Anxiety

Supporting my BF and his anxiety HELP!

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After some advise please! My boyfriend sinks into a terrible hole when anxiety rears its head. We don't live together, and he would prefer to SMS me only when he feels unwell. He has come a long way, by admitting how he is feeling on occasion. Howeve... View more

After some advise please! My boyfriend sinks into a terrible hole when anxiety rears its head. We don't live together, and he would prefer to SMS me only when he feels unwell. He has come a long way, by admitting how he is feeling on occasion. However, it's now been about three weeks, and he's starting to get a little abusive. I know it's coming from the anxiety and lack of self belief. It kind of feels like he's unconsciously testing me. I've not changing my behaviour the whole time, and checking in daily with a hello...not necessarily asking any questions. Sometimes I do. I figured it would gently help him to know I'm not going anywhere. The advise that would really help me....if I stop my daily msg, would that cause more anxiety issues? I've not ever encountered anxiety at this level before. I just don't want to cause him any more stress. Understanding anxiety is important to me. Our relationship broke up once before because of his anxiety management. I want to support him, because when he is healthy he's amazing.

Death of a distant family member has triggered some anxiety

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I don't really have a point to this post other than I needed to express myself. I learned that my godmother passed away over the weekend. I was not close to her and had not seen her for the best part of 15-20 years. But she represented a part of my c... View more

I don't really have a point to this post other than I needed to express myself. I learned that my godmother passed away over the weekend. I was not close to her and had not seen her for the best part of 15-20 years. But she represented a part of my childhood that has such fond memories. Xmas. Xmas Eve was such a family tradition where us four kids would put on a concert (singing carols etc) after a lovely dinner. It would always be my godmother, my godfather (not partners) who was a beautiful human being, and a 'surrogate' grandmother. With my parents they were the regulars every single year. As kids (looking back) we were so lucky to have had such a great experience over many years. Fast forward (I'm now nearing 45) and she is now the last of those regular attendees to pass away. It's the end of an era. Closure on one of the few great times in my life. My parents are still alive but have aged. After a marriage breakdown 5.5 years ago I moved in with them. I'm still here. I seem to be shutting down my life and just living each day the same. About the only thing I do that is a positive thing is exercise regularly. Used to be triathlon but now it's a lot of riding (after a knee injury put my favoured running on ice). I ride to work every single day, rain, hail or shine. Last night I rode home a longer way. I just wanted to reflect on my godmother a bit more. She passed away in a nursing home with dementia. I always intended to go visit but never did. There's an element of guilt. As I rode home I shed tears. I reflected back on the positive memories her presence contributed towards all those years ago. One particular memory always springs to mind of her watching us whilst my parents were on holidays. I was sick with flu. She kept me home and gave my back the 'karate chop' treatment to help me cough up phlegm, Strange memory to have but it's there. I was saddened to think that now that the three Xmas Eve visitors had passed it just left my parents. I started freaking out a bit because my life has little direction and I don't know what I'll do when that time comes (given current conditions). My father showed me some death notices. There was one generic one from the family (she had two sons I never met) and a funeral parlour one. It got me depressed to think how alone she was at the end. It made me think that's how it's going to be for me. I've shut my life down and have few (if any) to talk to. As I said, no real point to this. Just wanted to write.

Insomnia, Anxiety, sFI

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Hello, I am 31 years old and had my first panick attack at age 23 but have had anxiety as long as I can remember. About 2 months ago I started to develop insomnia, not sleeping the full night or having poor sleep. I did some googling and came across ... View more

Hello, I am 31 years old and had my first panick attack at age 23 but have had anxiety as long as I can remember. About 2 months ago I started to develop insomnia, not sleeping the full night or having poor sleep. I did some googling and came across something called sporadic Fatal Insomnia and now I think that I have it hence the symptoms match. How do I get rid of the fear of sFI and how do I get rid of this insomnia. The insomnia is not acute, I am not like other sufferers that went nights in a row without sleep but I wouldn't want it to end that way. I also have fears of being rejected from work if people find out I have anxiety. My life is pointless and I have accomplished nothing. Not married, part time job, no house, no car. But I have GAD, health anxiety, insomnia, fear of death, fear of dying young, social anxiety and fear of being killed by thugs. Why is my life so pointless?

Left multiple jobs and just at a loss

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Hi, First time posting here. I’m a 27m with two kids aged 2.5 and 9 months and my partner that I live with. I’ve struggled with social anxiety my whole life but could mainly deal with it up until recently. I worked a warehouse job for 5 years, where ... View more

Hi, First time posting here. I’m a 27m with two kids aged 2.5 and 9 months and my partner that I live with. I’ve struggled with social anxiety my whole life but could mainly deal with it up until recently. I worked a warehouse job for 5 years, where I went from standard pick/packer all the way up to warehouse manager. I enjoyed the work of being a manager and enjoy being extremely busy as it makes my day go faster. I also had friends there that had accumulated over the years. Fastforward to December last year and something changed. I didn’t enjoy going to work anymore and I was looking for another job, thinking a fresh start would allow me to enjoy it again. i was offered a position through my father at a warehouse where he works, but it ended up just not feeling right and I left the job halfway through the first day. After this I almost immediately got employed by another company. This was just another warehouse job but closer to home. I worked there for around 3 months and knew I should of enjoyed the work and people, but something inside me just wasn’t letting me enjoy it. I would hate coming into work, and hate being there for no apparent reason. i subsequently left that job. Since then I have applied for multiple other jobs and left within the first day. This week I was offered a job at the place I worked at for 3 months and should of enjoyed, but at another branch. I took the job and worked there for 3 days, and ended up leaving again. This time because every time I would complete all the work, there would be nothing else for me to do. I realise this is nowhere near a justifiable reason to leave a job, but the feelings that build up in my stomach and head just wouldn’t allow me to stay. Having a job to me is extremely important. My partner does not work and I have two children to support, and without a regular income, I will lose the house we live in also. I don’t know what to do, but I need to know that this will get better. In my foreseeable future, I am going to lose the house me and my family live in, and I feel like it can’t get better because I just keep repeating a cycle. Not sure what to do from here but thanks.

Athletics Carnival tmr

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As the title suggest... i have a school athletics carnival tommorrow.... Im super anxious, sweating, even crying just thinking about it. i really don't wanna go. and i wanna let my parents know about this. but i cant open up. i just cant. i have had ... View more

As the title suggest... i have a school athletics carnival tommorrow.... Im super anxious, sweating, even crying just thinking about it. i really don't wanna go. and i wanna let my parents know about this. but i cant open up. i just cant. i have had really really really bad social anxiety since the start of year 8 (im in yr 10 now), when i became isolated. before then i was super extroverted and had a positive outlook on life. IDK where i went wrong but people started avoiding me, and bullied me, etc. And look at me now: a wreck. I feel like a lost cause. friends are trying to save me but its no help. im on a sinking ship. and ill sink to the bottom of the ocean. until i drown. cool cool but yea, the carnival is tommorrow and im with no friends to be frank. well at least thats what my brother says lol. its gonna be awkward as frickkkkkkkkkkkk and ill be sitting by myself for like 7 hours with nothing to do but hey i did this to myself i guess. any tips to make it less awkward?

Depersonalization?

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i had this really weird thing that happened in class. i just started tripping balls for a solid minute, though i was completely aware of what was happening. i felt as if i was in a 2 dimensional space for a second, then flashed back to real life, but... View more

i had this really weird thing that happened in class. i just started tripping balls for a solid minute, though i was completely aware of what was happening. i felt as if i was in a 2 dimensional space for a second, then flashed back to real life, but i felt like i wasnt even in my body, and it felt so surreal and weird, like i shouldnt even be there. this happened a few times until i finally returned to normal. it was really confusing and scary. also ive had this happen before, once when i was like 9, again when i was 11 or something and its happened a lot in the past 3 years or so [im 15 now]. anyway, i was looking this up, to see if it was normal, and the only thing i can link it to is ''depersonalization disorder''. apparently it's linked to people who have anxiety, i have social anxiety. if anyone could offer insight as to what could have happened or could just help me understand that would be great. thanks, sam

Feeling overwhelmed by life - anxiety, parenting, grief,

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I'm a mum to two young boys, married, mid-30s and a student. I had a long career before kids but my oldest has special needs and I have not gone back to a paid job (yet!). I study because my brain is too active to be 'just a mum'. Motherhood has been... View more

I'm a mum to two young boys, married, mid-30s and a student. I had a long career before kids but my oldest has special needs and I have not gone back to a paid job (yet!). I study because my brain is too active to be 'just a mum'. Motherhood has been wonderful but difficult for me. I have basically no family support. Without going into my entire life story which would take years to write, I am really struggling at the moment with feeling overwhelmed by life. Whether it's paperwork for my boys' various medical conditions and developmental issues, or cleaning, cooking, housework etc. It's a lot to do and not enough time to do it. I'm a perfectionist unfortunately and so I obviously have this internal pressure to do it all, and do it now! It's exhausting. I'm self-aware enough to recognise this, but obviously, it's easy to say things but harder to do them. I see a psychologist but there is never enough time to talk about all the different issues in my life and work through things. There is not enough support for people financially who need it - I can't do anything beyond what Medicare (in Australia) gives me. Anyway, I'm hoping to just have another place to be able to talk through these feelings. I have posted in the relationships / family forum before about my marriage which is still in place but still rocky.

Anxiety or Something Else

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Hi All, I am 37 and have never had any real anxiety related issues till last December. I was had some pain on the lower left side of cesht and went into ED to get that checked. I was sent home with a diagnosis of Costocondoritis. 2 days later at work... View more

Hi All, I am 37 and have never had any real anxiety related issues till last December. I was had some pain on the lower left side of cesht and went into ED to get that checked. I was sent home with a diagnosis of Costocondoritis. 2 days later at work I fealt darkness in front of my eyes and went into a shock thinking I was having a heart attack. I was taken into emergency but was released later with no issue with heart diagnosis. I started seing my GP and after a numerous tests such as Echo, Stress and CT scans of heart was was cleared. But sine then I have been having these raising heart issues pretty much twice a week. I am taking some anxiety medicine now but not sure how to overcome this.

Anxiety is ruining my life

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I've been alone for ten years because I didn't think I could manage a relationship. Turned out I was right. My worries and insecurity tired my boyfriend out and we've split up. I'm finding it incredibly difficult to accept and move forward, perhaps b... View more

I've been alone for ten years because I didn't think I could manage a relationship. Turned out I was right. My worries and insecurity tired my boyfriend out and we've split up. I'm finding it incredibly difficult to accept and move forward, perhaps because I'm absolutely alone now. I don't have family or friends either as those relationships were equally difficult for me to manage with my anxiety. I feel like I can't seem to connect with anyone. I don't work either so my days are long and empty. I do have a psychologist that I see every six weeks, but I just feel like "is this it?" "is this my life?". Is there anyone else out there that is entirely alone?

I'm terrified to work

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I just started a new job and I haven't been sleeping every night before a shift. I become so anxious about working. Its fast paced working in food something I have some before and do have a good grip on. The only problem is whenever I get overworked,... View more

I just started a new job and I haven't been sleeping every night before a shift. I become so anxious about working. Its fast paced working in food something I have some before and do have a good grip on. The only problem is whenever I get overworked, my anxiety goes through the roof and I start to get paranoid. I think everybody in the store is talking about me (customers) and looking and staring and judging. I haven't told anyone about my anxiety yet because I'm still in the three month period and I don't want to get fired (I know it's ilegal to do so but still) I sit hours on end before my shift trying to think of ways to get out of it, to avoid going into work. And it sucks because I do love the work. I enjoy being focused and have structure and doing something. And on good days I can handle the fast paced environment. I'm trying so hard because I really do need this job. I'm just scared I'm going to stop going in like what normally happens because my anxiety gets too much. I'm not ready to see somebody about my anxiety right now because I have a hard time trusting doctors/pyschologists. I feel like a burden to everyone around me. If I stay at work I'll let people down by being slow. But if I stop working I let the people close to me down by not working. I've lost a lot of confidence as we from being out of work and let all the thoughts get the better of me. I don't know what to do.

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