your situation on it's own.

At your age you are entitled to go and see a doctor by yourself and this is part of isolating it, because anxiety appears to be a huge problem for you.

The doctor may want to tell you about the 'mental health plan' which entitles you to 20 Medicare paid sessions per year to speak with a counsellor/psych, especially if you're close to 18.

Kids Helpline have 24/7 counsellors to chat with 1800 55 1800 or by online or web chat, so you can give them a ring or go online.

Friends can be rather strange when you want to talk about your problems and some don't want to entertain you, so don't feel isolated and speak with someone who can definitely help you.

Let us know how you get on.

Geoff.

Life Member.