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[kelly222]

hi. i have recently made an account with beyond blue as i have been struggling with negative thoughts, low mood and disinterested in life. im 25 years old, and usually loving life. but of recent (last 3 months) these intrusive, negative thoughts seem to consume me every day from when i wake up to falling asleep. I find that i dont want to fall asleep because i dont want another day to start again. I have a partner, live away from home and have a full time job. I find i have no interest in catching up with friends, going to the gym and socialising. These feelings are new to me, i think these thoughts have started since finishing uni and going into the real world. My work is very stressful and im not sure if i enjoy it anymore but i cant move jobs because i have bills to pay, im stuck in this negative feedback loop

what are some tips that any of you find helpful managing these thoughts and low mood? thank you so much

[smallwolf]

Hello there.

If I can start by summarising what you said - you recently finished uni and started a new job that you are finding stressful. You don't feel like socialising at the moment either. Lastly you feel stuck as their are bills to pay.

Perhaps a couple of positives to start. You completed uni and have a job. Congratulations! And it sounds like have friends that want to go out with you.

My psychologist would suggest that going out would be good distraction. I disagreed with her at the time. It gives you time to dwell on the negative. 

Are you able to confide in one of your friends about what you are going through? They may have some sage advice for you.

I am curious about what aspects of your work are stressful. I assume that you got a job in the space you were interested in. Is it the hours, expectations or ??? And whether there is someone at work you can chat with.

Of course this can be easier said than done. But you were able to post here and that is a good start also!

listening if you want to chat some..

[Petal22]

Hi kelly222,

Im sorry you are feeling this way.

I understand that anxiety can be hard to deal with.

Intrusive thoughts can also be very hard to deal with especially when they are on repeat and very loud.

Have you been able to talk to your partner about what you are currently going through?

I have a lived experience of severe anxiety OCD this condition was horrendous to endure it consisted of unwanted distressing intrusive thoughts that were on repeat.

I seeked professional help for what I was experiencing and I’ve now recovered.

You could have a chat to your gp about the way you are currently feeling and experiencing.

A clinical psychologist can also be helpful to give you strategies to help you to deal with these thoughts.

Don’t loose hope with the correct help these thoughts can lift.

Please ask me anything.

[Banksy92]

Hi Kelly222

Sorry to hear you're struggling with these low thoughts and feelings. Have you considered going to see the GP to explore options for support? This would be my main recommendation.

Have you been able to open up to your partner about how you feel? Maybe they can help you explore new ways to find joy in your life. In some of my lowest points, I have found relief by starting new hobbies or taking up old ones again. Something creative, active or social - it can be whatever you like! 

Let us know how you are going when you can.