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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Phil99 Anxiety and sleep is destroying me
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Hi all , I’m new here . ive had anxiety for a while Now but usually keep it under control with a few bad days here and there. My main problem usually is sleeping, especially when I have to get up early. My job is mainly afternoon work so this usually... View more

Hi all , I’m new here . ive had anxiety for a while Now but usually keep it under control with a few bad days here and there. My main problem usually is sleeping, especially when I have to get up early. My job is mainly afternoon work so this usually Isn’t a problem. Recently I got a promotion that required me to do early morning work and my anxiety blew up to the point I pulled out of the promotion because I wasn’t sleeping. i went back to my afternoon work and everything was going ok until I was involved in a traumatic incident. im now not sleeping anytime, the anxiety around sleep is killing me . I’m laying awake all night worrying about my job and the fact I’m not sleeping at all. I’ve been off work for over a week and the dr said I need more time off. I’ve got butterflies in my stomach all day . im getting professional help but just needed to post somewhere and talk. I feel like there is no way out here and it’s never going to end .

yvngxblud Anxiety - I’m not so good at writing, so here’s the best I could do. ✍🏻
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Hi, so this is my first time posting and I see it’s about anxiety so I want to tell you how it feels for me to me. My anxiety makes me feel like I’m trapped inside my mind, I wanna say things but yet can’t, I just want to be free. I cannot see my fri... View more

Hi, so this is my first time posting and I see it’s about anxiety so I want to tell you how it feels for me to me. My anxiety makes me feel like I’m trapped inside my mind, I wanna say things but yet can’t, I just want to be free. I cannot see my friends, which causes everyone to get up and leaves I cannot drive to the small shops down the road nor walk up a main road of a smaller town to an ATM just to get money out. And whenever I go to reach my handout... all that I’m left with is a mindful of self-doubt. Don't get me wrong I have other conditions, but anxiety is that one that I cannot learn to deal with. It’s subconscious, it’s never ending in my head, even when I know that I am safe, no matter what place. I’ve shed tears sitting in a car surrounded by pretty sparking trees covered in amazing glowing lights. I cried because I wanted to be normal, I wanted win, I’m sick of having these fights with my anxiety, but I never win. I wanted to get out and look at these beautiful things but I couldn’t, it was crowded and I felt so left out within. I wish I could explain my anxiety to people who either can cope fine, or do not have it. as it’s not something I can shake, I am not weak, I am quite thick-skinned but anxiety is a disorder unlike my mother would tell me, alongside my other disorders. But I look at her constantly with tears in my eyes, see she knows her and my father brought out one of my other disorders but all that they expect me to do is take their orders. Not realising they’ve ruined their child, not taking the time to educate themselves. Not only is it ME that suffers from this, but also Borderline Personality. I need help to cope, but it’s nowhere I can find. - Anxiety is not pretty nor is it fun, I cannot take phone calls, I cannot work jobs around lots of people. I can’t do normal things. If anyone has been in this situation, I feel for you; as I’m still unsure what I can do.

Jadeliza Anxiety ruining relationship
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Hi everyone, this is my first post and I’m very nervous sharing this but wanted to give it ago. Since 2016, I had been with my partner who I love very much. We were only young when we got together I was 19 and he was 20. The beginning of our relation... View more

Hi everyone, this is my first post and I’m very nervous sharing this but wanted to give it ago. Since 2016, I had been with my partner who I love very much. We were only young when we got together I was 19 and he was 20. The beginning of our relationship was fun and great but then stressful times started arising as I felt like the weight was always on my shoulders to support him! He broke up with me just over a year into our relationship because another opportunity had arise and we got back together a week later. Since then I’ve always felt like I haven’t been good enough and there’s always someone he’s talking to better than me which causes me believe but I’m not good enough! Then at the start of this year he was acting very distant! He said goodnight but from the bottom of my heart I could tell something was up. I tried calling multiple times texting and he was ignoring my calls and messages everything and he wasn’t home. To this day he still says he was ‘just thinking about us driving around’ at 11.30pm for two hours. I then had no trust in him and was so scared of being hurt I ended it and regretted it the next day but he didn’t fight for us, he just walked away. I was so upset and angry at myself and believe that what he says is true, that I argue too much and I’m never happy with anything A few months ago he said he wants to work things out and fight for what he wants (me apparently). This whole time I’ve been very hesitant I had my walls up because I didn’t want to go through it all again and be hurt and have someone walk away for the third time. This year I have achieved so much independently like moving out of home and buying my own brand-new house but still feel like I’m not worth anything and will never be good enough. We had an argument just over a week ago because I felt like he had stopped putting in effort which caused my anxiety to kick in and run for saftey - i had gotten back to my old self of not trusting him, starting arguements, picking at little things etc. And again he walked away and said he doesnt want to keep going round in circles and its not going to work. - I asked him to come over because i needed to show him something (my script) as he made a comment about my anxiety being ‘self diagnosed’. I probably should have told him when we started talking again but i didnt want to be a burden or for him to think less of me - Now he feels responsible for everything, doesnt want to be with me but feels bad leaving me

Tasguy Left shoulder pain anxiety
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Hi had shoulder pain for almost 3 weeks and because it's in my left shoulder and left forearm I worry it's heart related. I more my shoulder and it doesn't hurt so I don't know where the pain comes from I'm worried it's referred pain. I did go to hos... View more

Hi had shoulder pain for almost 3 weeks and because it's in my left shoulder and left forearm I worry it's heart related. I more my shoulder and it doesn't hurt so I don't know where the pain comes from I'm worried it's referred pain. I did go to hospital two days after it started they did ecg and blood test and believe it's musclure but I can't stop worrying about it

SwansandSharksMan Ignoring orders when growing up.
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When you were growing up, what would happen to you if you didn’t do as you were told, or just totally ignored your parent’s orders? Did your parents punish you severely? I just remember being extremely frightened of disobeying my parents so I always ... View more

When you were growing up, what would happen to you if you didn’t do as you were told, or just totally ignored your parent’s orders? Did your parents punish you severely? I just remember being extremely frightened of disobeying my parents so I always did as I was told and didn’t want make them angry.

Ted28 Anxious Feelings. Looking for advice
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Hey everyone, I have never reached out before as I have always felt I could handle it on my own. However lately I have been struggling to deal with the anxiousness. Long story short. I am a female in a same sex relationship, around a year ago I was c... View more

Hey everyone, I have never reached out before as I have always felt I could handle it on my own. However lately I have been struggling to deal with the anxiousness. Long story short. I am a female in a same sex relationship, around a year ago I was cheated on. Ever since then, at random times I will get flashbacks of the moment going through my mind and I will get really upset or down. I feel like I can’t control when this happens but it could be at anytime, I start to doubt everything and then think did I make the right choice by trying to keep on with the relationship. My partner has recently become more busier with work and is staying out really late or spending all weekends. 12-14 hours a day not home, I will be at home trying to keep busy (doing the housework, walking the dog, watching sport) trying to do what I like to keep busy. But with doing all of that, I still lay in bed and feel concerned. I start biting my nails, get a huge headache and the biggest one of all is the stomach cramps and churning of the stomach (grumbling). On a normal day I will be knackered and fall asleep 10:30pm ish, but on nights where I am on my own I am up until all hours of the morning just constantly stressed and mind running. The last time this happened I woke up to a completely different story. I think this is why I’m too stressed to fall asleep on my own. I’m not sure if this is common or if I am just overthinking it, but I’m starting to realise that it may be worth talking to someone or seeing a GP to sort out a mental health plan. I just don’t want to sound stupid or feel like my situation isn’t worth it. I appreciate the time and effort you take to read this, and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Ta, x

Kip84 Do I have Anxiety or am I depressed or is it both.
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Hi, I'm new to this and not sure where I even start, I have never spoke openly about my struggles and just stay in my own head,. It's like I am wearing a daily facade. I'm a man in my 30s and feel like I'm not where I should be. Lately I've been gett... View more

Hi, I'm new to this and not sure where I even start, I have never spoke openly about my struggles and just stay in my own head,. It's like I am wearing a daily facade. I'm a man in my 30s and feel like I'm not where I should be. Lately I've been getting headaches in the back of my head like a pressing feeling. I get headaches but nothing like this, when I'm feeling over whelmed my heart rates kicks up and I get tight feeling in my chest. Is this a panic attack? I'm not even sure where I start, I've done mental health course for my work and find myself trying to treat my self in my mind. I have solutions, but I have barriers. I feel stuck in my position where I am for a certian time frame. How do I start this journey, I don't feel my doctor would be private as at times I feel controlled. I feel I'm being criptic. But I feel this is a start. I'm struggling and don't know where to from here. I need guidance. I'm not ready for professionals yet

Hunter968 Will seeing a therapist affect future job oportunities?
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Hi everyone, I was hoping to get some advice on whether or not having it on your health record that you've seen a psychologist/psychiatrist would affect future job opportunities? A lot of companies these days have you sit a full medical exam before o... View more

Hi everyone, I was hoping to get some advice on whether or not having it on your health record that you've seen a psychologist/psychiatrist would affect future job opportunities? A lot of companies these days have you sit a full medical exam before offering employment, and this often asks about mental health history. My partner is struggling with anxiety and depression, but is hesitant to seek professional help, as she doesn't want it to affect her chances for future employment opportunities. I would be very grateful if anyone has any information or advice.

unigirl1994 Overwhelmed at new job!
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I have been working the last 2 years as a medical receptionist for a small business. Recently I decided that I couldn't survive any longer on part time pay and took a new job in the exact same field, just a different company. To say this has put my o... View more

I have been working the last 2 years as a medical receptionist for a small business. Recently I decided that I couldn't survive any longer on part time pay and took a new job in the exact same field, just a different company. To say this has put my old job in perspective is an understatement. My old boss started their business with no prior knowledge of the industry. It is clear that policies and procedures that should legally be put in place, have not been at my old job. Therefore at this new job I am feeling very overwhelmed. They are expecting me to know a lot of these policies and procedures for privacy and billing etc that I've never had to use before, as clearly my old work was doing some things a bit off-book. Also this new company does so many more extra steps and I'm feeling like I'll never remember all this info. I'm slightly regretting the move even though its only my first week and I'm going to be better off money-wise. I know it will feel uncomfortable for a while as I don't really fit in and don't know the work but I'm wondering how long its going to take. I have given myself a coldsore from the stress, and when I get home from work, I can't stop going over what mistakes I may have made that day no matter how minimal it is. All the staff have been lovely and helpful but I just feel so out of sorts and so uncomfortable not knowing my role! My family keep telling me to stop overthinking because I obviously got the job for a reason, and I'm not expected to know everything straight away, but I put a lot of pressure on myself.

Guest_245 Make Up Issue
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I reckon i am better off just wearing no make up at all since it probably looks weird on my pale, ghostly face anyway and no guy seems to be asking me out anyway

I reckon i am better off just wearing no make up at all since it probably looks weird on my pale, ghostly face anyway and no guy seems to be asking me out anyway