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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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affctnn Exercise and anxiety heart palpitations
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I had a anxiety attack last night and since then i've been having heart palpitations + shortness of breath. would exercising such as jogging help with this? or should i try to minimalize any movement?

I had a anxiety attack last night and since then i've been having heart palpitations + shortness of breath. would exercising such as jogging help with this? or should i try to minimalize any movement?

Lostkey_ Not worthy
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I already feel guilty that I’m writing this while ignoring my daughter.I wake everyday feeing anxious about the day, I have zero confidence as an adult. I wake most nights and cry uncontrollably I don’t feel worthy of this life I have never achieved ... View more

I already feel guilty that I’m writing this while ignoring my daughter.I wake everyday feeing anxious about the day, I have zero confidence as an adult. I wake most nights and cry uncontrollably I don’t feel worthy of this life I have never achieved anything or have any skills I should have a bit of a career by now but I dontI have everything anyone could want yet I feel I dont deserve iti am extremely lucky but I go to sleep feeing guilty Regret that I can’t restart while fearing of failure I’m jealous of everyone I’m letting my partner and my children downi dont socialise because of the anxiety that I have nothing interesting to talk about and honestly I don’t have the energy to listen to other people I can’t find the right helpIve been navigating my whole life with anxiety and depression and I’m exhausted Ive had enoughCan I get better? Or is this just who I am a part of me?

Guest_02338444 Why do I feel / How do I stop feeling really unhappy when someone I don't really know unfriends me
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Hello, I'm coming here because I couldn't really find anything else, and this happens pretty much every time something like this happens. I'll just be looking at messages/gc's and sometimes I'll see that someone's unfriended me. I think all of the ca... View more

Hello, I'm coming here because I couldn't really find anything else, and this happens pretty much every time something like this happens. I'll just be looking at messages/gc's and sometimes I'll see that someone's unfriended me. I think all of the cases have been people I don't really know all too well, but it makes me feel awful. I question all of my past interactions with the person trying to just understand why, like if I did something wrong I'd wanna apologise because that wouldn't have been my intention! I know that usually it's for some other reason and that the person probably doesn't spitefully hate me, but like it really wears on me, and I usually can't sleep for ages or even do other things. I guess what I'm asking is there anything I can tell myself or any ways to stop thinking about this, since it ultimately doesn't matter but yeah...

Guest_38211803 University resulting in anxiety!
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Hi! Does anyone else feel so anxious about uni, I feel as though I’m not good enough, not smart enough! I have poor time management skills and my anxiety causes me to procrastinate! Leaving assignments late and therefore I stress!! I know this is a c... View more

Hi! Does anyone else feel so anxious about uni, I feel as though I’m not good enough, not smart enough! I have poor time management skills and my anxiety causes me to procrastinate! Leaving assignments late and therefore I stress!! I know this is a common feeling but if any of you have anxiety and also study let me know of any tips that help you feel motivate and strive! I’m really feeling the stress right now being mid semester and all. Comparing myself to other students and doubting myself a lot…. I need advice on how to overcome my negative thoughts. Thank you!

Guest_2496 Diabetes T2
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Have been living with anxiety for many years though I can go for long periods without it really being a problem. Recently diagnosed with diabetes T2 and anxiety has really ramped up ever since. Tried different meds, side effects, just getting my head... View more

Have been living with anxiety for many years though I can go for long periods without it really being a problem. Recently diagnosed with diabetes T2 and anxiety has really ramped up ever since. Tried different meds, side effects, just getting my head around the diagnosis itself, and new and old weird body sensations. Just so sad and anxious…

7879 Anxiety from a change in job
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HiI'm feeling very anxious due to a change in my life from changing to a new job and moving from the country to city after covid forced me to move to country....Have some good feelings but my mind wanders to what I have left behind.. coming back home... View more

HiI'm feeling very anxious due to a change in my life from changing to a new job and moving from the country to city after covid forced me to move to country....Have some good feelings but my mind wanders to what I have left behind.. coming back home to the city.. sleep very lightly and wake up 3am with a wandering mind

bpdcarer BPD wife, moving forward and being happy
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Hi, I am a mid 40s male, married for 16 years with 3 kids (11-15 years). My wife has undiagnosed BPD and refuses to get help. She doesn't know she has BPD but she checks all the boxes and 3 separate psychs (that I have seen alone) have told me that i... View more

Hi, I am a mid 40s male, married for 16 years with 3 kids (11-15 years). My wife has undiagnosed BPD and refuses to get help. She doesn't know she has BPD but she checks all the boxes and 3 separate psychs (that I have seen alone) have told me that is what I'm dealing with. I'm at the stage where I need to make some serious decisions. She is pretty much out of control now and the abuse toward me and the kids is becoming too much. And it’s having long term effects on them, I’ve begged her to see someone for help but she refuses and doesn’t think psychologists help anyone. So I have gone by myself to get some answers. Her outlet is drinking which she does daily, she drinks excessively and is extremely aggressive, abusive and volatile. She cycles very rapidly and at times will often (3-4 times a year) just up and leave the home, threatening to harm herself for a night or two. While myself and the kids are left at home not knowing if she is actually going to go ahead with what she told us. She has no friends (because no friend can live up to her expectations, the moment they change a plan or do something she isn’t prepared for, she will cull them), she has started now to remove her family (siblings) from her life because she believes they are toxic and they can be (they likely have BPD too, from what I’ve seen). We (the kids and I) walk on eggshells daily, doing our best to not say, do something to upset her. The smallest thing (spilling some milk on the kitchen bench) will set her off. Not a day goes by without yelling and abusive behavior. She is rude to pretty much everyone, no respect for anyone (even the elderly) and goes around like she is entitled and above everyone else. I’m lost and I have no idea what to do next. I want to leave and find happiness but I cannot leave the kids with her as she is not stable enough.I truly don’t trust her with them and the kids have mentioned to me they don’t want to be alone with her. I have a diary from the past 3-4 years of all the episodes we have experienced and it’s not pretty. I’m so sad that the woman I loved and married can be so horrible to us. What do I do? I have done so much research on this disorder, I understand that she is not in control and doesn’t mean the horrible things she says, but how can the kids understand that? I do still love her and I wish her to get better but I cannot live like this anymore. Is leaving the only option? I know this will trigger her really bad and I don’t even know how to bring it up.

Beyond348 Health Anxiety? Depression?
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Hello all I am new here, after being referred by one of the crisis support callers. It has been four years since I lost two immediate families due to heart attacks. Since then I have been to the doctors and emergency department getting reassurance fr... View more

Hello all I am new here, after being referred by one of the crisis support callers. It has been four years since I lost two immediate families due to heart attacks. Since then I have been to the doctors and emergency department getting reassurance from the doctors, but when I would come home, I would sit here thinking the doctors missed something and that they just write it off as anxiety without doing further investigations. This led to developing panic attacks with fears of leaving the house or I would have a heart attack or stroke and developing agoraphobia for the last 12 months and isolation. I also have a hard time switching my brain off and trying to relax when there are so many dark clouds hanging over my head with the what ifs.

Wally Broken Relationship
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Hey guys, Long story short. I have been in a long distant relationship almost 2.5years. Basically waiting on separation and divorce which I know through her and her family. I messed up last year and cheated with my ex. Well this year, the same thing ... View more

Hey guys, Long story short. I have been in a long distant relationship almost 2.5years. Basically waiting on separation and divorce which I know through her and her family. I messed up last year and cheated with my ex. Well this year, the same thing happened but on her side and now is pregnant. She still wants to go through the divorce and be with me. We both felt broken, betrayed and all the emotional feelings that go with it. We had reconciled last year and had been going strong. Religion plays a big part on her side which in all honesty has made this really complicated. We both have 2 children each. We had always been opened and honest with each other in most cases. Our connection was very strong. Im really lost in whether to walk away or try and sort it eventually. I know most people would walk away. There still are other factors I haven't put in here just due to complexity. We both had our dreams and goals that were in line with each other. If she wasn't pregnant this would be easier to sort out. Im really lost as to lose her forever or take that chance. I honestly don't know if we are the same anymore. Any advice from anyone that has been in this type of situation would be greatly appreciated. I cant really talk to my friends or family, because they would just tell me to move on. Thank you for reading this far.

Claremary Relationship Anxiety Problems
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I have just recently become engaged (December last year) to my partner of 4 years. For the longest time I was so happy, I loved him deeply and I was always grateful to have him in my life. He is a genuinely lovely person, kind and caring. He is drive... View more

I have just recently become engaged (December last year) to my partner of 4 years. For the longest time I was so happy, I loved him deeply and I was always grateful to have him in my life. He is a genuinely lovely person, kind and caring. He is driven and has designed this beautiful future for us together which I thought I was really on board with! I was excited and content. A few months after we got engaged, we went away on an engagement trip, and that night, within in 1 split second, the thoughts "Call off the engagement and leave" blasted through my mind and I had the most surreal panic attack of my life. (I have always had anxiety + depression) He was able to help me calm down and we ended up having a good night - just with me having this little weight now in the back of my mind. Fast forward a month and an entire mental breakdown due to this, I am still with him but am still constantly fluctuating between being okay and sure and then being not okay and unsure. I have been very open (to a degree, I havent told him absolutely everything) and he has been so supportive and caring and lovely and all I want is for it to just go back to how it was. It was a 1 second flip and its changed everything. I am just not sure if this is a genuine feeling I should honour and leave (I feel like I would regret it), or if this is past trauma flaring up due to getting engaged (Bad childhood, abusive/evasive parents, no stability, past relationships being utter chaos). Its getting to the point where leaving to get some relief from the constant fluctuation has become appealing, but in saying that I still don't fully want to leave, there is still a part of me in those moments that doesn't want to go. I dont know what to do, and we have to confirm and pay a 4k deposit on the venue by end of this week. Even now, I am excited and want to go ahead but also hesitant. I think I am driving myself insane. Note: I am seeing a psychologist now and we have adressed it - he believes it could be my abandonment + negativity/pessimistic schema at play here which is distorting my reality. Extra Note: I do believe we are soul mates - which makes this even more confusing!