Her fair of hurt dose hurt

Jase7
Community Member
Hi guys,i am dealing with the worst case of chest pain i have had in so long, i no the cause and i no its going to happen and there is no stopping it. My partner has been former relationships were they have cheated on her or tried control her life or her daughter would do everything to split up her relationship, now i have known this woman since we were kids and next door neighbours,i am now 46 ,we had a thing when i was 18 and i love her then but knew i was not good enough then to treat her how she deserved so we went our seperate ways until i contacted her 6months ago and we have been together since.i love her more than i ever could have thought and her daughter loves me and treats me vetter than her mum has ever seen her treat anyone, and beleive me she is a handful being 14 as they are,but my partner has been hurt so many times she thinks i am no different to any one else she has been with,she get these jelouse yhoughts and lacks self confidence, not she has tried pushing me away time n time just coz she has past fear ,and she tries so many different things to make me walk away, i have had quite a few anxiety attacks in the past but i no they are coming and do what i have to to control it, tonight she tried saying i was talking to other women on my phone,now there is no way i would talk to anyone behind her back and dont care bout anyone else ,and i no she dose not mean it but it still brings on the chest pain ,well this one is the worst yet my chest got that tight i got tingles down left side.and i no you will say go to gp,but been there done that and nothing they can do coz the attacks past by time you get in to see them. But i tell you thats the most painful thing and maybe they will do somthing when it to late . Just thought it may ease someone else's pain knowing they are not alone.
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geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello Jase, and a warm welcome to the forums.

It's always nice to hear what other people have had to go through themselves because it means a great deal, not only for those people who are still struggling on the forums, but also those many other people who only read what's written.

Your experience has been eventful and you have to feel sorry when so many unfortunate activities have developed, but I hope you can stay with us, to let us know what happens.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

Doolhof
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Jase7,

Thanks for sharing your story with us. Hopefully in time your friend will realise that you are not going to hurt her or cause her hassles. For someone who has been hurt in the past it can be difficult to trust again.

It can be difficult getting medical attention when an issue occurs. I would like to suggest that you write down what you are experiencing with the pains and take your notes to a Dr. The more accurate you are the better.

When the pains do occur, would some deep breathing help you, find a way to relax, try to allow the hurt you are feeling from your friend to be acknowledged but not taken to heart...literally!

It can be hard to not allow other peoples words and behaviours to have an impact on us.

Hope you can find some solutions.

All the best from Dools