Baby blues

[Willo123]

I’m a new time mum with a week old baby boy, iv suffered with anxiety since I was young.
im 22 and now suffering with baby blues. I have the most supportive partner and family around me but I have days where I will just cry for reasons that are months down the track or will just get a sick sinking feeling in my stomach.
just wanting to talk to people who may have been through this and Hear their story that my help me see the light at the end of the tunnel.

[Hanna3]

Hi Willo,

Welcome to BB.

It's pretty common for any new Mum to feel weepy, depressed and overwhelmed - you have just been through a huge change in your life - you're coping with a new baby - and your hormones are all over the place. So it's no wonder you aren't feeling too great!

I would recommend you go to your obstetrician, nurse or GP and tell them about how you are feeling - some women find these feelings become too much to cope with, so do you have a midwife or family doctor you could talk to?

I hope other people will come and help you, I wanted to say hello and other people will come by and offer support, also you can look around BB and get orientated, there are lots of different threads where people chat.

The main thing is to know lots of women feel like you after having a bub, you are going through so much change and stress and a major life event and you are also coping with all the work and responsibility of caring for your babe as well as broken nights, feeding, gosh it's so much!

But do go to a midwife or doctor as it's important to get help, these things can also be caused by hormonal changes and you need to get checked for this so they can help you to feel much better.

I'm sure others will come on to give you friendship and support... sending you warmest wishes and welcome again.. be gentle on yourself and don't expect too much of yourself at this stage, you are coping with so much change now! You will be OK...

[White_Rose]

Dear Willo

Hello and welcome to the forum. I'm so pleased you have posted in here. Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy. It's great to finally say hello to him in person and so very disappointing when you feel upset.

Baby blues are very hard to handle. It is a form of depression and many of us have felt that way. I have four children and did not have any problems with the first three but oh boy was I a mess with the fourth. There seems to be no rhyme or reason why we have these feelings after the birth of our babies.

Have you been to your doctor for a checkup? It's important that you do this in case there is anything physically wrong. Please make an appointment and tell the doctor how you feel. He/she will be able to help you.

Sadly it's very common for new moms to feel overwhelmed when baby arrives. We look forward to the birth and want to cuddle baby and care for him but feel so inadequate or lost. No one likes to hear a baby cry and I gather you get upset when you are unsure what to do. This is normal because we so little experience, especially the first time.

Do you have family nearby? If you do can you talk to a family member about your feelings? What about friends, especially those who have their own babies. It can be so reassuring to talk to other moms about caring for your precious baby.

It sounds as though you may be having some panic attacks with the sick feeling. Did you have panic attacks before? Growing up managing anxiety is quite hard and to have the care of your little one as well makes life seem very difficult. Please have a chat to your GP about these feelings. Can you explain to your partner how you feel? Ask for support. I know you feel you already have support but it may be worthwhile to explain what sort of support you need.

Please continue to post in here as much as you wish.

Mar y