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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Snoopy88 Anxious at work because of a fall out with work colleague
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Hi everyone. i wanted to know if anyone else has been in the same suituation and what did you do to try and overcome it. the story goes like this. I had a fall out with my work colleague. We were really good friends. Now she doesn’t want to talk to m... View more

Hi everyone. i wanted to know if anyone else has been in the same suituation and what did you do to try and overcome it. the story goes like this. I had a fall out with my work colleague. We were really good friends. Now she doesn’t want to talk to me. She blocked me on Facebook and on her phone. She doesn’t even look at me anymore. I dunno why she has done that as I tired to speak with her she said she doesn’t have an issue with me. But if I keeping asking her she said she doesn’t want to be my friend. I told her I’m scared to come to work. She said it’s not her problem that’s my problem and I shouldn’t try to get her in trouble as she works hard. I asked her can we atleast be normal at work. She said yes that’s what I am doing right now. Since that conversation occurred we haven’t spoken at all. And I had a really bad anxiety attack which started at 12:30PM I kept thinking about her couldn’t get her out of mind. Her name kept popping in my head and I would visual her face. It’s really distressing me. Even when I’m not at work I think about her. Wishing we could just be civil at work. It’s like I have an obsession about her and can’t seem to get her out of my mind. My partner picked me up from work because I was so anxious. I told him what I’m going through. He said try to think of a white wall and tell your mind shut up. When I tired doing that it got more intense. Her name would constantly repeat in my mind and I would see an image of her. I dunno what to do. Has anyone else been in the same suituation before and how did you deal with it. I’m really frightened of that girl. I wish it wouldn’t effect me soo much.

ProDude Keep thinking in fear about Death
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I'm 23 years old and for some reason it suddenly hit me that one day I am going to die. I've obviously always known the fact of life that everyone dies. My parents will die, my sister will die, my extended relatives will die, my friends will die, my ... View more

I'm 23 years old and for some reason it suddenly hit me that one day I am going to die. I've obviously always known the fact of life that everyone dies. My parents will die, my sister will die, my extended relatives will die, my friends will die, my cats will die. Despite knowing this, the terror I feel about dying doesn't go away. I've always accepted it as some abstract concept but I guess I never really thought about what that actually means to be dead. I dont fear the dying process itself, I fear being dead. I think about religion and beliefs of an afterlife and being a separate spiritual entity from my body, but I am skeptical. As far as I can tell, once you die you cease to exist. Your brain function ends, your heart stop and you return to the oblivion that existed from the beginning of time until birth. I keep telling myself im being crazy and that it's a good 60-70 years away and yet I still can't stop thinking about it. Anyone have any tips that might help me come to terms with death and return me to my state of merely acknowledging death as a thing that will inevitably happen one day?

Simba13 How can I stop overthinking all the time?
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I need some advice on how to just live in the moment and no over analyse and over think everything. I've been dating a guy for 6 months and things are great, he tells me he really likes me but says sometimes he's conflicted about me. Since he has sai... View more

I need some advice on how to just live in the moment and no over analyse and over think everything. I've been dating a guy for 6 months and things are great, he tells me he really likes me but says sometimes he's conflicted about me. Since he has said that I over think everything that he says and get really sad when he doesn't have time for me. He says he likes me best when I am just happy and carefree but lately I just worry so much that he's going to leave. I would just like to live in the moment and not over think everything because I know he likes and cares for me but I just worry. Any help would be appreciated.

Drifter_3 Constant overthinking and worrying
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Just a constant daily battle overthinking and worrying about things mainly at work . Drive for a living and I’m constantly worrying whether I’ve missed a speed sign or driven to close to someone with a dash cam and any other thing I can manufacture i... View more

Just a constant daily battle overthinking and worrying about things mainly at work . Drive for a living and I’m constantly worrying whether I’ve missed a speed sign or driven to close to someone with a dash cam and any other thing I can manufacture in my mind . The more I think about a situation I manage in my mind to twist it so it becomes more and more serious.Even the slightest little thing, I can manage to turn into impending disaster . So frustrating !!!

Jon_o New anxiety
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Hi I’ve just been found out I have moderate anxiety for the first time at my partners work gathering I froze chest was tight and had to leave I felt terrible and wasn’t sure what was happening I’m still confused to why it’s recentley started happenin... View more

Hi I’ve just been found out I have moderate anxiety for the first time at my partners work gathering I froze chest was tight and had to leave I felt terrible and wasn’t sure what was happening I’m still confused to why it’s recentley started happening ? Just seeing if anyone has any advice on tips on how to handle it thank you

kasaheht is this anxiety?
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I’m just going to jump straight into it. I don’t know what this feeling is but when I told my mum about it, she said it could be ‘severe’ anxiety or depression. I feel as though people on here would know a bit more and possibly tell me what to do nex... View more

I’m just going to jump straight into it. I don’t know what this feeling is but when I told my mum about it, she said it could be ‘severe’ anxiety or depression. I feel as though people on here would know a bit more and possibly tell me what to do next? My mum doesn’t seem to be bothered to help me, so I’ve taken it upon myself to help me. So, here I go. i feel as though I have a constant NEED to impress people. Like I have to put on a kind of mask every day that makes me feel validated. And sometimes I can’t help but take that mask off, and I hate myself for doing so. Little parts of a somewhat real me start to show, and it makes me bloody terrified. I can’t sleep at night just knowing that people can possibly see the lazy, selfish person I am. I wake up shaking up to 20 times a night, and I’ve started throwing up at school a lot. And at home as well, but not as much. I also have these weird episodes where I can’t breathe and my hands will just shake uncontrollably. I’ll start crying most of the time and I start screaming at myself. The 9 times that I’ve had this thing have always been while my mum isn’t home, fortunately. But I have told her about them. They also happen on a kinda monthly basis, so I’ll have one or two within each month. It’s been about 10 months since my first one which annoyingly happened at school. Im not sure if this is anxiety, but I hate self diagnosing myself and going to doctors telling them I definitely have it, so I may as well ask a few people to be sure and to better understand it. Please help. sincerely, scared anime girl.

Jess_Mc Mental purge
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Hi all, Have had a horrid weekend. My dog fell seriously ill and, though I had some savings aside, has cost me quite a bit to get her well again. I'm not griping (much) about the cost but there was a moment on the weekend when I spoke to the vet rece... View more

Hi all, Have had a horrid weekend. My dog fell seriously ill and, though I had some savings aside, has cost me quite a bit to get her well again. I'm not griping (much) about the cost but there was a moment on the weekend when I spoke to the vet receptionist and asked whether they accept payment plans or an alternative payment like Vetpay. Her response was, "No, sorry, we don't accept anything like that." I went ahead and applied for it anyway in the hopes that once the surgery was complete I could somehow convince them to let me pay off the vet bill that way. My priority was getting my dog well and I'd figure out the rest later. It was my birthday as well and my flat mate, well meaningly, had tried to arrange a stress free day of brunch and cake, but I struggled to get into and wanted to watch the netball and just keep to myself until I knew whether I needed to start mourning my 10 yr old rottie. She pulled through (has pulled out her staples and is currently back at the vet getting re-stitched) but when I was there today, the receptionist mentioned how good Vetpay was. I had spoken with the vet and advised him what the receptionist had said on the Saturday so he was aware in case someone else asked about Vetpay in the future. When I had spoken with him about it after the surgery, he'd happily accepted it and sorted the paperwork. The receptionist, however, just lied. I'm not sure if it was the Saturday or today, but she lied. Today she said it was wonderful and told me that I must have had my wires crossed because she touted Vetpay and its benefits to anyone who would listen, she said. Disoriented and confused, I said that I was sure she hadn't suggested it on the Saturday and left it at that. Given my anxiety is particularly bad at the moment, this tiny moment - this small, inconsequential thing which doesn't really mean anything to me personally - has wound me up the most. How dare she lie! To bring it up anymore than I have would be ridiculous. Either she made a mistake and is lying to cover herself, or she forgot, or whatever... it doesn't actually matter. Only it does .This one thing is the thing that my anxiety has latched on to and won't let go of. I can feel the familiar compulsive need to think about this and I'm trying to distract myself (here, for example). It's just so frustrating. There I was, worried I'd have to put her down because the bill was too high. And she didn't have the grace to apologise.

mike9 11 year old with acute anxiety
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Hi, my 11 year old daughter has developed acute anxiety. It has escalated last 10 days. She has not been to school for a week. Refuse to even see family and friends. Been to a psychologist without much success. Was expected the psych to introduce her... View more

Hi, my 11 year old daughter has developed acute anxiety. It has escalated last 10 days. She has not been to school for a week. Refuse to even see family and friends. Been to a psychologist without much success. Was expected the psych to introduce her to CBT but just talking instead. No real help. The main issue is that she is scared of telling people bad things. You are fat etc. Not bad thoughts but too her, they give her anxiety. Thinking about medication but would like to hear other peoples experience when it comes to young kids.

Lee24 in patient Units
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Hi I have been diagnosed with GAD, Social anxiety and depression. I also have a chronic illness. I am currently at a very low point. I am looking at inpatient units for myself and I have no idea where to start looking. I have google searched but have... View more

Hi I have been diagnosed with GAD, Social anxiety and depression. I also have a chronic illness. I am currently at a very low point. I am looking at inpatient units for myself and I have no idea where to start looking. I have google searched but have not found a great deal of detail. I am in semi rural Victoria so there is very limited public options and from what I have been told the system is very regional based and the public system only takes patients that are in the area. I am unsure as how much the costs are for private places and if these a good options. I was after any advice as to which private or public in patient units are around and helpful for someone in my position. Thanks in advance. Leanne

LDOH My stomach
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Hi all, I’m 29 years old and I’ve been suffering with health anxiety for most of my life.. I have been struggling with cancer as my core trigger.. I have had such a stressful year so far with my business a wedding to organise, as a result my partner ... View more

Hi all, I’m 29 years old and I’ve been suffering with health anxiety for most of my life.. I have been struggling with cancer as my core trigger.. I have had such a stressful year so far with my business a wedding to organise, as a result my partner and I had to move back into my in-laws to save money.. I consistently feel trapped, unhappy and like my whole life has been turned upside down.. I can relax and now my hypochondria is playing up I’ve had 3 different types of cancers in the last 4 weeks brain cancer, mouth cancer and now back to my old favourite, stomach/bowel cancer. Anyone who can talk to me would be great.. I do see a psychologist and I am on medication I just have a lot built up