I am not sure whether I am alright.

[Shelly_S]

I have cried every day without any trigger since I was in primary school. I probably have a good memory so I clearly memory details of probably every bad thing. I hate myself oftentimes. I do not know who I am. I cannot control myself being sad or even happy. I always feel more stressed and overwhelmed after feeling happy. But, people say that I am a happy person. I even cannot do simple things well but I am keen to do them well. I always hear my voice in my mind telling me a lot of tragedies. Sorry.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Shelly S,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for your bravery and openness in sharing here. It’s a really good place to have come to hear from others. We’re really sorry to hear you’ve been crying everyday for years. We think sharing here is a great step towards feeling better.

If you want to talk through what you’re feeling at any time, the Beyond Blue Support Line is here for you 24/7 on 1300 22 4636, or online here. It’s ok to reach out when you’re feeling anxious or upset, they can talk you through some ways to find a bit of calm, and then help you to figure out some options for further support.

We’re sure we’ll hear from the lovely community soon, but in the meantime, here’s some strategies you might like to have a look at it:

• Another thread where the community have shared some strategies for managing anxiety
• Beyond Blue Article: When your inner critic is giving you a tough time

Thanks again for sharing. We’re here to listen and offer support, and you never know how your story might help someone else.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

[Not_Batman]

Hi Shelly S

No need to apologize. you have identified that you need help, and have reached out. Well done!

the voice in our head, or the inner critic, can be a massive drain on our energy and cognitive ability, and is a source for a lot of anxiety. I, and many more, can attest to that.

There are no clear ways to stop or silence the thoughts we have, but there are ways in which we can cope with them.

This is the path I took, and has helped me quite a bit. If you can, go and see a doctor and discuss what you are feeling (there is no shame in it). Chances are that the doctor will create a mental health plan for you, and possible refer you to a psychologist. That psychologist may then take you through some techniques to understand your thoughts and decide what to do with them. Like I said, that the path I took and I recommend that.

The other ways are by giving yourself some compassion, and allowing yourself the time to have the thought. acknowledge it, identify what the thought is, and to understand what it is trying to say.

As an example, I have received some bad news at work this week, which made me very angry. but i have identified that im angry, so before i do anything (like flying off the handle), i needed to spend some time reflecting on the problem. my inner critic is saying 'they hate you', or 'they just want to get rid of you'. but upon reflection it is not about that at all. I can now see their point of view, and am trying to decide the next step.

Its not about giving in, more so about gaining perspective. If you give your thoughts the time and space, they will give your mind time and space.

remember, thoughts are only thoughts, they are not reality.

I hope that gives you some comfort.

Not Batman.

[Petal22]

Hi Shelley S,

Im sorry you are feeling this way.

I understand that it’s so hard when all our minds want to do is focus on the negatives. It’s hard and can sometimes be distressing to us.

The good news is that you have the power to change your internal dialogue…….

Try to tune into more positive things, tell yourself positive things about yourself, practice gratefulness……..

Practice mindfulness and look at all the beauty in the world that you get to be a part of.

Our minds job is to think and it does this automatically but with practice you will be able to change the channel.

The more you choose to focus on the positive and feed your mind with positive things your mind set will slowly change from negative to positive yes it takes work and practice but it’s worth it and it will pay off by also giving you positive emotions.

Read alot of positive affirmations daily…. My news feed is full of them.

You can always have a chat to your gp aswell about the way you are feeling if you feel this would help.

Please try to love yourself your a beautiful human being and you deserve love.

We are always here to support you.

Ive written a thread in Staying Well

“How to find your inner calm”

You may be interested in having a read sometime 😊

[geoff]

Hello Shelly, if for some reason we aren't feeling well mentally and haven't for some time, the bad thoughts often resonate with us much stronger than when something good happens, because we're in that frame of mind where nothing good could possibly happen and if this does occur, then we question why all of a sudden this could be so, resulting in us wondering how this could happen.

If you have this 'voice in your mind telling you a lot of tragedies', then perhaps you could google 'intrusive thoughts' and see if these equate to how you are thinking.

Please let us know.

Geoff.