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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Marlow2 Anxiety since a young age: Struggling to maintain motivation to try and fix it.
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I have memories from primary school of anxiety thoughts and feelings and feel that it has always been present in my life (mainly social/performance anxiety). Of course I had no idea of what it was back then. Now, at 25, I am still dealing with these ... View more

I have memories from primary school of anxiety thoughts and feelings and feel that it has always been present in my life (mainly social/performance anxiety). Of course I had no idea of what it was back then. Now, at 25, I am still dealing with these same feelings. I have noticed my anxiety getting worse and having a bigger impact on my life over the past 5 or so years. It has really effected my social life and eats away at me daily at work. I used to be really good at hiding it, but the worse it gets the harder it is to hide. I feel varying levels of anxiety on a daily basis, struggle to concentrate on things, feel tired, avoid many situations, have a poor memory and experience feelings of depression along side my anxiety. I find it hard to be in the moment because of anxiety and feel I am missing out experiencing life to its potential. I have tried a couple of things over the years but just cant stick with trying to improve my anxiety levels. I get sucked back into the same rut. I have seen improvements in the past but I loose motivation, experience low energy levels, get caught up in bad routines or things, such as my job, take preference. (I think the pressures of my job and maintaining the appearance of being overly capable in my role are huge contributors). Does anyone else struggle to maintain motivation or easily get back into bad habits? What things or tactics have helped to keep you motivated?

white knight ANXIETY- how people view you
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With anxiety we are so wrapped up in our misplaced energy we find difficulty in walking in another persons shoes, to view us warts and all. I've stumbled on such a topic. You can read the full site if you google "11 Things People Don't Realize You Ar... View more

With anxiety we are so wrapped up in our misplaced energy we find difficulty in walking in another persons shoes, to view us warts and all. I've stumbled on such a topic. You can read the full site if you google "11 Things People Don't Realize You Are Doing Because Of Your Anxiety" Here is my summary of this great write up, most of it is paraphrased due to word limits but you'll get the picture. We as sufferers should try to visualize what others see with the effects of our illness. We might be suffering but so are others in that they are trying to work us out or walk away due to the effort needed. 1. Declining invites but you might want to go The debilitating feeling of the date approaching, so overwhelming you cancel it 2. Obsessing over trivial things An unintended word or a glance can upset your mood. Others would be confused that you are noticing such minute distractions 3. Go to bed late, wake up early There is a cycle. Wake up early tired, over thinking things and mental exhaustion sends you back to bed. 4. In every situation, the worse scenario is you biggest thought This is really the negative thought side of you. Everything is bad, your health, job etc the problems are magnified 5. Rewinding conversations in your head, over and over You tend to say the wrong thing as you are anxious, so you rewind to examine if you said something wrong. Often you haven't said anything wrong but your mind haunts you of the possibility 6. When someone shows concern for you, you become more concerned about ...you Means if you are not well and it becomes noticeable then you must be worse than what even you thought. 7. That you are to blame for not replying straight away If someone doesn't reply immediately you cringe because you are anxious. Their attention could be diverted or are bad communicators. 8. Freaking out when the future is talked about You hide from the future as the present is difficult enough to deal with whereas others are excited about it 9. Comparing others success at the same age You see others as successful. You aren't envious just worried why you have reached such sstandard 10. You punish yourself over common mistakes that humans make All the while others allow it to slide as they accept its natural 11. Too exhausted mentally and physically to get out of bed Anxiety burns energy to the point where you stay in bed unable to find the strength to rise. Thanks. Tony WK

Blurry Need reassurance the clouds will pass
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For those, if any, who have had fuzzy cloudy brain 24/7 does it ever leave? Since my first symptoms of anxiety I have had this brain fog, I feel as though I'm drunk every minute of the day. I was made redundant from a job I loved 6 months ago. Since ... View more

For those, if any, who have had fuzzy cloudy brain 24/7 does it ever leave? Since my first symptoms of anxiety I have had this brain fog, I feel as though I'm drunk every minute of the day. I was made redundant from a job I loved 6 months ago. Since then I had trouble finding work and had money worries. 2 months ago I went for a job interview and threw up before I left the house as I was so nervous, very out of the ordinary for me. I got the job, but 2 days later I woke with heart palpitations, nausea and dizziness. At first I thought it was a deficiency or virus but after many tests everything has come back clear. As these symptoms continued I worked on and off, some days were managable and I could get through work. But I have had the last 2 weeks off as I'm too sick to even drive most days. A week ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression (The depression I believe this is a result of being sick the last two months). I started on meds and feel overall I am improving. I have my appetite back and feel I am coping better day to day. But the one thing that has stuck around is the brain fog. Every minute of every day it is there. I feel like my mind races most of the day, but even when relaxed it doesn't ease. I am quite active and feel it's stopping me from getting out. I can't even read a book as I don't have the concentration. Is there anyone who has experienced this and does it ever clear?

themadchatter Psychiatric watch
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I didn't know which thread to post this on exactly, so I thought I'd post it under the anxiety topic. Just questions I need answering. How does one go about committing themselves for a short amount of time under psychiatric watch and what kinds of th... View more

I didn't know which thread to post this on exactly, so I thought I'd post it under the anxiety topic. Just questions I need answering. How does one go about committing themselves for a short amount of time under psychiatric watch and what kinds of things can a person be dealing with in order to commit themselves?

Gamermum13 New and Anxious
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Hi everyone, I've turned to these forums today because I feel like my anxiety is at a tipping point and I am drowning under its waves. I've suffered from it most of my life (I'm in my late forties), I'm on medication, I've seen psychologists..but it'... View more

Hi everyone, I've turned to these forums today because I feel like my anxiety is at a tipping point and I am drowning under its waves. I've suffered from it most of my life (I'm in my late forties), I'm on medication, I've seen psychologists..but it's still there, like a tsunami waiting to engulf me on a daily basis. No one at work knows I suffer, as I wear an extrovert's mask which, in itself, is exhausting. I was just wondering if anyone else feels like they're being constantly punished for something because bad things seem to happen on a daily basis? Even when I dare to feel content or happy, it never lasts long and now i'm just too scared to feel thhat way because I know I will be punished for it. Might be the Catholic upbringing I had..I don't know. All I know is today, I wish I could curl up in a corner and avoid the world. I'm sick of pretending to be strong and that I can cope, because I can't and I don't want to. Apologies for the bleak post..probably not the best intro.. Regards, GM13

DesperateForChange Does anyone else struggle with making decisions?
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Hi everyone, I'm not sure what I hope to achieve by posting this thread. Maybe the reassurance that I'm not the only one going through this? I seem to be incapable of making decisions, no matter how minor they are. I am often paralyzed by a wave of a... View more

Hi everyone, I'm not sure what I hope to achieve by posting this thread. Maybe the reassurance that I'm not the only one going through this? I seem to be incapable of making decisions, no matter how minor they are. I am often paralyzed by a wave of anxiety and fear. I still experience anxiety when I look at a menu, am in a food court, at the supermarket or have to choose whether to buy a Nook, Kindle or just a tablet for reading my books. What's going on here? I just want to be a functioning adult who is capable of coping with the daily challenges that life throws your way and which most people can take in their stride. My life has effectively ground to a halt because I am avoiding situations where I have to make choices. It's unsustainable but I am at a loss over how to change - the fear always wins out. I want to find a psychologist who can help me, but ironically the fear of choosing the 'wrong' psychologist has thwarted my efforts. I've done at least 40 hours of researching psychologists in the past week and am still no closer to deciding. What's going on? What is wrong with me? I feel like something must be defective or malfunctioning in my brain. Is this indecisiveness and procrastination something that most anxious people suffer? Could it be a phobia of making the wrong choices (if that even exists!) Is it OCD? I have read that people with OCD struggle with decision making. However, whilst I can obsess and obsess about my choices, I don't identify with the intrusions or compulsions associated with OCD. Is it a dependent personality disorder? If you can relate to anything that I'm saying, please post. I could use the support. Thank you.

loooodle Not coping
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Hi, First time posting in the forums here. I'm really struggling.. I'm suffering from crippling anxiety which is affecting my ability to function. I can't sleep, I'm barely eating and I just don't want to keep feeling like this. I've been diagnosed w... View more

Hi, First time posting in the forums here. I'm really struggling.. I'm suffering from crippling anxiety which is affecting my ability to function. I can't sleep, I'm barely eating and I just don't want to keep feeling like this. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression but I've had it for so long that I don't remember what anything else feels like. I've started anti-anxiety and antidepressants earlier this week but circumstances in my life are taking a real toll on me and I'm not coping. My husband and I have a business, which is rapidly going under. We've had a terrible 12-18 months with multiple issues taking its toll on us and I've finally come to breaking point. The business has run out of money, we can't pay ourselves a wage and I'm steadily coming to terms with the fact we are going to lose everything. It's 4:30am and I've been awake since 1am thinking about everything, trying desperately to get some sleep but it never comes, I start to relax and then my body wakes up again and it all starts again. I'm currently writing a list of everything I need to get organised to move out of our rental and back with my parents. I'm sorry if this is a rambling post, I just needed to get it out of me somewhere...

BrokenHearted88 Anxiety and my astrology addiction
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I struggle with diagnosed GAD which I currently treat with regular psychology sessions and meditation as I wish to avoid taking medications where possible. I was on medication for many years and I felt like I was using it as a band-aid and not truly ... View more

I struggle with diagnosed GAD which I currently treat with regular psychology sessions and meditation as I wish to avoid taking medications where possible. I was on medication for many years and I felt like I was using it as a band-aid and not truly dealing with the issues that caused my anxiety. My anxiety is very high at the moment. I recently experienced a traumatic event and have been on high alert ever since. Many years ago I used to treat my alcohol with substance abuse, both alcohol and drugs, and I have also been known to become quite addicted to eating. Generally speaking, I am very healthy at the moment. I don’t drink much or take any drugs, have a healthy diet & exercise/meditate regularly. But I have recently realized that I have developed an addiction to astrology. I know this may sound silly to some people and not like something you can become addicted to but it has reached a point where it is not only taking over most of my life but also controlling the way I think and act. I use horoscopes, tarot readings, angel card reading & yes/no Q&A apps to decide how I feel, what I should do and what other people must be feeling about me. I am using these in an obsessive way and it is further fueled by my increasing anxiety. I have recently starting seeing someone new and I am trying to hide my anxiety from him so I don’t scare him away and because of that it is spilling out in other ways. This is the first person I have really liked and really want to try a relationship with since I broke up with my ex a year ago and although it is early days I feel like my anxiety will send him running for the hills. Who wants to deal with an anxious obsessive partner right? I use astrology every day. Many times a day. It distracts me from work and I feel embarrassed about it like it’s a dirty little secret I’m hiding. Which probably fuels my anxiety further. I have always been interested in astrology and I have noticed I turn to it during periods of high stress and anxiety to help get me through making the tough decisions and it’s almost like I have someone there telling me I am making the right decisions, because I don’t trust my own feelings. I am not sure what question I am trying to ask here. I suppose has anyone else turned to astrology to help manage their anxious thoughts and how have others stopped in the past? Have you just stopped and it was that easy or does it take time like any other addiction? Thank you in advance for your support

Goldenlight Anxiety in Nurses
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Hello! Are there any nurses out there who suffer anxiety and if so, what do u find helpful for you? Also have you been successful in overcoming anxiety and continued to work as a nurse?

Hello! Are there any nurses out there who suffer anxiety and if so, what do u find helpful for you? Also have you been successful in overcoming anxiety and continued to work as a nurse?

JulesD Feeling anxious at work
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I have been doing really well for the past 2 or 3 months. A woman at work has now decided she will ignore me and make it very obvious i do not exist to her. Its making me feel bad, anxious, im not sleeping again and i dont know what to do. I already ... View more

I have been doing really well for the past 2 or 3 months. A woman at work has now decided she will ignore me and make it very obvious i do not exist to her. Its making me feel bad, anxious, im not sleeping again and i dont know what to do. I already spoke to HR twice, i feel like im a whinger. I can feel miself started to spiral down and my days feel sad while im at work. I cant go backwards what can i do