arguements with anxiety

[Kitmadixy]

Hi,

I have social anxiety disorder, when someone raises their tone at me/ says something judgemental or I voice my opinion and they argue back or blame me I find it incapable to speak and I get built up anxiety from their words and start crying. I can never stop it from happening since I was little I just feel so overwhelmed when someone is frustrated at me. Then I cry a lot and I can’t speak anymore and when I do it’s just mumbling. It feels like no one else has this problem and I get called really sensitive for it. My best friend says he has to be careful what to say around me because he says he can’t say anything without me getting upset or hurt and that I’m sensitive. It is really hurtful for people to call me sensitive because I don’t choose the way I feel. I just want to know if anyone can relate to this or if this is normal with social anxiety, or any advice would be helpful.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I read recently that around 20% of all people have a condition called USP- ultra sensitive people. You can Google it.

I'm familiar with the "going into one's shell" problem. Over my 64 years it has always bothered me. I describe it like a brain switch, a chemical reaction that is akin to wanting to run and hide. I used to wonder why it happened. Then I was diagnosed 10 years a big with bipolar, dysthymia and depression. Anxiety I eliminated many years ago but it's beginning to return a little.

I suggest seeking a diagnosis. Dysthymia for example is easily treated and all but ceases the crying...if that's what you have but a professional needs to be consulted.

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[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Kitmadixy,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for joining us. Empath, HSP and very sensitive person here -also with anxiety 🙂

I grumble now whenever I hear comments like 'I can't say anything now' or 'you are too sensitive' because it implies that there's something wrong with you and the way that you feel - and nothing is wrong with you. I am a very sensitive person and I always have been, but I don't see it as a bad thing now, because it isn't something that has to be 'fixed' or 'dealt with'. The HSP theory that TonyWK mentioned (Highly not ultra Tony so close!) is a concept that embraces our own sensitivity as a strength and helps to see what's good about being unique in this way.

I wonder if maybe the anxiety is impacting your self-esteem though- so that if there's anything that you can try and work on or manage, it's your ability to speak up or set some boundaries. It's super hard to do so, but I think part of it is knowing that there's nothing at all that's wrong or bad about the way you feel.

rt

[white knight]

Thankyou RT for that correction.

I've embraced my HSP in that it's part of my makeup, as depression is. That highly emotional trait allows me to write my poetry some of which is melancholy.

Sensitive people are usually considerate as we can project ourselves to how others feel.

TonyWK