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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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jessm1 Dealing with Anxiety
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I should be so happy I have happy and healthy children that I love and they love me, I have a husband that I love and he loves me and looks after me. I have a a family that loves me, our new family home and animals that love me... why do I still feel... View more

I should be so happy I have happy and healthy children that I love and they love me, I have a husband that I love and he loves me and looks after me. I have a a family that loves me, our new family home and animals that love me... why do I still feel so empty and like I'm failing at life? We moved from Sydney to Queensland 1.5 years ago leaving our family and friends behind. It was so hard to start off with but got through it. Now The past year had been hard with the covid and packing and moving all by myself and my disease Lupus and Fibo doing it all alone i have been running on adrenalin and now my head and body just can't take it any more and I feel like an emotional mess. I know it was our decision to move up here to make a better life for the kids and a slower paced life for us with the bigger house and no debt other then our home loan. And that we have done with pride and the kids love it up here. But the empty spot in my heart is my parents not being near. I know it was our decision to move our your life is in Sydney, but I wish so much they could make part of there life up here with us aswell! I feel there missing out on so much of ours and the kids life's. All there school stuff milestones etc and life is just passing so fast. I want to look after tyem both when your old and dribbly, with appointments etc. I want to be able to get in the car and drive over whenever I feel like it. My only ever regret is leaving you them and not being able to get in the car and see them whenever. When I see other families my heart breaks so much which I try and hide and brush off for the sake of my kids, but I know when they see grandparents etc at school events there hearts break aswell. I am a mess with it all at the moment and I am really not coping with it at the moment, constantly crying and a feeling of emptiness. Any ideas on how to deal with this? Thank you.

Guest09876 Work harassment and anxiety
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I have anxiety and mild depression and I am a diligent employee that tries to stay out of drama, however I work in a toxic work environment with issues stemming from my direct manager to other colleagues, but this is the "norm" here and management do... View more

I have anxiety and mild depression and I am a diligent employee that tries to stay out of drama, however I work in a toxic work environment with issues stemming from my direct manager to other colleagues, but this is the "norm" here and management doesn't care. Besides this, this job is very fitting to my circumstances so it is a shame that I will have to find a new job and quit soon because of troublesome people as it is triggering my depression immensely. Anyway, on top of this an older colleague I don't work with has taken a liking towards me and keeps doing uncomfortable actions towards me singularly for months including sending messages to me (not work related) which I have been ignoring but he does not get the point. I thought since it did not affect my work (just my wellbeing) and to avoid awkwardness, I did not do anything about it as it wasn't sexual or physical harassment. However, I couldn't take it anymore and finally confronted him politely when he messaged again via a reply. I could have done it face to face but given he constantly messages it seems appropriate to do it via messaging too and I would have had a giant panic attack if I had to confront face to face- which I already have been having immense anxiety issues after sending that message. I did not get a reply yet and my mental health is suffering from this whole situation. I don't understand why problems keep finding me when I really just want to work in peace. I will obviously act as if nothing is wrong if I see them but I hate this feeling and can't stop thinking about it.

Pyrolee Behind on work
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Hi, I'm new to beyond blue. I've moved careers from the science industry to Plumbing. In the science industry I worked with great people but the work was more like factory work and didn't really learn or progress as a career. I changed careers to plu... View more

Hi, I'm new to beyond blue. I've moved careers from the science industry to Plumbing. In the science industry I worked with great people but the work was more like factory work and didn't really learn or progress as a career. I changed careers to plumbing as I found I was good hands on and liked the idea of using tools. I worked for a company for 3 years 4 months during my apprenticeship, lots of politics but the pay was good for me and got incentives which made things easier for me, have left that company as the training was very bad and they did very little to no plumbing. I've joined a new place and they've said I'm still a beginner after working with them for two weeks and said for me to be a proper plumber that I'd have to start from scratch which means dedicate another 3 years of my life. I'm finding it extremely difficult because I'm not smart, I can't read books, retain and understand information, I'm very slow in terms of learning even the very basics and I've found plumbing is alot of reading and understanding regulations and comprehending which I'm not good at at all. My new place is having second thoughts about having me work for them. I feel like I've failed and wasted all these years and don't know how to pick myself up and where to go from here. I feel like I took a chance to better my life and it just all crumbled. What should I do from here?

Nyiknyik Anxiety and "compulsive" talking to self
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Hi everyone, I’ve been dealing with anxiety for a while, but over the last 12 months, I’ve developed a habit of talking loudly to myself to chase away negative intrusive thoughts. And when I say loudly, I mean really loudly (to drown out the noise of... View more

Hi everyone, I’ve been dealing with anxiety for a while, but over the last 12 months, I’ve developed a habit of talking loudly to myself to chase away negative intrusive thoughts. And when I say loudly, I mean really loudly (to drown out the noise of the thoughts, I think).... it's embarrassing. I get negative intrusive thoughts every day, and when the thoughts come, I get an overwhelming and almost uncontrollable urge to say something out loud or make noises to try and chase away or dull the thought in my head. This happens at anytime, like when I at home alone and sometimes mid-conversation with someone. I am usually aware of it happening, but sometimes I am not, and I don’t realise I’m making noises or speaking loudly to myself; my partner and mum have pointed it out to me when they’ve witnessed it. Because of these times of random unawareness that happens (pointed out to me by mum and partner), I’ve become even more worried about having outbursts in public, like on public transport or, God forbid, at work. I don’t want to embarrass myself by randomly shouting at my intrusive thoughts, so the pressure to “keep quiet” (and anxiety) consumes me most days at work, and is affecting my performance really badly. This outburst habit and the associated anxiety has been getting increasingly worse, and I’m finding it harder and harder to cope with being anxious all the time. I work an extremely physical job as well, the physical exhaustion coupled with mental exhaustion is hellish and taking me into a dark place. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? If so, did it go away? How did you get on top of it? Does anyone have any tips? I’d appreciate any help at this stage. Thank you, and I hope my post makes sense.

FuturePersonality Asbestos Anxiety
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Hello all, This is my first time I have ever discussed mental health online, so please bear with me. For the last couple of years, I have had some asthmatic-like symptoms when exercising, which I had never had previously and aren’t in the family. I h... View more

Hello all, This is my first time I have ever discussed mental health online, so please bear with me. For the last couple of years, I have had some asthmatic-like symptoms when exercising, which I had never had previously and aren’t in the family. I have previously disregarded this, but am going for a medical checkup this week (for an unrelated matter, but may also bring it up). My big concern regards our bathroom. In 2017, part of the floor collapsed due to rotten wood underneath the floorboards (as a result of bad plumbing) and a makeshift repair was made. However, this involved removing some tiles and cutting through the layer of material underneath, which remains exposed today. Parts of this have no tiles on top and have begun to break apart due to being walked on. Due to our house being older, and the fact that asbestos was commonly used in bathrooms, I fear that perhaps this is asbestos and that, unknowingly, we have been exposed to it for the last few years. I have voiced my concerns to my mum, but she doesn’t seem at all fazed, instead worried about the costs of having it tested and then removed, if it is asbestos. I can’t afford to have it done myself, since I am in late high school, but am seriously considering picking up more work to be able to do so. My brother also doesn’t seem to care at all; are my fears really that misplaced? How can everyone be so apathetic otherwise? Please help me figure out what to do, if anything. I cannot simply accept the risk of harming my health, and that of my family, due to something preventable, but perhaps there is a better course of action. Thank you.

littlepenguin Changing jobs but completely paralysed by anxiety
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Hi there I have GAD and usually can manage it pretty well apart from racing heart insomnia and co aren't worrying thoughts but day to day I'm ok. I'm a vet nurse and at my clinic all my team have quit over the last couple of weeks it has been quite a... View more

Hi there I have GAD and usually can manage it pretty well apart from racing heart insomnia and co aren't worrying thoughts but day to day I'm ok. I'm a vet nurse and at my clinic all my team have quit over the last couple of weeks it has been quite a shock, I have applied for a new nursing role and I got it it's at a specialist clinic so the role is a much bigger one than I have done before and I will be on the surgery tram. I have huge imposter syndrome going on and I am in complete panic mode part of me feels like I should just stay in my sage job where I know the role and can walk to work although we will be getting a whole new team as most staff have left so who knows what that will be like. I am filled with so much anxiety of starting at this new clinic I have even told them I have anxiety and they have said give it a month and see how you go. I am worried I will start there a d regret leaving my safe comfortable job.... but maybe I should push myself..... I just know where my limits are ..... Maybe safety is best for me. I'm scared of making the wrong decision ....... I can't even think about what's it going to be like on day one of the new job .... it just feels me with dread not excitement....

Winterz Ill
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Hi all, I'm really anxious because I have been having some serious health issues. I have these attacks where I gag and I feel like I can't breathe and I can't speak when I'm having the attacks. It's really scary. When I went to the Doctor's and I was... View more

Hi all, I'm really anxious because I have been having some serious health issues. I have these attacks where I gag and I feel like I can't breathe and I can't speak when I'm having the attacks. It's really scary. When I went to the Doctor's and I was having an attack, she got really annoyed and said 'oh Jesus Christ. Get your partner's and then she snapped at me to stop making noises. Noises I couldn't help making. I ended up leaving her office mid attack because she made me feel so uncomfortable and yeah she just let me go, even though I was having an attack. Apart from that I get the shakes really bad and it's so intense and painful. Now I've just found out I have an abnormal pap pap smear, so basically a cancer scare, just in time for Christmas.

Looking_within Intrusive thoughts about Trump
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My family got together for the first time in months and somehow the discussion led to the US Elections. I was horrified to hear that both my parents and brother and sister in law like Trump. It might not seem like a big deal but I really don’t like T... View more

My family got together for the first time in months and somehow the discussion led to the US Elections. I was horrified to hear that both my parents and brother and sister in law like Trump. It might not seem like a big deal but I really don’t like Trump. He is a trigger for me as it brings up a past cult like traumatic event that led to my breakdown. I have spent countless hours discussing this with my psych and how there are a lot of common personality & behavioural characteristics between Trump and the cult leader - the narcissism, bullying, labelling anyone who disagrees with him as crazy or fake, etc. The thing that has me up at midnight is that I didn’t realise that people so close to me, who I thought I knew well, could buy into Trump’s lies. I don’t have a problem with the Republican Party. It is the people who are blindly supporting Trump that bother me so much. To hear my brother talking about how it is terrible about all of the “illegal votes” that got counted and how mail in ballots are illegal and that Biden is completely incompetent because of his age stuns me. Well, that didn’t stun me so much as when I asked what evidence there was to any of these things and the reply I got was that there is no way the most popular president could lose to Biden and lots of other statements made by Trump and his supporters all without any credible evidence. I feel like whatever happened to critical thinking?? It scares me that so many people (like my family) take Trump’s word over evidence and logic, claiming that he is the most powerful man in the world so he wouldn’t lie about these things. Maybe I am just being too sensitive? The hard part is that my family see it as me who has been fooled by the media into developing a skewed opinion of Trump. I just don’t understand I wonder whatever happened to the days when it used to be a case of ‘agree to disagree’ about politics? How has it become that one group of people believe that anyone who doesn’t agree with them are crazy left wing radicals? Watching the post election news and hearing reporters talk to people who voted for Trump actually made me feel a bit optimistic when several of the people made comments that they don’t like Trump but align with the Republican Party and I remember one lady said she thinks that Trump is “morally reprehensible” yet feels his party’s policies are best for the country. That I can understand and I don’t have a problem with. I am just getting so stuck on the idea that a person in such a position of power has a cult like following. Why don’t people do their own research and come to their conclusions? Why do they take this narcissist’s word as gospel? I just keep imagining all crazy scenarios in my head and replaying what happened to me years ago wondering if somehow I was wrong and the cult behaviour was right. I am so glad I don’t live in the US. The division among people scares me. I feel as though so many people have been brainwashed into a cult type of following and what is to stop something like that happening to me again.

AntoniaM Asbestos anxiety
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Hi everyone. I'm new to these forums. After an asbestos scare that turned out to be OK a while ago, I think I have developed quite bad asbestos anxiety. I've always been a bit of a worrier in general but nothing like now and I have have never suffere... View more

Hi everyone. I'm new to these forums. After an asbestos scare that turned out to be OK a while ago, I think I have developed quite bad asbestos anxiety. I've always been a bit of a worrier in general but nothing like now and I have have never suffered from it before, unlike now. My current worry is this: last weekend my family and I went to a birthday party in a community hall. Many of the children who were there were playing on the floor and many adults including myself joined them, sitting on the floor. As we were leaving I noticed a pile of white powdery stuff under one of the doors right next to where we were sitting on the floor. The door was old and looked like it could be a fire door and I know that these often contain asbestos cores and if damaged asbestos fibres can be released. I tried not to think about it and tried to suppress any asbestos fears, but now, a few days later I'm just overtaken with worry. Plus I feel silly and ridiculous for worrying as clearly no one else at the party noticed or worried about it, so it's like I'm first of all worrying about the potential asbestos but also worry about feeling so silly. I worry that, if this was asbestos, as we sat on the floor right next to that pile, we would have got asbestos fibres on our clothes. Then we sat in the car, so it might now be on our car seats, our clothes and so on. I'm trying to think rationally but my I'm just getting overcome with fear and worry. It feels paralysing. My husband thinks I'm silly and paranoid and that there's nothing to worry about. He's the type of person who very rarely or never worries about anything. I so wish I was more like that at this moment. I've even emailed the community hall to ask if the door contains asbestos and if there's a risk it could be damaged but I haven't heard back from them. I just feel so silly and worried at the same time. I've got an appointment with my GP so will bring this anxiety up with him. Thanks to anyone who has read my long and probably silly post. Has anyone else had asbestos anxiety and would you have any tips on how to deal with this all? Thank you.

Andre_P Really over it
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Hey everyone. Really doing it hard ay. Was on medication to sleep and it made my ocd worse in the day. Tried to get off and my insomnia is worse than ever. arrg honestly I’m tired but I can’t sleep. I put on a good front but I’m seriously over fighti... View more

Hey everyone. Really doing it hard ay. Was on medication to sleep and it made my ocd worse in the day. Tried to get off and my insomnia is worse than ever. arrg honestly I’m tired but I can’t sleep. I put on a good front but I’m seriously over fighting all the time. I’m strong but I’m getting tired to be honest. this all started from been woken up by bloody dogs in QLD. Now I have a reasonably quiet place but I am now unable to sleep. Typical lack of sleep led to mental illness and a phobia and this is leading to further lack of sleep. honestly ay